I have no confidence in myself?
I understand your feeling I think. My opinion, first things solving this problem, I would find the real reason "why I don t have confidence my self". I believe very often come from environment of childhood ...with your family. That is the base. And would find some where relax and remind how was relation with my parents, sad feeling happy things lonely feeling. Try to remember as much as I can. That s little scared but I would do. And I except my feeling of that past time. That is the beginning. I need to do it Step by step ..carefully. At the same time when I feel nervous with talking with people I even say "I am shy". So i don t feel shy like a before. they will understand me and they even help me to be not be shy. I don t need a lot of friend I need true friend who I can share my real feeling who I can share my friend's feeling. I would decide being honest to my self and starting happy life what I believe. You will be happy teacher. Good luck.
How can i get confidence in myself ?
Since you have asked this question in the do it yourself catagory rather than the mental health section, I will assume you are talking about confidence to take on a DIY project. I also don't know if you are male or female? I'm going to address this to around the house stuff that might normally fall under a males job description. Lets say you are building a fence, deck and stairs to join the deck to the house. First thing you should do is go to a Walmart and purchase some ruled paper with criss crossing lines that make squares, some pencil, ruler and a couple of pieces of foam core, i/4 inch thick. Using the squares on the paper, find a scale that allows you to fit the deck and stairs on 1 piece of paper. Each square equals 1 foot or 6 inches for example and draw your plan. Next, cut boards out of the foam core to the same scale. 6inch wide deck boards and framing. With safety pins to hold your boards in place, start building your project. Make sure it is level and square. If you are putting a lattice cover over it, be sure to plan the supports into your deck framework for sturdiness. Be sure the steps are connected to the house at the coorect height. If you've done anything wrong. remove and make corrections. Don't just stick a little piece there to rig it. Thats it, you're confidence is always improved when you have already proven to youtself that you can do something. This is a much better way to learn things than cutting up a bunch of expensive boards to find that they are too short
How can I gain Confidence in myself?
First of all, stop focusing on the negatives. Maybe you don't like your shoulders, but you have amazing legs. Sit down with a piece of paper and a pencil and write down everything you like about yourself. Then thrive on those points rather than your "flaws"! Secondly, put a message somewhere where you will see it often, such as on your mirror. Here are a couple self-confidence quotes: -Who has confidence in him/herself will gain the confidence of others. -I am not a 'has been' - I am a 'will be'. Or you can simply post the list you made of all of the qualities in yourself that you like! Just remember, if you walk into a room with your head high and a smile on your face, prepared to say hello to whoever may be there, people will know you and like you. But if you walk in slouched over, eyes directed to the floor and ignoring those around you, you will not leave a very good impression. The best way to gain self-confidence is to do what you are afraid to do. The greatest risk in life is to not risk anything at all. Set goals for yourself and stick to them. Once you achieve them, your self-confidence will already be boosted. Hang around people who will bring you up rather than bring you down. Do not allow others to dictate how you must live, feel or act. You are amazing. You are talented. And you know what? It isn't up to anyone else to judge that. Be you! Appreciate yourself! Because it's not who we are that we are afraid of; it's who we're not. Best of luck to you. *hugs* XOXO, Laurie
Lack of confidence = lack of feedback. You can't be confident if you don't know whether the things you do are ok or need to be done differently. When you get positive feedback (or positive results) - your confidence grows. When you get constructive feedback on what to improve - your confidence also grows. Might be counterintuitive - but when you know exactly what you need to improve, the ambiguity is removed and the lacSo what do you need:Action. Stop thinking about doing and do things. You can't get feedback if you don't do stuff.Ask for feedback. Learn how to solicit feedback. So that you get valuable information that will help you.Receive feedback. Digest, decide whether you want to act upon it, improve a little.Try again.Make it your habit. Repeat till it will be your second nature. Start small & easy. Start with area that you feel most confident about. Ask your best friend, before asking strangers. This is how we build confidence since birth. We try, get feedback, get better, grow confident.No one knows whether he will be alone or not. By growing confidence you increase your chances.
