How Can A Man Make Sure He Isn

My boyfriend said that after 5 years of dating, he isn't sure about us. Should I walk away?

Oh freaking yes, you should leave the relationship. If he is not sure after 5 years, he will never be sure. Do not waste your time. You already have your answer. After 7 years of dating , my boyfriend who I dearly loved told me at a restaurant over dinner, “how do I know you're the one? What if something better comes around the corner?” I kid you not, quote, unquote verbatim. I was positively crushed, but I let it slide. The spark had gone out for him, which eventually led to “maybe I don't love you as much as you love me,” and the inevitable break up. If I had been the woman I am now who knows her worth, I would have excused myself at the restaurant, walked right out the door and taken a taxi home because I would have realized that he no longer treasured me. Don't blow time on somebody who doesn't treasure you and after 5 years he should absolutely know whether or not he wants to wake up to you for the rest of his life. Incidentally, my old boyfriend who made the world's most insensitive remark to me at the restaurant contacted me again after a year, extremely apologetic, claiming temporary insanity for breaking up with me and asking for another chance. He changed his mind again after a week. I was completely devastated. After that, I decided that I would never allow myself to be treated that way ever again. Six months later, he was back, but he was too late. First time, shame on you, second time shame on ME. I was not falling for that a third time. It was heartbreaking for me to stick to my decision. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done. In those months while he was deciding if I was worth it or not, I had already met the man who would eventually become my husband and I had a wonderful new circle of friends I was in no way, shape or form willing to give up. I've been with my husband now for 25 wonderful years. FIVE years is a long time, but really, Honey, it is more than enough time for him to be certain about the two if you. Don't spin your wheels with this one when someone who thinks you are the most wonderful woman in the world is out there somewhere just waiting to meet you!! Best of luck!

Will women marry a young man if hes ABSOLUTELY sure he doesn't want children?

Oh, wow—I’d say the answer to this is a vehement, definitive, enthusiastic YES!More and more women are realizing that it’s okay to be childfree (not want kids), and it’s very difficult for them to find like-minded life partners. I went to a conference for these women, and we spent hours wondering, “Where are all of the men who don’t want kids?” This isn’t anything that you should be ashamed of—it’s a wonderful thing. I fully support marriage between two childfree people, because it’s more likely that the marriage will be happy, and that it will last.You may have to search a little longer, and be a little more patient. Although there are plenty of childfree ladies out there, even younger ones, it’s difficult to find the one who is right for you. And although this is one of the best values that you can share, there has to be more—you have to be suited to each other in many other ways. Look for someone with characteristics that will endure—see if she’s kind, generous, compassionate, calm, honest, and open-minded. You don’t need to share all the same hobbies and interests; what you do need is honest, deep communication.Lastly, if you are absolutely sure that you don’t want children, have a vasectomy ASAP, so that you cannot be “oops’ed” into fatherhood. Also, this will automatically weed out the women who aren’t marriage material.

How do I know for sure he’s a narcissist and not just a bad guy?

Trick question?lol.Narcissism necessitates BAD behavior.Their “bad” behavior is what defines a narcissist and narcissism. In my opinion,narcissists are BAD guys/gals and ALL toxic people are “bad” for your health :-)I would say,Pay very close attention to your “gut instinct”.We all have this intuitive ability.Its our protector from toxic people (also known as that little voice in your head or “The Spirit”)Most people with empathic qualities are more sensitive in this area,but the problem is we tend to ignore our intuition,mainly bc we want to project our empathic qualities onto everyone,to see the good and ignore the “bad”,especially in toxic narcissistic people.Therefore we are susceptible to ignore all the red flags and warning signs that a Narcisstic person is sure to display in the Idealization phase of the relationship.Pay close attention to the ways in which your instincts affect your physical body when its trying to protect you.Especially when your in the presence or just communicating with toxic people such as a narcissistSome people have reported physical Signs such as:1)dizziness or spontaneous headache2)an unexplainable uneasy feeling “Hmm,something is off about him/her”3)a knot in the stomach4)drained or tired5)nervous or anxious6)nauseaI would suggest that you not only read up on Narcissism but also read your intuition and DO NOT ignore it.Ask yourself,How do you FEEL when you are in the presence of this person? How is your body responding,physically and biologically?No matter how much you educate yourself on recognizing Narcisstic people,they are master manipulators and skilled chameleons so they may not be easily detectable.The ONLY way you maybe able to detect them to be Narcissistic and toxic (especially during the Idealization stage) is through your faithful protective “gut instinct”.

Is it possible for a guy to not be sure if he ejaculated in a female?

I'm going to bring up one more possible puzzler that a guy might experience and if not familiar with it might genuinely give an "I don't know" answer.  In certain positions and anatomy of the woman there can be pressure along the ventral surface of the penis squeezing shut the urethra.  Then if this is a man who generates fairly generous amounts of the clear slippery liquid that is pre-ejaculatory fluid, it can fill up some expanding parts of the urethra putting the accumulated amount (teaspoon, even tablespoon) of liquid under pressure. - Then when the pressure on the urethra is released there can be the sensation by the man and the woman of the sudden rush of liquid squirting out.  It isn't semen.  There are no contractions, no ejaculation, erection is not lost and there is no refractory period.  However, just the single surge (can be repeated several times over a couple of hours if the position is maintained) might make a guy not experienced with it kind of puzzled, woman too as they both felt something.