How do I deal with emotionally abusive mother?
my mom who - puts me down, criticize, blaming, talking about my past, about my failures and flaws, never admiting or owning up to her mistakes verbally abuses me when angry calls me a bad son, manipulate me say i do things intentionally for everything Unsupportive i moved out and now moved back in i am 19 and dont know if i should just ignore her?
How to deal with an emotionally/verbally abusive grandmother?
I could go into extensive details about the situation, but I'd rather just say that over the course of many many years of this...my mind has started to think "you know what? maybe you are a bad person." I know that this couldn't be further from the truth, but as the saying goes..you hear it enough times and you start to take it as the truth. I want to be able to stand up to my grandmother and tell her that enough is enough..and I need to do this in a way that won't make me feel guilty about violating the "respect your elders" idea that all of our parents' instilled on us (even though respect should be earned.) What can I say to her to get it through her head that I am not her punching bag..but her 30 year old granddaughter (and mother of her three great-grandchildren.)
How do I deal with a verbally, emotionally and physically abusive mother?
You deal with verbally, emotionally and physically abusive parents by not giving them power over you to make you feel bad.Did we grow up in the same house? It’s hard for someone to tell you this but I’ve been where you are. No one has a right to hit you. Once you’re struck, police need to be called. Tell your mother you love her but she can’t hit you. She can say whatever she wants to you. You’re sorry she feels this way but you’ve stop caring what she says or how she acts towards you long ago.Do you go to school? If you do, throw yourself into activities you enjoy. Smile at people, listen to their problems. Have a life.My mother never said she loved me. She had no idea how to. I learned to pity her and feel sorry for the pain she had that made her treat my sister and me as she did.If you’re able to live apart, do so.Tell your mom you love her and will always be there for her.You have to be the adult. If you’re under 18, you have to accept life isn’t fair.Live for revenge. Your revenge against your mother is to live a happy and joy filled life.
How can I handle my physical and emotional abusive mother?
I suspect my mother was Narcissistic, and I was physically and emotionally abused by her as a child, and emotionally manipulated by her as an adult. This went on for 24 years and you know when it stopped?When she died.If you feel like you are being physically and emotionally abused and you a child under the age of 18, you need to get some help. You need to reach out to someone at school who can help you. You need to reach out to a family member who can support you. You need to get out, because abuse is something that takes a LOT of time and a LOT of therapy to work through. Continuing to let the abuse happen will only make it more difficult to work through. There are resources you can use.Child abuse hotline US: 1–800–4-A-CHILDI encourage you to look up resources in your own country if you are not in the United States. There are people who will help you. Speak up to teachers, principals, counsellors and friends.If you are over the age of 18: find a part time job, find a roommate, and get the hell out. Get some kind of counseling and start dealing with this stuff now.Hope my perspective helps you.
How to deal with emotionally abusive mothers on Mother's Day?
Why do abusive mothers want you to make them feel good by telling them "Happy Mother's Day" when it comes around even though they make you feel like being their child is a burden to them? My mother complains that I don't do anything for her on her birthday or Mother's Day. Whenever my sister asks her what she wants to do she always says she doesn't know and ends up staying in her room all day with her door closed. Ever since she became a single parent twelve years ago when I was twelve years old, she changed for the worse. That's when she started being verbally, emotionally and physically abusive. When I addressed the issue of her verbal and emotional abuse towards me she wouldn't admit to it, but then she changed her mind and said "You said something disrespectful to me" as the reason for her abuse. What she considers to be disrespectful is me having an opinion of my own. She'll ask me a question during her yelling tirade and when I try to answer it she just talks over top of me and tells me, "I don't care!" or "You're wrong!" or "You're being disrespectful!" So anywho. How should I handle her when her birthday and Mother's Day comes around?
Is my mother physically abusive? ?
I am a mother of 4 children, and I have found myself being unreasonable and angry, Maybe I was feeling stressed out, just in general. I have said things that where hurtful, and i regret it right away, and maybe not every time but most times I would feel bad an tell my child or children that i was wrong and I would tell them I was sorry. But to demean my child with your are a piece of s**t, or your worthless or a disappointment, that is outright cruel!! I never physically harmed any of my children. Your mom is totally out of control, it is not because of you, it is ALL her! Again this is not because of you, or anything to do with your sister who you think your mom loves the most. God bless her that she is not being harmed, but you are. It doesn't appear that you mom sees herself as wrong, so i don't see her getting any help herself, so unfortunately you are the one who is going to have to get help, before you get hurt badly, though it sounds like she does hurt you badly, if you feel aches and pains from her attacks. You need to go to your school counselor and tell him or her about the problems you are having with your mom, Your counselor will know how to approach this problem, and stop your mom from abusing you, Yes it is Abuse!! She may seem to love your sister more than she loves you, I think your sister is a victim as well, I know she is not being phically abused, but I beleave she is emotionally, Of course I know that your are being emotionally abused, That is clear, but I promise you, your sister will be a victim of your moms abuse, You said that you think that your mom was abused as a child too, Okay, so she was abused, now it is her responsibility to get help concerning her issues with her mother, and she is responsible for getting help for the abuse you are suffering at her hand. She is the adult! she needs to protect you, not go off on you, "just because!' Your sister will be her next punching bag. Please seek help from your school coundelor, and if you are afraid of what your mom will do if you report her, then you need to let your councelor know that to! But do it now before it escelorates worse than it already is!God bless, you can e-mail me if you need to talk, my e-address is: cjysnewyork@yahoo.com I will be thinking about you! Emma