How do I deal with my friend who is love with me?
As you said “You feel she is in love with you”. The emotions of love are hard to resist especially when you are madly in love with.There is a friend of mine with whom I chat a lot, share almost everything, our likes dislikes matches like hell. So am i in love with her or am I attracted.No, I just love being around her and she is a good company. In your case instead of just assuming things about what’s going on in her mind, just ask her if she feels something for you or with any one else. If she is clear about her answer that she is not in love with you. Take that as her final answer and deal appropriately.There might be a case when she doesn’t want to reveal her love towards you, not yet. In that case don’t force her to let it out. She might have some some good reason. She first might be trying to know what’s going on your mind. Very less girl approach to guys directly. If you are not interested in any way to be in relationship with her just let her know what type of girl you would like to end up with. She will definitely try to relate her self with your imaginary gf and if she thinks she doesn’t fit in , she will slowly back track.And remember one thing, Girls treat their boyfriend, Best friend and Friend almost in the same way emotionally, hence Men are likely to get confused
My friend has a huge ego... how do I deal?
ok so my friend and i have been friends for about a year and a half now. we met in school when she moved back here from florida. i love her to death and she's so funny and entertaining and she's great to hang out with. however, she has an ENORMOUS ego. she compliments herself saying "not to sound really conceited, but i look really good today." and she doesn't compliment others alot. she always adds the "not to sound conceited" thing, but all that does is make her sound more conceited. she also does that in school, with grades and stuff. she flaunts it whenever she gets a good grade. she flaunts who she's friends with, how great she looks in stuff, how smart she is sometimes, how funny she is, how opinionated she is, the fact that she's going to be a bridesmaid in her brother's wedding. its like, it never ends. she'll find ANYTHING and brag about it. and us friends just sit back and take it. but im tired of it. what do i do???? she's not someone you mess with...
How do I deal with my clingy friend?
My friend is the ultimate definition of "clingy". She calls me constantly at work, texts me at least 3 times a day, and wants to hang out every single day (no exaggeration). On the days we dont hang out, she calls or texts me to make plans to hang out the next day. I love her dearly, I really do I think thats why I haven't blown up yet (its been going on for the past 6 months), but I have a boyfriend and a job and I'm in school...basically I have a life! She had a really messy break up a few months back and I always wanted to make sure I am there for her because she doesn't have a lot of friends. She is still upset over the breakup because she was fwb with her ex for a few months as well (something i told her NOT to do). So she constantly whines about her ex and constantly wants advice, but she never ever ever listens! I don't know what else to do and I'm afraid anything I say will totally crush her (shes super sensitive). How can I get some space with out hurting her???
How do I deal with my friends singling me out?
Per a suggestion by Simon Huggins, I will give you some thoughts. When I was bullied in grade school, my mom, God bless her, gave me the worst advice: ignore it. DO NOT IGNORE THIS. Unless you have the guts to leave them behind.Moving forward from these jerks- tip#1 don't let people walk all over you. Believe it or not, it gets harder as an adult because you are expected to be "mature" in your responses. When you are young, which I assume you are, I think you can practice more options like "don't cross me @$$hole" or "did I act like I wanted you to talk to me?". I like Simon's response "You've been mentioning my mom an awful lot lately, are you obsessed with her?" Humor and wit can put them out of commission. Most bullies don't want to be taken to task. Practice being tough now, verbally, so it is not so hard later. Remember when I mentioned above I was bullied in grade school?I managed to skate through high school without much incident but I was bullied TWO YEARS AGO (I am now 43 years old) at a job and I had no healthy responses for the bully's sh*tty comments. I ignored and ignored and ignored until I EXPLODED and I was the one who looked like an arse. Now, I am learning:Tip#2 Part of the bullying is self-inflicted. Insofar as these people are poop-heads, you are also dramatizing and "woe is me"ing the situation. STOP this is just as badTip#3 Do not give them the powerTip#4 Moving forward, ignore the insignificant people and move on to others who appreciate you. I know you feel like you've been betrayed but in the future, don't put so much trust in others. Tip#5 They are like mosquitoes- bat them away and don't let them think they bother youTip#6 Life is not fair, enjoy every moment, however "ordinary"Tip#7 When you love yourself, this comes across in interactions and people like that, just don't take it to the extreme to arrogance/lack of empathyTip#8 Don't ever back down. Most of these guys are all talk. If they actually take it to the next level of physical confrontation, learn how to defend yourself. PM me with questions.
How do you deal with your friends' betrayal?
