People think I am weird and avoid me because I am quiet and avoid small talk. I have tried my whole life to change this, but it seems that I am just a born introvert. How can I change, and should I change?
Hi. I am an introvert myself. So much so that I get minute panic attacks in my head and heart when I have to meet new people. And through a major part of my life I tried to change it. I even went to a counsellor for this. And it is very dissatisfying because this is a part of you and you can't change it. So it used to make me feel even worse, incomplete and less wanted.It is only recently I started accepting who I am. Being an introvert we have the gift of having more meaningful conversations. And believe me I have made some truly amazing gem of friends. I may not be a social butterfly but I know that each and every friend in my life is someone I can trust with all my secrets and sorrows. I can be completely helpless in front of them and the only thing they will do is help me out. When they go through troubles they come to me and not one of their social butterflies. I not saying extroverts are bad. They are brilliant people too.In fact a lot of my friends are extroverts.It is more about being at ease with yourself and your awkwardness. Accept it and believe me it is not just theoretical. You can really try it. Acceptance of introversion will really help you deal with this.You can always inbox me in case you need any help. :))
If we let white people use the N word all the time will that help end racism?
It seems to me that by this day in age one word should not be as taboo, offensive, enciteful, etc, and powerful as this one word. If white people could use it atleast the racists would be out there in front for everybody to see. And what's worse than someone being a closet racist... Not much! And the ones who aren't racist don't have to feel guilty for using this word. Yeah the word has a history but so do a lot of words that are still tossed around today. No one should forget what's happened to us in the past but to be shackled by a word from the past is petty. The history of this word is gruesome but the recent history leads me to believe that holding it sacred to just use by blacks isn't a good idea either. Let Imus have his fun with it, he doesn't make my day any harder or easier with his opinions anyway. Or does he? Let me know.
Would the world be a better place if people were honest all the time?
Honestly? Probably not, I mean who knows, my a.s.s may look big in those jeans, my lover may not really love me even though he says he does and I very well may be adopted but I wouldn't want to be told those things just because it's the truth. It would hurt me.