Fiance's 11 year old daughter to be my Maid of Honor?
First off, I think it is a good idea to incorporate his kids in the wedding. It will be a great way for them to show their support of this new relationship. It is your wedding and you two can do it any way you want. But you two better get on the same page. You could have 3 maids of honor or none or any other combination in between. He may think he is helping your dilemna of choosing a friend for maid of honor, but you just need to talk to him about this. Maybe there is more going on (like him having trouble picking a best man or groomsmen or other feelings of complication coming back from his 1st wedding). I know the tradition is to have matching numbers on both sides, but you can flip that too. I was in a wedding where there were more girls than guys. Everyone walked in solo. Then at the end, some walked out in pairs and others walked out as 3 (1 guy and 2 girls). My main point, don't worry about what anyone thinks besides you and your fiance. Consider the feelings of your friends and family, but ultimately make the decision based on what you and your fiance feel. Sit down and talk it out and figure what is on his mind. In every wedding, there are factors that are important and others that you don't care as much about. If this is an important issue to you, then you have to present your case. Explain how important it is to have your close friends involved and find a way to meet in the middle. It sounds like it is very important to have his kids in this so make sure you take his wishes as seriously as you want him to take yours. And your friends should be ok with any role that they take whether it is maid of honor or bridesmaid or host or none of those. If they are truly your friends, they will support any decision you make. Personally, I think the smaller the bridal party, the easier it is to manage. No matter what, make sure that the people that you ask will actually be of help to you. Your bridal party usually helps with Bridal shower, bachelorette party, and a lot of the little things that come with planning a wedding (like preparing invitations or favors or taking trips to meet with vendors). Good luck!
Fiancee's grandmothers name is delores...need to incorporate it into my baby's middle name?
My fiancee's grandmothers name is Delores. I want to incorporate her name into my daughter's middle name. I have come up with Delore so far. I think that regardless of what the first name is Delores just sounds too old to use so I would like names that are very very similar. Please help, it's very important to the hubby. Our daughters first name will be Chloe (Delore). Thanks a bunch for your help.
How do i hint to my fiance that i want flowers? lol?
it doesn't count when you have to ask or hint, it doesn't mean anything then. Unfortunately men rarely get the hint anyway and you can't make him be romantic. The only thing I can think that might help is if you start making more effort in being romantic yourself, do little things for him, have a romantic candle lit dinner ready one evening with a nice bottle of wine. Make a bubble bath for the two of you to share with some champaign. Arrange a picnic. But him something you know he has been wanting etc. Romance isn't a one way street. As for the flowers, like I said hinting doesn't work. just one day mention (in passing) that a girl like to receive flowers now and again to make her feel special. Then don't mention it again. 9/10 This works, just mentioning something once in a round about way, one day he will be going past a flower shop and pick some up, he will totally think it was his own idea and won't even remember you mentioning it. When you drop obvious hints or ask why you don't get flowers etc, they feel nagged and attacked, so are less likely to do it. When ita just mentioned they store the information and think it was their idea so they feel proud of themselves for being so clever. This works for most things not just flowers. Just make sure its always just once and a positive. E.g. Wouldn't it be lovely to go to that restaurant one day. I would love a handbag like that Wouldn't that rug look amazing in the living room. It would be great if you put the toilet seat down You catch my drift. Said once and in a nice way, they take it on more and then remember later on.
What are some fun ways to celebrate my fiance's birthday?
If he’s your fiancé, you should know about his likes, dislikes, habits and hobbies. You should incorporate things that he likes to do or wants to do into a party or celebration. It also depends on your budget-don’t be so elaborate on his 29th birthday that you are at a loss on the 30th.Tickets to a sporting event or a weekend at a fishing cabin. Trips to favorite cities or one that he’s always wanted to visit. Nice restaurants, popular plays, golf outings, beach trips, or a party at his favorite sports bar.If he’s fairly social, plan something to include acquaintances, work friends, too. Some of these ideas are better for your fiancé and his best buddies. Some are something for the two of you. Sort out what best suits his personality.The important thing to keep in mind is that it’s about him, not you. If you buy tickets for him to see his favorite baseball team and you find games boring, make the tickets for him and a baseball buddy. If he likes to fish and you don’t, well create something memorable for him. If he is shy or quiet, don’t plan a large party.Good luck!!
