How do I deal with my boyfriend's obsessive creepy mother!?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two and a half years. He and his mother have always had a close relationship which at first was cute but now it's just plain CREEPY! She constantly touches him or smacks his butt. She says inappropriate things all the time and thinks it's funny. Maybe my family is just a little more mature than his, but I just think it's weird! She constantly calls him nicknames that I'M supposed to call him (babyboy, baby, sweetie, sweetheart, babycakes, anything you can think of, I guarantee she's said it). A couple of the names she's actually started saying only AFTER she's heard me call him that. It really bothers me but of course my boyfriend gets a little defensive so I have to bite my tongue quite a bit. I honestly get creeped out and I wonder if she weren't his mother if she would date him. Is she normal? Or does she have a weird obsession with her son? Help!
How do you deal with an obsessive mother?
I think your mom is starting to feel the strain of you growing up, but I do think going through your e-mail is a little bit extreme, I think you should let her know that you don't appreciate her scoping in on your stuff. However I would plan maybe one night a week where the two of you go out and have dinner or you make her dinner or whatever and just spend some good quality time talking and things, your relationship will improve. Right now I bet that she is feeling as though you have completely forgotten her. Remind her that you haven't, bring her a flower once in a while or mail her a card (even if y ou live in the same house) with a small thank you note. Request your favorite dinner from her, and don't forget to give her hugs. My mom went through a period like this for a LONG time after I moved out of the house but once we got out together once in a while it subsided and honestly, we got to know each other better. So give it a try I bet you find your relationship improves a lot!! Good Luck
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Ah yes, I dealt with this everyday, for almost 20 some years.I don’t know how your mom is but i’ll tell you about mine. My mother is a deeply caring person and had a bunch of stress on her shoulders. I think she was projecting that from the way she was raised on to me. She would question everything, especially if they were an ounce unsafe (like skiing or skating for example).I also don’t know if your female or male which can play a big part in all of this. Being a male, if you have a helicopter parent and can’t release your testosterone somewhere it may end up in an argument with the mom. That’s what happened to me and it caused a giant rift for us for along time.Have patience. I know you hate this answer. I know you do because I too hate this answer. It relies on one party being the bigger person and making up for the others shortfall. Try to slowly explain your reasoning for doing things. Sometimes that simply won’t work. I get it. It’s frustrating and feels like your growth is stunted.Remind yourself that you love yourself. I don’t know how old you are but try to remember that your mother is probably projecting on to you some fear of her own. It isn’t truly her talking but her father or her mother, brother, or even her school bullies. These issues can last a life time for anyone.Be brave and show your mother you love her. Because we both know that fighting it never ends well.Good luck!
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