How do I calm down a 160 pound Great Dane?
Tell your mother-in-law her dog can only come over on a leash, with a gentle leader so he learns that he needs to be calm at your house. I use one for my German Shepherd and it gives me total control over her, no matter how much she tries to throw her weight around (she's good now - this was our traing tool). Also, in dog training class, there was a playful out-of-control dog there that was a mix of something, and huge - Great Dane sized. The moment they put that on him, and gave the first tug, he was a changed dog. After that, he laid in front of his owner facing her, with his head on his paws, just pouting. It was hilarious - and a miracle worker! After a few weeks of this, he learned to behave without it. He was calmer. http://www.buygentleleader.com/View.aspx...
What is the best way to calm down a stubborn, over emotional Leo woman?
I'm a Scorpio and she is my mom is a Leo woman. Lol. She is very emotional, and will always yell at people for the slightest things. Everyone tells me that my mom should be put in therapy and that she is stupid. I honestly do not care, I always get in arguments with my mom, and before when I try to let her speak she doesn't "speak to fix the problem" but she speaks just to insult you. My friends have assaulted her once, I didn't care, she deserved it, and many would agree to. So whenever she comes home from work she will take her anger by insulted me and my younger brother. Hell my younger brother is not as mentally strong as me, he is already starting to be depressed, yet my mom say that we are better off dead because she thinks we're crazy, and that she hopes we get depressed, go to jail, or commit suicide. She makes fun of people who commit suicide to (since childhood). Makes me sick. I got in a fight just protecting her long ago, I don't care anymore. How to calm her down?
Almost everyday, my mom comes home from work and has something to yell at me about. I get angry and yell back at her which creates war. What do I do about this?
Drop the rope.In a game of tug of war there isn’t any game if one person drops their end of the rope.Quit yelling back. Wait until your Mom quiets down, then talk to her about whatever she is upset with you about.Tell her how her yelling makes you feel.It is very effective and appropriate to say something like, “When you yell at me, I feel very scared/hurt/angry/upset.” Whatever you feel. Ask for her help.Your mom may be frustrated about her life (at work and so forth) and takes it out on you which is not right of her to do, but it happens. Sometimes being an adult with responsibilities is very hard.Try to grow up a little and be kind, and keep up with whatever your responsibilites are such as school, homework, chores.Even though you are the child, you may need to take the lead on this and be more mature than your Mom. Good luck.
Is it wrong that my mother isn't involved with my soon to be step kids?
I'm so upset right now. My fiance and I have been together almost 2 years. He has two little kids. My mom doesn't want to be around them or do anything with them. She hardly talks about the wedding and doesn't seem excited about it. I feel like she wants no part of my wedding or anything to do with my fiance's kids. It bothers my fiance also. I don't know what to do to stay calm through the wedding planning. I guess I just need some positive comments.
Teenage daughter/mother troubles?
You SO DID NOT SCREW UP!!!! I would much rather have my daughter and her friends drink under my supervision! Do you realize how many teen drinking and driving accidents occur? Do you realize how many OTHER alcohol related incidents happen with teens drinking at parties? Too many to count! You are showing a side that many parents can't see. You KNOW they are going to experiment with alcohol..ALL TEENS DO!! You aren't avoiding the problem, you are finding a safer way to do it. I would let my daughter party at your house any time...Because I would know that with YOUR supervision, I would see her again! I know a few parents like you. My best friends mom was the same way when we were kids! I always partied out there with her, and stayed the night. Her mom made sure we were safe. She understood that she couldn't stop us, so she figured that if we were gonna do it, then we would do it there, rather than some party in the middle of no where. As for the Legal side of this....I have a friend that is a police officer, and this subject came up once about under age drinking. He told me that as long as the kid drank at home and DID NOT LEAVE the house, they couldn't do anything about it. And about the BOYFRIEND....well teens will be sexually active long before we even KNOW it. There is NOTHING you can do here....So really...No BIGGIE!! I mean whether or not he stays the nite there or they go in the wood somewhere...There is nothing a parent can do..Just teach them about safe sex and birth control. Really, you are pretty smart about this stuff. You are very open and I bet you have a good relationship with your teen which is VERY important nowadays. I see you as realizing what you cannot avoid, and finding a way to ensure your daughters safety. People won't always agree with it, but then you just ask...Would you rather them drink and drive and never see them again....or sleep it off in my living room? I'm sure they would see it your way!