How can you incorporate a male best friend into the wedding?
Lately, there has been a trend of having a "man of honor", basically in the same role as the maid of honor or bridesmaid, only it's a male friend. If you don't already have someone to do it, a male best friend to "give you away" would be appropriate and sweet. Years ago, the girl went from her father's home to her husband's home, so the parents would "give her away" in the ceremony. Today, the girl is on her own for several years before getting married, and depend more on a family of friends than actual family, so it makes sense to have the family of friends give her away. I've seen it done where the friend escorted the bride halfway, passed her off to the father, and the father escorted her to the groom, or vice versa. You could also have him be an usher, and he can seat your mother and take a place with your family. Have him read a poem or Scripture, if he has musical talent let him sing or play an instrument. You can even have him get ordained so he can officiate. Keep in mind, too, that even if he doesn't have a title and a job to do in the ceremony itself, he can take part in the reception in the role of an honored guest, and can even give a toast like the best man and maid of honor will.
How can I incorporate my boyfriends foot fetish into sex?
My boyfriend has a foot fetish and I love it. He will kiss my feet and suck my toes. But I have no idea how I can incorporate his fetish into our actual sex. He loves on my feet during foreplay but when the actual act begins I don't know how to use it. I know it would drive him crazy if I found a way. I want to surprise him, so any help would be appreciated!! By the way, to any woman who thinks foot fetishes are weird, I used to think so until I dated a man who actually had one. It's wonderful!!
How do I accept my fiance's different approach to work? I am more entrepreneural and he is going the traditional 'moving up the ranks' auto mechanic job. How do I stop selfishly wanting him to change?
Stop making it about you and what you want to start. You are going to marry the man you love, I presume, including his perception of the world. In particular his view of work. As a spouse, you will want to change your partner for better. In my case, my fiance forced me to care about long term health. I quit smoking, started to exercise and eat better. But I wanted this change too. It was mutually agreed for change but it was up to me to change not for my partner to change me. If your partner likes what he does do not change that. It will create resentment and break you apart over time. Maybe in time he will open his own shop, maybe not. You will love him regardless if you let go of this idea you hold.Besides it's better to have one grounded in stability if your an entrepreneur open to large risk just in case things go sour.
I’m an atheist, but my fiancé believes in God. Should I forgo traditional wedding vows or keep the religious parts in for him and his family?
I’m an atheist, but my fiancé believes in God. Should I forgo traditional wedding vows or keep the religious parts in for him and his family?Here’s a novel idea nobody’s doing anymore;Talk to your mate and find out what he wants and needs to feel fulfilled.I’m not him. I’m an anti-theist dude who needs a shave, a haircut, and a few billion dollars in an off-shore account. I don’t know you, I don’t know him. As such, my advice is valueless because I’m an outsider in the process.Whenever something is most relevant to another person, it’s always best to ask them for their opinion, rather than rely on the opinions of people who don’t have a rooster in the fight or a dog in the hunt.You two are embarking on a journey that can last decades. You two really ought to figure out if you can agree on what kind of car you’re taking before you start pre-booking the itinerary.Use your words. None of that relationship lovey-dovey crap “Oh, I don’t mind, whatever you like”. Get it down to realistic conversation that’s actually going somewhere. “Yes or No; does it matter to you to have religious undertones dripping off the marriage ceremony? If yes, list them specifically.” It seems hard, cold, and impersonal.Well…it is, but that’s the way it needs to be; y’all need to have figured out how much of the marriage is going to be you kowtowing to his religious whims before there’s a kid involved and you’re being bullied into letting a doctor chop off part of his penis because some old book said that’s the thing to do, even if you disagree.Think ahead and get this stuff worked out before it matters. This guy could “believe, but not avidly” or he could be more fervent than any of us could possibly imagine. You need to figure out this stuff with him, not us.