How do I accept that women will never like me?
You'll never accept it, because deep inside yourself you know it is a lie, that it has nothing to do with your looks or anything else like that, that you don't have relationships because of what is going on in your mind--your self-condemnation. You'll never accept it because deep inside you know that having relationships is your birthright, and because, furthermore, it would take SO LITTLE of a shift for you to have relationships. It would simply mean changing your mind about yourself, and you could do that in an instant, if you really wanted to. That's how close you are to having what you really want. Don't give up on yourself.
How do I accept that I will never be pretty?
It would be better if you told us your age. I can sort of relate to this from when I was younger. I was in that "popular" group in elementary school, and my best friend was gorgeous. I used to wonder if I would ever be that beautiful, and I just thought she was perfect. I used to lay at night and wonder what it's like to be like her. Of course, I never let it get under my skin that I was ugly, my parents had given me enough confidence otherwise. I thought I should just share that with you so you wouldn't think I'm just someone saying whatever. Now, I'm 17 and I have grown into a "woman" or near that, and I've formed out very well. If a guy talks to me he will be surprised and shocked that I don't have a boyfriend, and that I don't have guys chatting me up 24/7. I'm not at all putting myself into that position where I'm being an arrogant, self-proclaimed attractive female. But to be honest, it's just as lonely. I cry sometimes because I wonder why guys don't want to be with me; I don't mind if they play COD all day, or if they want to hang out with friends, I'm not mean person or anything. Being attractive doesn't automatically put you into this high-class lifestyle television has made it out to be; if anything it's made people feel even more lonely. Guys are under the predicament that "beautiful girls" are stupid, and then guys are too intimidated to even approach them in the first place, so you can't even win. Nowadays, yes appearance does mean a lot, and it's pop culture and all these stupid advertisements that made it so important. The only way to accept what you look like is to build up confidence, and never let the green monster take control of you. No-one likes an envious person no matter what you look like. You have to make sure you are approachable and happy; when someones like that it doesn't matter what you look like. One of my friends isn't very attractive yet she has one of the greatest personalities, and a loving boyfriend. All in all, you just need to build some confidence and maybe take more importance into your appearance (such as clear skin and removing hair where it shouldn't be, also learn how to apply basic make up).
How can I accept that I will never have a girlfriend?
How can I learn to accept that I will be alone forever. I am age 25, never had a girlfriend, never even kissed a girl, and never had any close friends. I am attractive, respectful of people, and have a kind heart but I guess women don't like me. I do have somewhat of a stuttering problem. For all my life, I dreamed of finding true love but I know that was just a hopeless fantasy...an impossible dream. My only hope for companionship is to arrange a marriage with a girl, if I should ever become wealthy. But I know the odds of becoming wealthy are not in my favor, because of all the ways society prevents social mobility. And I do not want to date someone who had many relationships. I want to be more experienced or at least the same amount experienced as the women or I would feel like I was inferior and she would always be comparing me to previous lovers. I don't and won't be 'second-best', 'third-best', and even less best. I tried anti-depressents but my feelings of pain and my sorrowful willpower overpowered any form of drug and the pain was still present. Why must I be forsaken?
When will you accept that your ex will not return to you?
YOU DECIDE THAT IF YOUR EX DOES NOT WANT YOU--YOU DO NOT WANT THEM! That's when. Why would you want someone who does not want you? Move on. What else can anyone say but move on? Disconnect. Detach. Do not pick up the phone and call him or her. Have some self-respect. Be good to yourself and stop the shameful yearnings that you are perpetuating by habitually allowing yourself to think about the ex. Otherwise you are stuck in a state of futility. Why waste your time pinning away, thinking of someone who has rejected you? Are you an emotional beggar? No reason to be. It's a big world. There is no guarantee that any relationship will endure. Forget about it!If you rejected them, you did so for good reasons that you now conveniently forget? Remember those things you did not like, then stop thinking about the person altogether. You really must consciously redirect your mind.Change. You will find that if you improve yourself, you will not want him(her) to return. If you do, you haven't changed enough for the better. Idealizing a person is really idolatry. Not too good.If your ex died, would you learn to go on or sit moaning in agony for the rest of your life? Even though your ex may be alive, you must refocus. You are living in the past thereby destroying your own present and future. The ex is controlling your mind because you won't let go by simply refocusing your thoughts?They have exited your life. It never works to obsess over a person who has left you. You are shutting down your own life. Find health and happiness ahead in your life. Don't look back.Old adage: There are plenty of fish in the sea. —You could find someone better for you than your ex if you erased the obsession you have created for only them to the exclusion of all other possible mates in this world. Or simply find happiness alone if you choose to. You got along before you met the ex, you will get along now. If you decide that you will do this, you will.
How do I accept that I will never have a significant other?
Somehow I’ve ended up on the same path with you today. My situation is a bit different. I’ve been through many relationships and all of them one way or another ended in disasters. At first I thought I haven’t found the right person. But then after so many failures, I took a long and hard look at myself and thought probably something is seriously wrong with me. To this day I couldn’t exactly tell why but obviously something must be really wrong. So I’d rather stop trying than fail again. I’ve been single for more than a year now. By single, I mean no dates at all, no chatting, talking to men at all. Nothing. And this time, I’m destined to stay single forever. I don’t see the point of beginning another relationship knowing 99% for sure that it will end again. Just the idea of another broken heart scares the hell out of me.How do I cope with that? I try to refocus and shift my energy into other areas in life. I develop new hobbies and interests. I tell myself that probably God made me here to be alone. It’s hard. I must admit it’s not easy. There’re still moments where I feel utterly lonely and hopeless about life. But then I would tell myself that I’ve done all I can to reverse the situation but they didn’t work out so I can’t possibly blame myself anymore.Another suggestion is to try Buddhism. Yeah. It works for me. The Buddha teaches us to accept life the way it is and live in the present moment. I wouldn’t go into much details here. I just suggest it as a way out of our hopeless situation. I can’t say I no longer feel sad but it certainly helps me a lot in coming to terms with my sufferings and makes them more bearable.And if what I wrote above can’t be of any use to you, please know that you’re not alone. I’ve given up all my hope on love/relationships. I strongly believe now it’s not in the cards for me. And once you’ve reached this stage, there’s not much anyone can say to reverse your thinking. I’ve read the other answers here which all try to talk you out of it, tell you to not give up and try to think positive. It’s probably because they don’t know how it feels to try your best many many times and still fail. Whatever you’re feeling now, I’m with you. I wish you all the best.
How do you ACCEPT something that hurts?
You are absolutely correct that the situation is going to drive you crazy if you don't accept the reality. For some people acceptance comes almost too easy. For others, it takes a lot of time. When I'm faced with so many "what if..." moments, I turn my thoughts to a different "what if?" that was all about me. For example: "what if he wanted to be with me?" came to mind...I'd turn it into "what if I went out and met someone else?" or "what if we got back together?" I'd turn it into "what if I go back to college?" It takes time, but you do eventually stop asking the "what if..." questions about the other person. Before you know it, you've not only accepted what happened, but you have a whole life you created in the process because you focused on you...which is a wonderful thing about being single. However, whenever you have someone you love in your life that isn't there anymore, they will always come to mind from time to time. You smile and say to yourself "I wonder how _____ is doing?", and you just move on to the next thing. It's very normal to want to get back together. Take another 30 days, and start trying to talk to new people you find. Giving up on a relationship when you want it is a lot like breaking a bad habit; you have to replace the bad habit with another habit (hopefully a good one). So, you have to find something (or someone) to fill the space this other person left.