My girlfriend is to shy to kiss me in public.?
well you shouldn't have anything to worry about. some girls are a little self-conscious about PDA. i'm 21 and married and i don't like PDA. my husband just laughs at me, but i'm not sure why i'm like that. i suppose it's because i don't like to watch other people kissing and such, so why would i subject everyone to something i don't like? but also i like to keep my love life private. maybe she's the same. but the best thing would be to talk to her about it. if there is anything bothering her, let her know it's ok to talk to you about it. if anything, kiss her hand before you leave her so she doesn't feel so embarrassed and you still get to show her affection. best of luck to ya!
How do I get over my fear of singing in public?
I remember the first time I ever preformed. It was at a school talent show. (Now I'm a professional with a band and we play gigs almost every night so that's besides the point) I had stage fright as well. Some of these things your making up in your head. If you practice it enough you probably won't forget the lyrics. You won't get laughed at or booed off either. Even if you're not great you still won't be made fun of. Trust me it's not like you're a professional and everyone's expecting you to be good. People make mistakes. One time I forgot the lyrics to a song everyone knew and I looked around and started mumbling "Nananana don't know the words...nanana...blah blah blah..don't know what I'm singin'." and people honestly found it so amusing that they liked it. Another time I had a switch from piano to guitar and I couldn't find the guitar because I hadn't gone over where to get it, so there was a whole section in the middle where it was the drummer and the bassist just awkwardly playing because the actual guitarist was backstage and didn't want to cover for me. And once I fell of the stage on my expensive guitar...everyone laughed and booed but I got over it... it won't be in you for the rest of your life even if you do screw up and everyone is rude. That's how the world works. So trust me it's not like that's going to happen to you. Just relax, calm down. Think of everyone else going to go up there. If they're not afraid why should you be? If you sign it and do it, it'll make you more confident, especially after you get it over with.
Why do I feel social anxiety when I go out, but I feel depressed when I don't go out?
We need social interactions in life. Prolonged absence of social interactions could lead to depression. The good news is you don't need to be a party animal or an extrovert to feel normal. Catching up with family or friends even online has a positive influence. Be comfortable with who you are. Talking to people in a social setting becomes relatively easy once you accept you for what you are. They say, “fake it till you make it”. I don't think it has worked out for me. I started finding it easier to not feel anxious by genuinely cultivating a sense a calmness. Besides, when you focus more on being a good listener, chances are that you will not feel as self conscious or anxious and you're half way there already. You'll eventually find a way to enjoy the conversation. There's also another possibility that the group of people you meet with are entirely different from you to the point of draining your mental energy. In that case, you have a temporary solution which is to not care about it too much and just let that event pass. A permanent solution (essential to people in general) is to find a group of friends with whom you can have a good time.There are many like you out there. You're not alone in feeling this way. Just learn to love yourself and be comfortable in your own skin. Genuine friends will happen. Good luck!
Is it normal to feel anxious meeting people after you haven't seen them in a while? Even if its close friends or family?
I think it's completely normal, especially for someone who struggles with anxiety. I experience this all the time with people I haven't seen in a long time (yes, even family and friends). I know how it feels. It's annoying and confusing, because you don't know why you feel anxious. I hate the feeling.In my opinion, we feel anxious before meeting with someone we haven't seen in a while because we've become less used to them. Think about it: when you see someone every day, for example, or a few times a week, you feel more comfortable with them. You generally know how they'll behave, how the interaction will go etc. You know how it feels to be around that person physically and you're more relaxed.On the other hand, when we don't see someone in months, or even years, the sense of familiarity reduces. Even though you know the person, you feel like you don't truly know them at present because you've been apart so long. You feel like you've missed out on important information, stories and news about their lives. Subconsciously, I think all of this can create feelings of anxiety about meeting them.Time changes everyone, so perhaps we're a little scared they might have changed. We might also worry about the fact that time has changed us both and we will no longer be able to connect as easily as we used to. Of course, this may not be an issue for some friends and family members. You might simply 'pick up where you left off' and immediately re-connect, no matter how long it has been. If that's the case, you know it's a friendship (or other relationship) you can hold onto for life.The best thing I can suggest is to take some deep breaths before you meet them. Try to quickly look back on all your history together and the good times you've shared. Perhaps this will ease some of the anxiety and will remind you that what is meant to be will be.
When I try to speak English, words don't come out right. How can I speak fluent English?
Most likely you are afraid of making a mistake.I suffered the same in learning Spanish, and I see it as one of the greatest obstacles for my English students. One of my students recently told me he was in a store and wanted to ask in English, "What is the price of this item?" He planned it out perfectly in his mind, walked up to the attendent, and said "wutprsths?" When the attendent (obviously) did not understand, so my student just said "price," and got the answer he needed.Often we may say "I don't mind making mistakes, I know no one is going to throw tomatoes at me" but deep inside we feel that it is something terrible to speak poorly, and so are terrified of saying something wrong. As a result we overthink what we are trying to say, analyzing the grammar and syntax instead of just pouring forth concepts. This makes speaking very awkward. This can even happen when you are alone, speaking to yourself, because you constantly doubt if what you said is correct (I speak from experience)!Polygot Sid Efromovich points out that we are trained from youth to shun the feeling of having done something wrong, but in learning languages we must seek it, because that means we are crossing into new territory and learning. (See the video below, 29:00)When you are writing you can take time to think about how words should be organized - you cannot while speaking. So you just have to go for it. Spit the words out, and if they are wrong, that's OK. One successful English learner told me that making mistakes was the best learning tool, because he was so embarrased he remembered the correction!From my own experience and research and watching others, I believe the only solution to your problem is to listen to and speak a lot of English. It has to be a natural process that you don't think about, which will only come with lots of practice - as with any skill, from baseball to piano playing to speaking.
Those who freeball/go commando, can people tell?
Umm depends who is looking at your crotch
Boyfriend who is obsessed with my butt and tries to show it off!?
Ok so my bf loves my butt and has always told me so. He's always fondling my backside in public- grabbing it, stroking it, and even slapping it. And he's not suble about it at all. Sometimes he even presses up against me and fully grabs it. It's PDA to the max, and even if I brush him off, he'll just apologize and do it again. He does this all the time! Especially if any other guy looks at me or if there are just a lot of guys around in general. The otherday we were in the pool and he picked me up, grabbed my bikini and gave me a total wedgie so that he could show HIS FRIEND my butt as he said "Look at this nice ***!" And we were shopping and thinking about getting lunch and he smacked my butt and said "make me a sammich woman!" In front of a lot of people. If this were a once in a while thing I would laugh it off but it's not. I told him that it makes me uncomfortable, but he says that I just don't understand because I'm white. (He's brazilian.) I have never been the most comfortable with my body because while I am thin, my thighs and butt feel fat to me. It's not even like it's really firm or anything. :/ That's why this is a problem. Not only do I feel kind of cheap when he does these things (and I know people don't appreciate the PDA) but it's a point of insecurity for me and the way he flaunts it is just not cool. :( I have already tried talking to him seriously but to no effect. I feel disrespected and have told him so. To me, this is the real issue. So... should I cut him loose? Or at least extend the threat of a break up? Or am I being overly dramatic? I know this sounds like a dumb problem but it really bothers me sometimes and we cant seem to get past this. I don't want to feel like that's the only reason he's with me. :(