Do some feminists think they can shame men into finding older women attractive?
I don't think anyone is trying to shame men into liking older women...but I think there are many who acknowledge that men who consistently try to date women considerably younger than themselves ought to be ashamed of themselves. I hate to be close-minded, but that's just gross. Some old guy is just being pathetic if he continually ignores women in his own age group in favor of younger women. If he doesn't find women his own age attractive, he needs to remember that HE'S OLD TOO!! Old men aren't exactly all that appealing either. Also, young women who date old men should be recognized for what they (all too often) are...money hungry. They're looking for some old dude to spend his money on them. Basically, everyone should stick to approximately their own age group. EDIT: @celtish: A cougar is an older woman who often dates younger men. @Gnu: To be honest, the main people that I have a problem with are the older men who immediately write off women of their own age group as being "ghastly"...if those women are ghastly, so are you, buddy! If two people from very different age groups connect with one another on a level besides the physical, and it's safe to assume those two individuals would still date even if they were close together in age, then I suppose I have no problem with that. It just really bothers me that old women are shoved off to the side in the realm of dating and sexuality. Old women are sexual beings just as much as old men are, and they ought to find satisfaction in one another, instead of the old men going after the young pretties and leaving the older women out in the cold. EDIT: @Lioness: I'm 21, so I have absolutely no problem with men of my own age group dating younger than me. That would be statutory rape. All the same, I can recognize that there is a hypocrisy in old men flatly refusing to date women their own age. If you will read all of what I have wrote (more specifically, my "@Gnu" section) you will see that *to some extent* I agree with you.
Can somebody find me some anti-feminist quotes from Their Eyes Were Watching God?
[Tony Taylor when Joe is made mayor]: "And now we’ll ... listen tuh uh few words uh encouragement from Mrs. Mayor Starks." The burst of applause was cut short by Joe taking the floor himself. "Thank yuh fuh yo’ compliments, but nah wife don’t know nothin’ ‘bout no speech-makin’. Ah never married her for nothin’ lak dat. She’suh woman and her place is in de home." (5.107-109) From Shmoop
Do feminist women have a hard time dating men?
No more than anyone else. Finding someone you are attracted to that complements you can be difficult no matter who you are.I imagine that finding a feminist partner may be less difficult for women who date women, but I could be wrong about that; there are fewer LGBTQIA+ folks in general, so their dating pool is smaller. Women dating men have a larger dating pool and straight privilege, but they are more likely to run into misogynists.I can only speak for myself. I had a hard time dating, but my feminism had nothing to do with it. I was shy around guys that I found attractive. I was also completely oblivious when someone was attracted to me; they’d be flirting, and it just wouldn’t register.I think that, rather than be a problem, my feminism gave me an edge. It was feminism that gave me independence. As much as I wanted a boyfriend, being single was not the end of the world, so I was choosier about who I dated. I was less desperate and more likely to seek out men to whom I was attracted, who were attracted to me, and didn’t play games or put me down. Because of feminism, I knew I was looking for an equal. Yes, it hurt to be rejected (doesn’t it always?), and there are a lot of men out there who probably wouldn’t date me. At the same time, if they want a woman who is subservient, has no opinions, and constantly strokes their ego, they are better off looking somewhere else. And I am better off if they look elsewhere as well. My feminist beliefs also mean that I won’t date someone who thinks women suck, which isn’t common, but sadly more common than you’d think.If I were still single, I’d still have a life. I’d make it work. As my amazing luck would have it, though, I’m married. Again, because of my feminism, I didn’t settle. I held out for someone who is kind, honest, smart, and shares my values. He’s a feminist too, so he sees me as a person, not a thing. I am humbled and grateful that I found him.