How do you deal with being indecisive?
I am going to generalize here and maybe I will get lucky. Most people who are indecisive had a disruption in the decide-and-be-rewarded part of being human. This process of decide-and-be-rewarded usually starts very small. Example: Mom says to 3-year-old you, "what color shoes are we going to wear today?" In front of you are two colors, red and green. You take a while and finally pick one color. Sometimes you need Mom or Dad to act like this is a big deal, exaggerate your choices, and offer simple reasoning. Anyway, you finally pick a color and get a big excited, "Oh, that's a great choice!" call out from Mom. You have now had your first lesson in decide and be rewarded. This process gets more profound as the years add up, but the most important piece is that somehow, somewhere, we learn to celebrate our decision making. Then we keep practicing and working up to bigger and bigger decisions. It is also important that the process of decide-reward-for-deciding does not get blow back at too young an age. In other words, overly critical parenting or siblings can undo or damage the decide-reward-for-deciding part of you. Good news: never too late to start celebrating your decisions. Start small, just as if you were beginning this life. Inside yourself, quietly celebrate all kinds of decisions. At first it will feel silly, awkward, lame even. However, if you hang in there celebrating your decisions every day - you will definitely get must faster, stronger, better at trusting yourself to decide. Eventually, bigger decisions can be celebrated by sharing your accomplishment with others (who you know have your back.) Not every decision is going to be a winner but it will become evident that most decisions are not as important as we usually feel they are. If you have too much trouble doing what I have just laid out - then I would say go see someone who is really great at making decisions - like a life coach or a compassionate, adult decision making person you know. Ask for help.
My friend and I would like to become less indecisive. What are some everyday techniques we can try to be more decisive?
Indecisive in what way? Everyday whether you think so or not you make millions of decisions. If you mean you guys cant decide what to eat or what movie to see, just pick a "choice" that works for you. Maybe you guys go alphabetically or take turns choosing
What helps you to become less indecisive?
I think it starts with thinking less.I’ve had this exact problem most of my life. Eventually you have to find a way to re-wire your mind a little bit, and in doing so experience things more spontaneously. You may have heard people say “Live in the moment”.These kind of sayings hold real value. For example, if you couldn't decide what food to try in a restaurant, and everyone was waiting for you, it might end up that you chose something somebody else told you to eat. While there’s nothing wrong with a little debate and suggestions from friends, I’d argue part of the experience of eating in a restaurant is to discover something novel. Something you wouldn't usually find in your microwave.There may be 5 items on the menu you like the look of. Make a quick choice, and then enjoy the evening. Enjoy the conversation. Anticipate your food and be ready to discover.Life is less about ensuring every moment is comfortable, than it is about being prepared and excited to learn/grow through a diverse variety of experiences.The less you know about the world. The less you know about yourself.If the food isn’t great? well you’re choice is made easier next time.pT
How can I learn to be less indecisive and develop my own opinions?
How can I learn to be less indecisive and develop my own opinions?Okay, let me chunk it down for you.Know the root cause behind the indecisiveness that holds you back whenever you decide to develop your opinions.Fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of making a wrong decision are some of the factors that hinders one from making a decision.We often seek for advices and opinions from others because we deem ourself not worthy enough of being decisive. Stop this thinking right away.Let yourself be aware of the fact that we are Humans and as far as I know every Human make mistakes at some point or another.Seeking for opinions is fine but do remember to add some grain of salt in it and to inculcate your own opinions in that if need be, because It does not matter whom you take opinions from, at the end its you who suffer the consequences pertaining to the decision you made.Have the proper knowledge to boost yourself up. To have your opinions you need some solid evidence to support it so read as much as you can, gain knowledge from various sources.Start by making small decisions and keeping your opinion on small things which eventually would train you to become a good decision maker.Self-doubt is also one of the major factor responsible for our indecisive nature because we have a fear of getting embarrassed, trust me friend its you who thinks what others think of you and hinder yourself from being a good decision maker, annihilate this barrier and stop doubting yourself.We never really know who we are unless we put ourselves to test, know thyself you never know how much your opinion matters.Become self-dependent for little things which you think do no matter.At the end I would like to write some sentences in bold and rest I’ll leave it for you to decide who you want to be.If you think you aren’t qualified to make a good choice then you’re going to be afraid to make any choice, so embrace your decisions and keep your opinions whenever you feel it matters, and it often matters a lot.The world is a place to explore, and it will embrace you if you embrace it.Peace.
How do I stop being so indecisive?
