How Can I Find Some Direction In My Life

How should I give direction to my life?

There are no shoulds. There is only inner desire.I gave direction to my life by attending college, then getting an advanced degree, practicing a profession, marrying and having children, all the things we are told will make us happy. And there was definitely some happiness, but inside I felt a lack. Something was missing. I began to wonder what all of this meant in the bigger picture of things.I won’t describe all the ways that I searched for meaning, except that after decades it took me to a teaching that explains what is the meaning of life, why do I exist, what I am to do in this life. I now have a structure that gives direction to my life and the sense of something being missing has shifted to an eagerness to find out how it all ends.If you feel any interest in this path—the wisdom of Kabbalah—go here.http://www.kabbalah.info/bb/kr

How do I find direction in my life?

21 is still very young! You still have a lot ahead of you that you can achieve! In order to find out what you love, I'd suggest:1. Volunteering at a few community outreach programs in your city. It's a great way to meet tons of people from so many different walks of life (and potentially make excellent connections with the other volunteers).2. Taking a personality test to see relatively objectively what your strengths and weaknesses are. I really like the https://www.16personalities.com/ site because it is very thorough and free. Make sure you sit down in a quiet room and take the test without interruptions.3. See practically which passions could lead towards a rewarding future (whether you are looking for job satisfaction, monetary reasons, relaxed schedule, etc) and try to plan it out. Even speaking with an academic/occupational advisor could be of great benefit to you. Always remember that your passions can't always be your career. It's okay to have hobbies that are just hobbies.4. Ask people you love and respect (who enjoy their careers) about how they knew what occupation to go into. And what kind of education you may need. At the very least, it will be fascinating to hear their stories. At the most, it could strike a chord in you about the direction you may want to go.Anyway, these are just a few suggestions. They will help you further discover who you are, and maybe send you in the right direction!

What's it like to feel like your life has no direction?

Liberating.I suspect this isn’t a word many people answering this question would use. And one I wouldn’t have used either if you’d asked me a few years ago.You see, when an illness struck me that prised me away from all the direction I had, I was forced to reassess my values.Now, I look back to a time when I thought I had everything. I thought I was ‘going somewhere’. And I thought long and hard about what exactly it was that I had then that I haven’t got now (besides my health). I realised the only thing I had then that I don’t have now was hope – the idea that I was moving in a direction toward something greater.The reality in fact is that life is what happens while you’re planning something else. Thankfully I realised this and started to live a life with purposeful directionlessness.I admit it was difficult at first. It took me about a year to accept that it is okay, for instance, to allow my finances to break even. I don’t have to sacrifice my time to some fat cat I don’t know so that I can stow it all away in the name of some dream that will never materialise. Or some dream that I might not even want when – or if – I ever get there.I have started to live for the moment, and to appreciate the small things that bring enjoyment to each day, rather than just crossing days, weeks and years off as I approached the next deadline, or greater accomplishment.The truth – and I learnt this lesson the hard way – is that none of us know what is around the corner. Having some direction in mind can be a useful tool to attempt to get to where you think you want to be, but there are no guarantees you’ll get there, nor promises you’ll be happy when you do.I live a simple life now. I do the things I want to do in this moment in time, not knowing exactly where they’ll take me; and trying not to worry about where I might end up. Before, life was a regimented affair rather like an unpleasant residential camp. Now, it’s an adventure.

How do I help a lost friend find direction in his or her life?

You can't.You can singlehandedly find something that your friend is good at and what your friend will be happy doing, but until that person would decide to join you in this endeavor, your efforts will be fruitless.You can put the world at someone's feet, yet if they fail to appreciate it and see no need to do anything with it, it will be all in vain.Once your friend's desire and enthusiasm for life spring again, you can certainly lend your helping hand but not before that.