My girlfriend spends much more time with her best friend than with me. Why?
The boyfriend-girlfriend and the best friend-best friend relationships are very different levels. She probably knows her best friend much longer than you, they connect on different levels and they are comfortable doing and saying what they are doing or saying. Best friends are like a safety net or a home port. Maybe she is there to listen because her divorced parents do not listen when she needs them. You cannot compete with the best friend because you and her (or him, if it was a guy) have totally different roles. What you need to do is be there for her and maximize your boyfriend role. You can tell her "whatever is bothering you, you can talk to me". The question is, are you mature enough to support her? Do you have something wise to say? Maybe the best friend does. You cannot tell her "don't go to these events with your best friend, go there with me". Think of things that she would love doing with you, like your shared passions or hobbies etc. Something that will improve your relationship. It is not the amount of time, it is the quality of the time spent that counts.If you do all this and it still does not work, what you probably have is an immature partner who doesn't know what it requires to be in a relationship.
I kissed my best friends girl friend. I know it sounds bad. Please help.?
The storys pretty long. But I don't know who to ask for help, so plase listen and help me. I kissed my best friends girlfriend. I've said sorry, over and over but he won't listen to me he won't even talk to me. The girl, Annie- she just walked away. She did nothing. We both know he'd take her back but he won't take me back little known talk to me. I've liked any ever since I met her. I didn't tell anyone, because I didn't think it would matter. Then, (let's call him John) John asked her out- he didn't know about my intentons till a year later when I told him. So John knew I've always liked Annie but that doesn't change anything. I stood by his side, watching them touch and kiss. One night Annie came to my house. As soon as I opened the door she kissed me and I let her. Until I tasted the liquor on her lip- but john was standing there in the doorway. I've tried to explain. Talk to him. Leave notes. I'm so torn. He's been my best friend for seven years now. I don't want that to change. He finally talked to me, forgave me even apologized! But then I found him and my little sister togother. Were seniors and she's a freshmen. I don't know how i feel about it. John didn't tell me about her, until I saw them at school. Jane said she never told him I was he older brother. John didn't know. I never introdued them- or maybe five years ago when he wouldn't have remembered. What do I do? Johns a great guy, but the way he kisses my little sister- I don't know how to tell him to knock j it off. Jane loves him! He's her world even though she won't admit it. After being such a bad friend I feel like I should let John kiss her and be with her. He won't hurt her. But how do I go along with this? I mean when he talks about there make outs- he realizes oh wait, it's your little sister. And stops talking. I don't want my little sister to be the reason for our friendship to end. Help? Any ideas? Other then "just talk to him"? All ideas appreciated!
My girlfriend has a guy best friend and they are very close. What should I do?
The best cure for this situation would be to make your girl feel exactly the way you do.If she can have a guy best friend, am pretty sure you too must be having a number of girls around you. Start by being more social with your people and that of course doesn't include your girlfriend. If she has one guy best friend which creeps you out, you can probably get along to have more than one girl best friends that you can talk about to your girlfriend WHEN she creeps you out with her guy best friend (obviously coming to a point of kissing them in front of your girlfriend might just take some time so avoid doing that :p).In a nutshell, do th things that she does to make you feel offended. If the same things that you do start creeping her out and makes her jealous, you have just proved a point which she now understands and your problem is on the correct path of being solved.If she is cool with your girlfriends and sees all of it as pretty normal, then I think it would become a lot easier for you to make peace with her actions since now you have distractions when she sort of fucks your brain out.In any case, your problem is solved!
My best friend's girlfriend broke up with him, what should I do?
Hey man,, i went through the same thing with my ex-bf.. ): i was exactly like your friend, i was so depressed and i wanted to kill myself.. it took over my life and i almost didnt graduate High School cuz of it. even though i wanted to kill myself, what i needed most was someone to be there with me at all times. id say, be there with him at all times as much as you can and try finding something you like to do and do it with him (: he needs support for probably everything xP what i did was hip-hop dancing with my friend and it actually helped me take my mind off of it ((: id recommend that, but if youre not into that kind of stuff, you should do boxing or go to the gym (: do something that you can make a goal for. it usually takes at least 3 months to get over a relationship like that. For me, it took about 5 months. it seems like forever, but if you dont give up even though it hurts, your best friend is going to thank you and itll even make a stronger bond between the two of you ((: i wish i can help you more, but this is all i can tell you as of right now xP if you need more help, you can ask me (:
I hate my best friend's girlfriend, what to do?
She is so annoying. She is always this condescending person and generally is just a rude b@#ch. She calls me out on all the things that i'm self conscious about. One time I invited him and her to a jog with this girl I had met elsewhere. She came and in front of the girl I brought she just started pointing out all my shortcomings. I wanted to ******* throw her in traffic. My friend didn't do anything. It makes me angry that someone I felt I would be friends with for the rest of my life happens to have found someone that can't make me stand his demeanor around her. He was and is to an extent still a nice person, but I feel she always takes advantage of him. She is a straight up controlling *****. Doesn't help that her voice and laugh shatters glass, i.e. she's a damn hyena. This is his first long term relationship and she is literally a nympho. He used to tell me stories about how his old roommates would have a serious case of public display of affection and how they would always have their girls over. He's crossed the line displaying both those characteristics since he's met her. While i'm watching TV and they join me sometimes, she is all over him. On the same couch, so don't you guys think that's a bit inappropriate? He apologizes for it later when she's not around, but goes on and does the same **** the next day and then the next. What's the point for apologizing if you're gonna repeat it? He is in lust, and I can't stand her guts anymore. I don't want to play fire with fire and call her out on the numerous things that I could. She is a girl and i'm a guy, it wouldn't stand well. He's my best friend and I don't feel like I can confront him about this because I fear his stance is gonna be somewhere I won't respect and it will just send the remaining friendship I have with him spiraling downwards.