I am extremely indecisive, I can plan something than totally change my mind and do a complete uturn. Usually, I regret it and go back to my original decision and then dilly dally some more. Tips on how to stop being so indecisive. Fortunately I am not indecisive in all areas of my life. For instance I am currently in DEP for the Air Force. Nonetheless, I am still very indecisive when it comes to certain things. I am hoping to be an Officer in the Air Force and I am afraid that my indecisiveness will hinder my future career. Any insight would be truly helpful.
INTP: Why are INTP indecisive? Why is it so hard for me to come down to a decision and stick to it?
As a Perceiver, you are able to see that what decision is the "best" decision is ultimately contingent. You think about and evaluate all the factors that play into making one option better than another, and that most of them aren't set in stone, but depend upon a number of other factors. Another way to say this is that as a strong Perceiver, you perceive that there isn't really just one "best" option. However, as a Rational (NT), you want to deal in absolutes and ultimate truths, things that are true "for all time" and in every circumstance. You want the decision that is objectively, unequivocally the best. So, you really are stuck! Your Rational self has a tendency to search for what your Perceiver self can see isn't really there! The thing that can help you become less indecisive is to let go of the notion that the decision you make must be the "best" one, or the one that accounts for the most circumstances. The best anyone can do is evaluate the set of contingencies at hand, and choose what looks like the best course, knowing that it may turn out later that something else would have been better. There are always unforeseen circumstances that may affect any decisions we make. Then we can learn from our failures as well as our successes, and gain wisdom.
What are subtle ways to become less stubborn and more indecisive?
What you describe are great and precious qualities you have. Most real writers are like you and wonder endlessly if they are on the right track.It is not a good idea to talk about your writing process to “people”: it tends to dilute your process, and it makes you vulnerable too early.I don’t think you are indecisive: you are happy with your villain, so that is done. Take notes: describe all your characters in a file and then all the parts (chapters) of the story (one idea or a series of competing ideas for the same chapter) in the other file. Constantly rework the plan of the story by shifting the list of events until it makes sense and you are satisfied. Make another file with details: what city? what kind of a bar? what smells (most writers have no nose, it is irritating to me), what time of the day, and therefore what colors, what weather, so what dress? So you have one page of such details per chapter. It does not mean that you should necessarily write down this information in the book: it means that such details should be in your mind when you write.You are doing good, just don’t talk about it.
How do you become less indecisive and move forward?
Practice.You are making little decisions all the time. This shirt or that one. This breakfast or that one. Start being mindful of the many decisions you are making every day.Trust yourself to make decisions on bigger issues. Understand that you will make the wrong choice sometimes. That’s part of life. Don’t be afraid of that. Use the best information you have available to you, your best guess about what the outcome will be and then make a decision and move on it.The more you do this, the better at it you will become. Good luck to you.
Why do I have such indecisive friends?
You sound like me. Whenever you try and do something subtly nice (in your case finding and suggesting a film for Everyone), somehow at the end of it, you're the bad guy. I completely get your frustration. What you need to do is step away from it. Just act cool and not show you are irritated. The next time they bring up this event, like if they ask to have another one of your film nights or whatever, just say you "don't feel like it, maybe later" and other neutral things. Hopefully in this time away from being at your place and failing to decide on what to watch efficiently, they'll realise they're being slow. Find other ways to show you are moving on and hopefully they'll learn to do the same too. Drop in these things casually in everyday situations, for example, you're wondering what to get for lunch - casually say 'I'm getting so-and-so', get it and eat it. It's one of those psychological things that should work. What you described is called The Bystander Effect - the larger the group of people the less likely they are to be able to do something/come to a decision. This is because responsibilty gets shared and diluted, that in the end no one really wants to come forward and 'do the deed' or whatever needs to be done. Continue what you do by having your own opinion, asking people what they want, stating your opinion, look for any disagreements, then put the DVD in! After that, you can fairly say I asked your opinion, you agreed. Also, try and state during your little discussion/decision on what to do that everyone will stick to what you all agreed on, or there's no point in having a discussion in the first place. Try not to be too negative though, you need to convince people your way (of being efficient) is the best. Add some humour and attain a sort of metaphorical ring-master attire to give you that charm to break the 'slowness' and get everyone's attention. You need to speak up and be the lively one and hopefully get rid of The Bystander Effect that's around you.
Why am i so indecisive all the time?
Oh, it's not because you're dumb, hey, i'm also indecisive and i'm the smartest person in my school! I think it's because you're very in to your future and you don't want to mess up so that you have to go through the consequences. Plus, you might feel that you may look stupid if you think one way and everyone else thinks the other way. Don't worry so much, just go with your instinct. No one can blame you for your opinion. Remember this is ur elite speaking. -Ciao