It would be amazing if self confidence came in a bottle.It would sell by the billions.Jordan Peterson says compare yourself today to who you were yesterday. A tiny improvement might give confidence. And don’t compare yourself to how you imagine others to be.A guy called Damian Browne is travelling across the Atlantic in a tiny capsule right as I type this. He talks about managing his self talk. You have to manage how you talk to yourself. Where did you learn it? Probably from a parent.Jim Carrey said something like “At some point you are going to have to decide to be loved or hated for who you really are, or you ‘re gonna have to kill who you really are and fall into your grave grasping onto a character you never were”There is another book called Love yourself like your life depends on it.There are countless books on confidence.There are countless talks on confidence.You can even hypnotised to be more confident. There are apps, free youtube videos.I think the only real confidence there is, is to be your authentic self. Not how you think you should be, not how you are supposed to be, but really how you are.But really you need to decide what confidence is.
How can I gain confidence in myself after being cheated on?
ABOUT YOU Let's take a look at your mind set about your self-esteem first. It may be that your confidence in self was unconsciously misplaced/out of focus. You said that many people has told you that you r beautiful. I am assuming you mean they were complimenting you on your outwards appearance, not your character or personality. Well, if that is what made you feel good about yourself than that is why you are now not feeling good about yourself. Unfortunately, you have gathered a false concept of self worth. You may have thought that your looks were enough to get a man and keep a man. Not so. Guys know when a girl values who she is as a person or not. So think about building yourself up with the right kind of confidence: self worth, meaningful goals, moral values, intellectual knowledge and integrity. You must know that outwards appearance can change drastically, but inside beauty grows richer as the yrs go by. Seek to be with someone who is looking for a person with self worth not a trophy doll. Sometimes outwards beauty can be a curse b/c some people think if you look that good you must not be smart (intelligent). Go out there and prove them wrong! ABOUT THE CHEATER Remember your bf didn't cheat on you because of what you did or didn't do. He cheated because he wanted too. He had a choice to make and he made it. So don't take it too personally. I know you are hurt and disappointed, but the problem lies at his feet not yours. Some guys are weak and stupid and unappreciative and immature! If he is trying to say that his unfaithfulness was your fault-dump him and move on b/c he is refusing to acept responsiblity for his own immoral act and he will continue to blame you each time he does it again. Please don't judge who you are in this guy or any other guy.
How to gain confidence in yourself?
i use to feel the same. just think about your good qualitys and bring them out more and more each day. not everybody is made the same for a reason. we are all different in our own ways. and true friends will love us reguradless, that includes family to. Also if you feel an issue about your weight you can try walking. Walking helps a lot. believe it or not i ate alot of rice and just walked, and i lost 50 lbs. Also eat snacks like every two hours instead of just eating big meals all day it will help boost your metabolism. but dont push yourself too hard, go at your own pace. the only way you can make a change is if you want to. know once else can make you. you will be fine part of this is hormones in the females body. unfortunately girls have them forever. lol take care
It is essential to inner engineer yourself in order to shoot your confidence level.Sit alone where you usually feel comfortable.Think about those times when you did something on your own or something that you were always ready for which fetched you internal happiness.Note them down in a paper. This will surely lift you up no matter even if it was a small achievement. The achievement is yours and every achievement in life matters as every drop is necessary to form an ocean.Never compare yourself with anybody and it shouldn’t matter to you even if anybody else compares. Once you start comparing, you will be bothered about the other person more than yourself.In order to grow, compare you with yourself.Always pat yourself or appreciate yourself while you are growing. This will boost your mindset and once the mind accepts something, the body will do it at any cost.Always do what you love. You can consider people’s opinions but the decision is always yours.Accept challenges and face them. Whether you win or fail, you will always have something to learn and when you learn, you grow and when you grow, you become more confident.Do not be over-confident. Always be open to learning.Regards,Sadhana Mohanty
Gay guys: how can i gain confidence in myself when....?
I agree with Kaleb N. for me looks are secondary. Being happier and more confident has to come from within. That's something that no one can instill into your being. I'm older so from experience I say this, those who look great today may not look that way tomorrow. And I have seen people who were boofoo ugly when younger (pointing to myself) and turned out quite lovely if I may say so myself.