How to help my friend with depression?
My bestfriend has been depressed for a while now and it's starting to get worse.... She's cutting herself she's watching depressing videos... Crying... And she doesn't know why.. I'm trying my best to comfort her and make her laugh and everything but nothing is working? What do I do?
How to help a depressed friend?
A couple months ago I learned that my best friend had a tumblr (one of my classmates showed it), which I had no idea about. So, I look on it and am shocked that it has these depressing posts like,"some mornings I wish I had never woken up". Or "no matter how deep I cut, the pain doesnt go away". She even writes about he suicidal fantasies and posts pictures about anorexia and cutting. I am so upset that she never told me about her depression. She doesn't know that I look at her tumblt. I am so worried about her and don't know what to do. If I tell her parents, I know that they will get mad at her (don't ask me why, her relationship with them is bad and I don't know why). I feel like a shitty best friend for not even knowing and I don't know how to help her. And if I tell a school counselor, they will probs just call her parents. How do I tell her that I know about her depression through her tumblr? How do I help? Thanks for any serious answers.
Help, my friend is depressed!?
My best friend is depressed. Her dad is always away and her mom is always shouting at her for no apparent reason. She feels really alone and thinks no one cares about her. But that's not true. I care about her a lot. And all I want is for her to be happy. I also know that she does have a lot of good friends that care and will support her, but she refuses to believe that. We recently got into a fight (I accidentally hurt her feelings) so now that makes her feel even more like no one cares. I apologized and told her that i was wrong to hurt her feelings and i didn't ever mean to hurt her. I've begged for her forgiveness and told her I would do anything for her to forgive me but she still won't. So now she's depressed and hates me. I don't what to do! I care about her so much and love her. And I want her to be happy. She just feels really alone. I've tried supporting her and telling her that i'm there for her. I've told her that I'm willing to listen to anything she has to say, and I'll always be there for her, but because we had the argument, it doesn't seem to work. I've also told her that she's not alone and there are people that care about her and will support her but she won't listen. I don't know what to do! Please help!
How can I help a depressed friend online?
One thing I’ve noticed my friend do is that she makes funny videos of herself either saying or doing stupid shit that she knows will make the other person laugh. I’ve received wayy too many of these unintentionally and eventually today we’re at a stage where I have her picture in the snapchat dog filter as my wallpaper for it makes me laugh everytime I look at it.On a much more serious note, we could start by using “we” instead of “you” for then they know that they aren’t alone. Listen to what they have to say.Don’t probe unless necessary, have them pour their heart out to you.Its no longer about what could have been the scenario, but more about what can be done at the moment, what they could essentially look forward to. Remind them of all the good times that you’ve had together. Everything that’d bring them to smile out of genuinity. Remember not to stray into an area that eventually turned sour for it will only worsen the situation.Always show them that better days await them for Luke from college always said “This too shall pass.” It’s true.Having them skype you to talk to them at midnight isn’t something that’s unheard of.Let them know that you are willing to do anything and everything for them which is true for you wouldn’t be asking this question otherwise.Let them know how important they are, for you, for the people they’re around with, most importantly themselves.Know that the world is filled with beautiful people, some of which get depressed over measly reasons that barely hamper their mission in life. Our time is expensive to waste it on regretting anything that barely affects our future.That’s right. We’re in this together.There’s always someone else who’s had it worse and if not you’re going to be the person that sets the bar high for everyone else. I have faith in you.I believe in you for you help the world become a better place.I believe in you for you are who you are.I don’t know you or your friend but I wish you guys all the very best.I hope your friend feels better.
I think my friend is depressed...help?
Okay, so me and my friend are currently high school students, if that helps at all. Me, her and a couple of our other friends met in theater last year (freshmen year) and became friends pretty quickly. It was great, the four of us became pretty close. All of us but the friend in question were also in band, so she decided to join band this year, too, to spend more time with us and her boyfriend. Anyway, she's changed this year. There are two theater two classes and she was put in one and the rest of us in another. We're in band together, even have the same class period, but over the course of the year we have ceased to talk. She sits with me and a couple other girls at lunch but she never talks to any of us anymore (she used to at the beginning of the year) and instead leaves to go "practice" in the band hall as soon as she finishes lunch. It seems like she never laughs anymore, and she broke up with her boyfriend completely out of the blue a few months ago. I know she has problems at home; she's the oldest of like six girls and she hates her father (who moved out years and years ago) for reasons she won't talk about. Her parents always forget to pick her up after games and I've taken to forcing her to call them as soon as we get out (she doesn't have a phone of her own). I know the situation is bad because one of her sisters ran away a while ago. She came back a day or two later, but still. I know how much it sucks being the oldest of a bunch of kids because that's me, too. She's always tired, she's taken a very cynical look to life, and she's pulling away from her friends. I know she's depressed; I know the symptoms because I am. I want to sit down and have a talk with her, about, I don't know, maybe seeing the school counselors or something? But I feel like it also makes me a hypocrite because I would never dream of hauling my OWN butt down there. It's a little different because I don't really care about what happens to me; I've been severely depressed since eighth grade and nobody's given a ****, but I don't want the same thing to happen to my friend...any suggestions?
How do you help someone with depression?
I have a beautiful girlfriend who I love and adore but sadly she has been through a horrific ordeal that has lead to her being diagnosed with depression. She is often sad and worryful and is always worrying about my health, which is lovely but i would rather her feel as though im safe. She worries about me getting into a car crash or planes crashing into her backgarden. I realise that maybe this is because she feels as though the world is against her but i would love her to see the greater side of life and what it does have to offer. I dont earn money, i go to college but i would love to do something for her or even just say something that would make her know how much i love her. I don't know what to say to her when she is upset because i know what the reason is and it's something that cant be fixed its sortof like her pet dog died but obviously a lot worse! i often find her just gazing into space which breaks my heart and i sometimes notice her mood just dropping. I always ask her what's wrong? but she says either '' nothing '' or she just doesnt speak and it doesnt matter how many times i ask her she just will cry or i will get frustrated that she isnt telling me and we end up rowing. I love her so much and she doesnt need arguments right now but i dont know what the best way is to help her get through it. I have been through hard times but never depression and i know its a dark time which you cannot just simply ' pull ' someone out of. I will always listen to her and she knows that but she does find it very challenging to speak to me which hurts but i guess that's the way it is. Have you ever been through a loved one with depression? what were there symptoms and how did they get through it? How did you help them? Thank-you for all your answers and advice.
How to help a friend with depression when I m depressed myself?
So, I have this friend. Known her for two years. Real sweet girl. Over the last two months, her friends have become hethanistic bitches over a misunderstanding, her mother is sarcastic to the point where it hurts my friend, and she s upset that her boyfriend will leave her once we graduate, since he s going into the military and doesn t like long distance relationships. I ve become her only friend to rant and cry to. At first, I was glad to be able to help, but now... I m just irritated. I hear the same thing every day, yet I see her with her friends and she ll come crying to me the next day over something they did. Not to mention all her mother says is sarcasm... I feel awful that I m irritated by this. I want to help. But the fact that she came to the guy in class who s had depression since he was nine and self-harms on the regular (don t worry, I m trying to stop) wasn t the best decision on her part. I m cynical towards her problems because, when I compare them to mine, they re so Insignificant. I just want to be able to help her, and I don t know how to anymore. Advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.