How Can I Help Others Who Are In Need

Do we need help from others?

In some ways yes, in others no.You may not realize it, but everyday someone else is helping you.I notice myself taking note of certain things people do. For example, on one particular instance I was in an exceptionally bad mood. Typical teenage angst aside, everything was going wrong and today nothing could make me smile.But then a man held the door for me at the super market. I didn't think much of it at first. I just thanked him and continued on my way. It wasn't an out of the ordinary gesture. Many people have held the door for me, and I’ve held it for many others, but as I rounded the bread isle I kept thinking about what he did for me. I noticed that this man was kind enough to do something for a complete stranger and because of his actions, this man reminded me that there is good all around, even if I don't see it all the time. After I thought about that for a second, I decided to turn my day around. I realized there was no point to waste a perfectly good day being upset. Especially not after life showed me that random act of kindness. And I had a pretty great day!This is a subtle example of how another person has helped me.I think it would be naive to depend on other people to always come to your aide. Although there are many people who give great verbal advice, paying attention to another persons actions can be much more helpful.Many people think of “help” as a “do it for me.” It’s just like asking your mom for help on a paper and expecting her to write it all. That kind of help isn't helpful.In order for another person to help you, their help must resonate with you on a deeper level. In other words, take what they say or do and use it as a way to help yourself.Other people can help you in many ways, but they can only guide you. The only person who can really help is you.Listen, observe, ask questions, think, analyze and other people's “help” will turn into your own. Even if it’s as simple as a stranger holding the door for you to make you realize there is always something to smile about.

How can I help others when I need help myself?

Dear Quoran, First you need to help and  improve yourself, then only you will be able to help others. Following are some suggestions :-Make yourself busy. Start doing some work. If you're just sitting idle, you will just keep thinking of something or the other, continuously running your mind, which will make you suffer. The same time can be used for doing valuable things.Sports and hobbiesStart taking part in outdoor sports and other activities like swimming, etc. Also if you have some hobbies go ahead and follow them.Become socially active Talk with people. Try to make new friends. Engage in conversation with new people. Start attending social gatherings. This will not only increase your social circle, but also you will gain confidence and start enjoying the company of others.Volunteer/ Help otherWork for some organization that helps the poor and the needy. Try to help others. By doing this you will help yourself as you will gain satisfaction and self contentment by helping others. Also, you may bring a smile to someone's face which is priceless :)Meditation (most important)And also, if you want, You could try doing meditation. It is really nice thing to meditate as it gives joy, bliss and happiness from within.If you want you could try SAHAJA YOGA meditation. It is the easiest one, you won't even need to do much efforts  and it's totally FREE. It will help you alot (physically, mentally, emotionally and in all other aspects of your life).Wish you all the best !

Why am I always the one helping others and when I need someone nobody comes for me?

I have the exact same problem. I give money, driving, time, labour, friendship, work, DIY, chores, everything. Yet no one will lift a finger in return.I think its a mental illness, we do not have doctors that can diagnose if people have this problem. I do not like people doing anything for me anyway. I do not like feeling like i have to owe someone. I help others, but if i need help back its never done. I think society is set up like this. The problem is highlighted when person after person do not do anything.I tried to describe how it feels. Its like pushing a grand piano up a mountain, the moment you let go its straight back to the bottom.Empathy is very rare now. Look at world leaders and the wars, this would not be possible if there was empathy. I think the system is designed on greed. We get lured into wanting more and more things. People work hard. People are desperate to pay their rent, we are not allowed to live freely “off the grid”, so we all must work to pay the bills. There is no room left for empathy. Even in the bible its was said over and over that greed and money lenders are the root of the problem.When no one else helps anymore, then you have to take care of yourself. I think a ”recession” is where in society everyone has asked the next person for their help ideas and no one wants to do it anymore.If you feel hurt by others being pathetic, then just look after yourself. Never put others in charge of things that need to be done, If you handle it best then leave it your own reliable hands. The problem is where you expect others to come in their own accord.You have to assume the least of others and when certain people come wanting to do more then keep them in your life. Its that initial want from others that you are looking for.It does hurt when you make 99% of the puzzle,and that person cant be bothered to put the last piece in.So just step back, keep your money to yourself, enjoy taking care of your self, respecting yourself.