Is it okay for my girlfriend to have a male best friend?
It all depends with your girlfriend. What kind of a person is she? If she has many guy friends and doesn't fear telling you about them, especially the ones who hit on her, then it may be OK.But if she has few guy friends, and doesn't tell you about them, that is a red light. If she has many guy friends it means she knows how to handle herself around guys. She knows boundaries. If she has few guy friends, it means she doesn't really know that much about guys, and one of them may just sweep her off her feet.My best friend is a girl who has a bf she loves. Normally we talk about almost everything. But when it comes to her rship, she changes the subject. We can only talk lightly on it. She doesn't even tell me about her rship problems. She sorts them out with her bf. She also refuses to flirt with me, lol. If I initiate it, she laughs and either leaves me on read or changes the subject. She her boundaries.She has many many guy friends. She's overly friendly and knows how to handle herself around them. Even those who hit on her, she knows how to refuse, and they still remain friends.So, yes she can have a male best friend. But you need to be confident that she knows her boundaries and won't end up falling for him. And the amount of communication she makes with you and attention she gives you should be twice as much as what she gives him.Good luck.
My best guy friend's girlfriend hates me?
One of my best guy friend's (named Jordon) has a gf who he's been dating for about a week now. His girlfriend is so rude to me. Like when I text Jordon, she'd get on his phone and say"Jordon's too busy with a more important female" or something rude like that. Jordon's told her to be nice but then she'd give him a doggy face and say "but Jordon, you're my baby" and he'd melt away. I know my best friend. I don't like him that way either because he's like the guy version of me. Shy and quiet but also can be loud, doesn't always speak his mind but sticks up for what he believes in and stuff like that. We're both Asian so we even look like brother & sister (I swear he's like my twin or something) but his girlfriend is just so rude to me. He's tried to break up with her but she says if he does, she'll make sure she convinces his parents I'm harassing their son.. Help? He's like my brother..
What should I do if I have started liking my best friend's girlfriend?
I've known plenty of people like you before. Thank God, I'm starting to get rid of them in my life. You have a sickness. Everything someone else has you feel you are entitled to, because you're in love with yourself and only yourself. Like a kid in a play ground who thinks all the toys are his. You're fine playing with the red truck, until you see someone happy with a blue truck, so you go and take that one too. You’ve never grown up. You're not a "lady's man". You're an insecure, narcissist, who is taking advantage of your friend. Don't you know its cheating to have your friend do all the hard work, while you use his relationship with her to slowly get emotionally close to his girl. Be able to get emotionally close to her when she is single. That's what real relationships are, that's what he did. You didn't. Find your own. You're just the "other guy" to her. And she is just the "forbidden fruit" to you. It's the same ancient story told a million times before since the history of mankind. What all mythology, religion, and story telling has told us since the beginning of us writing things down, is that YOU are what's wrong with the world. Always wanting something more, something that doesn't belong to you. It's your choice. You're not star-crossed lovers. You've put yourself in this situation, and you are consciously walking down this path. All the while asking for help when you're the one taking every step closer. No one is pushing you. Reality is, there is no blossoming romance of “forbidden love”. It's hormones and false illusions of the-grass-is-greener-on-the-other-side. You can chase your fantasy of, "What if?" You can chase your fantasy of, "She really doesn't like him". You can run with your countless bullshit justifications in your head, because they make you feel better about your choices, but it doesn't change a thing. You're still a pussy who isn't man enough to find his own girl. Cowboy up, wank one off, and go find a girl that you're not going to screw up a family, or friendship for.
My best friends girlfriend doesn't like me, should I be worried for our friendship?
The onus for that is on your best friend. A fair number of men and women can't handle their partner having close friends of the opposite sex. But, that is 100% their own insecurities and issues on display. It's not the friend's fault.Also, just because your best friend's girlfriend doesn't like you doesn't mean your friendship with your best friend is automatically in danger, unless said best friend always brings the girlfriend along. In a healthy relationship, both people still maintain their own social circles and hang out WITHOUT the partner sometimes.If you and the best friend make and spend time together, hanging out, without the girlfriend in tow, I don't see an issue. If the girlfriend MAKES a huge issue of your hanging out, insisting your best friend is cheating/etc, the onus is still on your best friend.Now, if your best friend won't go anywhere without the girlfriend, I would be more concerned, because it will always be a bone of contention between you and her. And in the end your best friend will have to choose one or the other. If he does choose the girlfriend, he's no longer your friend, even if the relationship ends. I would never speak to him again after that.But there's no need to worry, because you can't DO anything to change what your best friend does. All I can advise you to do is release your worry and avoid giving him ultimatums. If he disappears after awhile, he's made his choice no matter what words come out of his mouth. And I would treat it the same as if he explicitly left.