What should I do if I have no real friends? I have some friends, but they are circumstantial friends or acquaintances and they don't really care about me. I feel very lonely and depressed even though I'm surrounded by people.
Let me try to answer this for you from my point of view. To me, friends are baggage. And like every baggage they come with their own particular weight, only it changes by itself depending on their mood and environment.What do you really need a friend for?Tossing a few shots together every once in a while and listening to them bitching and moaning about how miserable their lives are? Yup, that's what you get when you need a friend to "share." You unload your baggage, get ready to take on some extra from them as well. Honestly, not my cup of tea. Sadly those are considered true friends of BFFs. Sit on the sidewalk and start crying, any decent guy would ask you what's wrong and maybe even listen a little. So, anyone can share your frustrations, even a total stranger. You don't need someone in particular to do that. So, let's cross off the sharing part then.Do you need a friend to go to the ball games, movies, theaters, concerts? Well, movies and theaters are no places to chitchat, at a ball game anyone can be your friend for that period of time, and concerts, well, sing dude, sing along.You need a friend to call late at night when you're miserable and feeling that melancholy slowly crawling upon you? Have a hobby, for Pete's sake. Start getting not good, very good at it. Or just put some music that makes you wanna jump up and down, or just for calming your nerves. You know, we humans are so lucky, cause we have something miraculous called music. What's left? Ooh, those dreadful holidays and weekends. Well, you said you have some circumstantial friends or acquaintances, so I'm sure they will have some plans which would fit you. Choose one of them, tag along, and go home exhausted to the blissful peace of your own space, away from any human interaction, which I'm sure you'll hate after that long day with so much of it.Human beings are in constant change. You are always changing, they are always changing and let's be honest, it's too much to ask for in these times for any kind of relationship to last that long and stay solid. Embrace the everyday change and accept that others go through that as well. That way, you won't feel the need to get too attached to other mortals and also, won't get frustrated when they, so rightfully, walk away. Space, my friend, space. Everyone needs it. Have it, and let others have it as well.
I don't feel like I have any real friends?
So I don't feel like I have any real friends. I mean I have friends that I can talk to, but I'm not really that close with them at all. I just want somebody I can talk to, laugh with and tell all my secrets to without being judged... What I really want is a best friend who I can do anything with. The only thing is, everybody seems to already have their best friends and I have this friend who I call my best friend and she calls me that too but really I just don't feel that close to her anymore. Also, I like this guy but they always go for he blondies... Or the ones who are complete social butterflies! Bottom line is, I feel lonely! I don't have a best friend (or any real ones) and no guy has ever liked me back. I don't feel depressed, just kind of sad that I've never truly connected with anyone before. I don't feel normal, not having a best friend and a bazillions other friends to text and have sleep overs with even if people don't have a gazillion other friends they usually have at least one best and really close friend! I never feel like I can be true self around anybody but my family. Help please?
What is the difference between a casual friend, an actual friend, and a close friend?
A casual friend is probably someone you say hi to and chat with a bit, but otherwise you have nothing to do with them. An actual friend is someone who you chat with, spend time with, and who listens to you when you have a problem, but can back out on you any time. A close friend is one who stands by you no matter what, you can disagree with, chat with, move away from, and still continue to communicate no matter what the cost. That's my idea of each one of those...
Can you make real friends online?
A friendship involves mutual trust and support. This can happen both online and offline. Friends made on an online platform are no less valid than friends made offline.I'd suggest solidifying your online friendships with offline interaction because the Internet can mask what people are really like. With the popularity of social media, you have all the tools to stay in touch with all your friends online. However, real friendships flourish through meet ups.
Do you make friends easily?
I agree that online it's easier but I did make some friends eventually through work and school. When I first moved to another town in 7th grade I had no friends what so ever, A lot of the kids were stuck up but I found a few that weren't and I also now have plenty of friends from other places. Now that I'm in college I feel thankful and lucky of how much I accomplished in my life!
How do rich people make real friends?
Are you rich? If so, hire a consultant and make plans at events. If you’re not rich, don’t bother worrying about what they do in their free time. Make friends at social gatherings, gyms, bars, clubs, etc. Go out and meet people.Thanks for allowing me to answer this question. I'm all over social media and would LOVE to connect with you elsewhere!--------------------------------------------Follow me on Twitter & Instagram: bccg_mainBlog: Gary Allen Roth – MediumYouTube: Blue Collar Consulting GroupLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gary...Website: Blue Collar Consulting Group
Can you make real friends past college?
Yes. I have one, maybe two friends from when I was in high school. I have two, maybe three friends from when I was in college. 95+% of my current social circle is people I have made friends with after college, and hardly any of them are through work.I discourage making friends through work, at least not among any co-workers you work intimately with. Your boss may one day have to fire you. Your co-workers may one day compete for a position with you. At the end of the day you are not going to be as important to them as $10,000 more dollars per year, feeding their families, or making their bottom lines for their shareholders. You will find your friendships sacrificed if you make friends with your closest co-workers, so if you're going to make friends at work, do so with people who don't have direct power over you or will never be in direct competition with you.I've made most of my present friends through activities I've attended. I've made friends at karaoke nights, through improv classes, through dance classes, and through a Boston dating advice forum I used to frequent. Friends introduce me to other friends. The easiest way to make friends is to find people with whom you have things in common, and the easiest way to do that is to go out and do things that you like to do in a social context. Then keep on doing them, exchange numbers, and invite the folks you meet for additional fun things you do.Voila. Friends.