I think a good rule of thumb to follow in many situations is to not take things personally.At first, betrayal hurts. Your trust in them is shattered, you might become resentful, upset, and there’s a missing hole in your heart where the person you knew as your friend used to be.However, always try to understand the whole situation from all perspectives. Your friend might have betrayed you for many reasons that have nothing to do with you. They might be dealing with their own insecurities, troubles at home, pressure, etc. Try not to become bitter when you accept that they betrayed you for some reason.If the betrayal was a small thing and you still believe your friend to be trustworthy, you could talk to your friend and try to understand what motivated them, or perhaps, optimistically, what you thought was a betrayal was a misunderstanding. Let them know how you felt about the situation and try to move on together from there.If through discussion with the friend, you discover that they are not good for you (e.g. they have zero regard for your wellbeing, they are manipulative, etc.) or if the betrayal was a major red flag, you might be better off gradually distancing yourself from them. Even if you are angry and emotional, there’s no need to make a dramatic or hateful exit; don’t make unnecessary enemies. Just slowly stop talking to them, avoid places where they go, be unavailable to hang out. You can greet them like an acquaintance but don’t talk about personal things with your former friend again unless you want to rekindle the friendship, which imo is generally a bad idea because you open the doors to let them hurt you again. There are other people out there with stellar character who will treat you better.Generally, I would recommend distancing yourself from people who betray others and instead spending time with caring and honest people. Family (parents, siblings, pets) is my closest source of support. If you feel utterly alone and without support, that’s okay too. Find strength in yourself and your independence. You can focus on your self-growth, hobbies, athletics, academics, arts, or whatever you want to shape your own identity. Write your own piece about how to deal with betrayal!Don’t grow bitter, don’t hurt others in retaliation, remember to love yourself, and I wish you the best in the future.Peace.
How do I deal with a friend who pulls my hair?
My friend Lizzie got mad at me for putting a nickle down her shirt (and she couldn't get it out cuz it was stuck in between her boobs) so she yelled at me and told me She wasnt my friend anymore(and we have been best friends for ever). Then in 7th period today she said dont talk to me and pulled my hair!!! So I kicked her and she pulled my hair again!! And she kept pulling my hair till school was over!!! What should I do?
How do I deal with the fact that my friend slept with my ex?
What is there to deal with?Even if you’re monogamous, your ex-partner is your ex-partner, i.e. not your partner any more. That means they’re free to sleep with whomever they want, including people who are friends of yours. As for your friend, friendship doesn’t typically come with any expectations that you’ll be allowed to control their sexuality, so your friends are free to sleep with whomever they want too, including ex-partners of yours.I think when the above feels like a problem to you, it must mean either that you’re not over your ex, or alternatively that you see your ex as abusive and are worried that your friend might end up getting hurt. If your ex is for example a violent person, then that’s a legitimate concern and I think a worry that you should talk to your friend about. (but after you do, it’s still THEIR choice who they want to sleep with)Personally, if one of my friends choose to hook up with one of my ex-partners I’d be genuinely happy for them both. If it works out excellently I hope they’ll invite me to the wedding! All of my ex-partners are kind, smart, compassionate people with excellent relationship-qualities. My friends tend to have many of the same properties, so I think such a pairing would have excellent odds of creating joy and happiness for everyone involved.And I most certainly want both my friends and all my ex-partners to be happy and loved.
How do you deal with a party-pooper friend?
My best friend was pretty popular in high school and has plenty of good stories about fun things she did. She's super outgoing and just gives off the impression of being a really fun person to hang out with. But surprisingly she is the exact opposite. If we are invited to go to the movies, a party, or over someone else's house, she never really wants to go. She would rather do what she wants, which is usually sitting around, watching TV, etc. Whenever I try to get her to come she just whines about it. She's a total downer and party pooper. With anyone else I wouldn't mind, but it's weird for her specifically because she used to be so different. She used to go to all the big parties, threw a few parties herself, and just had a really good time. It can get really annoying. I feel like sometimes she holds me back. I would feel bad saying "alright well I'm going even if you're not". That feels like ditching her if we agreed to hang out together that night... So what should I do?
How do I deal with my friends being absolute pricks?
My friends always take the piss out of me, It's only me and I don't know why. We are all 15 and go to school together and speak on Skype a lot, I only notice this all happening when two certain people are together. So guy 1 is really the main culprit for all of this but it only happens when he's with other people and this whole thing gets to it's worst when he is with guy 2 and 3, and sometimes 4. Guy 4 is my best friend and guy 3 is a really good friend too. But the other two seem to have some sort of hate towards me. Although I can see why guy 1 and 2 would have reasons to try and make themselves feel better by picking on me. Guy 1 never gets invited anywhere he lies about having things and lies about people just to try and get people to hate that person and he is also pretty jealous of me. Guy 2 also is jealous of me (I know they are both jealous of me because of the things they say when they botch behind my back) and he has really strict parents and I guess he wants a lot of the things I have too. Guy 1 is also very anti-social with anyone apart from Guy 2, 3 and 4 and he is a massive introvert, he always makes excuses when we are going to go out somewhere with more than like 4 people and he makes excuses to get out of parties and such. He also bitches about guy 2 sometimes. This whole thing is making me really depressed and it's been going on for about 2-3 years now. I have been trying my best two avoid guy 1 and 2 but it's kinda hard. I feel like this is ruining my social life and making me very insecure and sad, all I ever do is be nice to them. Sorry about the long paragraph but it's kinda a lot to explain :\ Thanks in advance :)