My Best friend thinks I'm replacing her?
So one of my best friend just got a boyfriend and she haven't been telling anyone else but me about what's been happening between her and her boyfriend.. And one day she decided to tell everyone about it..and before it all happened, she told me to keep it a secret. On the day that she decided to tell everyone, she gathered everyone(4 people, including myself) on a same chat(facebook) and said that she had something important to tell.. She told me on another private chat that it's my turn to say it.(she didn't say it YET). So I understood that she wanted ME to say it to everyone(she actually wanted to say it). Naturally(i thought), she was being shy on the chat. So I simply told everyone that she got a new boyfriend. Aparentlly, that was NOT what she was asking for. So I said sorry to everyone(yeah, I know. I was an idiot.) and I backed out. One of the people there(My BFF, I knew her since 4th grade) got the idea that since I was the only one being told about everything, she was being replaced by ME as my friend's(the one that got a new boyfriend) new best friend.Complicated right? I said that I was terribly sorry and never intended this.. I'm so confused! What should I do??? Please help!
I told my best friend that I love her, but she said she just want us to be best friends like before. How should I face this problem?
Thanks for A2A. The reason is as of now she may not feels or thinks of you in that way . But she still wants you to be a part of her life as a bestie. So be it. That will add more value to you on her life. But I know how tough it would be for you just to be a friend when you wants to be more than that. Now that she knew about your feelings towards her, there can be chances that her perspectives on you can change one day. But dont relay on that to happen, just try to be as you! When the time come you will get an answer. If it didnt turns out to be positive ,its not the end there will be a better person out there somewhere. I wish you good luck.
My best friend is going through a break up. How do I help her through it?
Here are 5 stages of grief that people experience post any tragedy (Not necessarily all of them, and not in any particular order):DenialAngerBargainDepressionAcceptanceIt is normal for your friend to grieve over the cessation of her romantic relationship. I ain't no expert, but here's what I did last month when my best friend went through the emotional turnmoil of separation from her beloved.Here is what you should Do :Be near. I invited her over to my place for the weekend. Longing and solitude is a bad combination.Let her begin the talk. You don't know what stage of grief she is in currently so please don't compel her to “Talk about it”. That said, let her know you're near when she does feel like talking.Provide water and tissue box. Even when you might not feel like providing a crying shoulder, it is basic courtesy to provide water and tissues to a crying person.Comfort her. My friend punched me really bad when I offered to please her like her guy would, so wear your guard. No you don't have to cuddle. Just order her favorite food and drinks. Most people don't have the power to say NO to scrumptious Biriyani.Don't fake empathy. If a friend who's been single all her life says “I know how it feels terrible” the person would have no choice but to roll their eyes in despise. Be genuine, at all times.Watch movies. I did so becuase I could no longer hear her sob. Play some animated, light-hearted flick. Restrict watching romantic films, you know why.Here is what you should NOT DO:Don't hover around. A person going through a heartback needs alone time to contemplate the changes ahead. Don't force your company.Don't bring up the “guy” in conversation. If she initiates the talk, do be the good friend that you are and lend an ear.Don't say negative things about her ex to comfort her. Eliminate these phrases:“I always knew he was a Casanova”“It's better that it ended sooner”“We all knew that this day would come”The thing is she already knows all shortcomings of her ex way better than you ever will and still chose to love him irrevocably. Now to be polite, she might agree with you, but it would make her sad deep down.4. Don't stop her from stalking his profiles 53rd time, even though she says it the last. People always do what they want to do. You can't stop anyone.Go on, help your friend. Be the friend you'd like to be by your side during tough times.Source :Stage of Grief Models: Kubler-RossBunch of friends with tragic life experiences.