How do i get my dad to spend more time with me?
well first of all tell your dad i undestand u are wiyth blah blah blah now but dad i would like it if u can spend at least this saturday with me just u n me , and let her know as well tell her hey im glade my dad makes u happy and u make him happy but i would like some time with my dad without u , another thing if your dad is like on a visitation type schedule or what ever joint custody , then tell your mom and let her talk to him alone or even with u , your mom dont have to let the new gf in the house but it will look beter if she does , another thing u can also have your mom contact the courts adn if u r old enough u can make a reasonabl request that your dad spends at least one day out of the month with u and only u but dont make it more than that one day
How do I get my dad to spend more time with me? He only really spends time with my stepmom. He works a lot too. I’m 13 and this really puts a toll on me emotionally. My mom never visits and I don’t spend time with my dad. I don’t know what to do.
Oh precious young person….tell your dad how you feel and that you'd like to spend more time with him. Dad's need little reminders sometimes. I'm SURE HE LOVES you, he needs a little nudge to remind him how much you both need time together before you grow up and go out on your own. If you are a girl remind him that it is important that your very first important relationship with a male is with him. Its important for your self esteem. If you are a boy you need his guidance as well. From him you will learn how to treat a lady when you grow up. You also need to feel loved by him….. very important. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need emotionally.. you deserve to be and feel loved. A friend!
My dad doesn't spend much time with me.....?
Instead of telling him to spend more time with you, ask him to do something with you like going to a movie or the mall, eat out. Talk casually to him and he will probably realize that he needs to get to know you more.
How can I spend time with my dad?
What do you have in common? What do you both like to do? My son is adopted from an abusive household. How we spend time together has changed as he has matured. Early on, when he was 18, we spent a lot of time together. I focused a great deal on what he did not have when he was living with his birth parents. This included eating meals together, which they almost never did. I found out what he liked: going to movies, watching television, playing games. I never compromised myself in the process, but I found opportunities to share our likes. So, for example, we still (many years later) still play games together. But not all the games that he likes…the games that we both like. We still go to the movies together…movies that we will both like. Don’t compromise who you are. But find those steps in the path of your lives that you both have in common.
Why doesn't my dad want to spend time with me?
I'm almost 17. Earlier this year, my dad got married to someone new. She has 3 kids that are in their 20's. My dad never wants to spend time with me. I have tried tons of times asking him if he wanted to do something together but he blows me off every time. He won't even get away from her so that he could spend time with me. BUT, he is always spending time with his new stepkids. He is always hanging out with them and doing fun activities with them but not with me. He is always so interested in getting to know them better but doesn't bother with me. They always take pictures together but I am no where to be seen. Her 3 kids are over 21 and are already GROWN ADULTS. They are old enough to be college graduates. They already grew up. I didn't. I'm almost 17. I'm only going to be a teen once. In Fall 2011, I'll be going to college in a different state. My dad only has that long before I move out. When I move out for college, I'm gone and I'm not coming back. I will never be moving back to that state. I won't be able to visit for every holiday because I'll be in a different state. I won't be able to just get in my car and drive over like his stepkids can. I think that it is sad that my dad doesn't want to spend time with me because I'm only a teen once. My dad is living in his own little world. He is on a different planet where only his new wife and 3 stepkids exist. And once I'm gone, I'm gone. He doesn't realize that. What should I do?
My dad wants to spend time with me?
Today I came down stairs from my room (I was studying) to get some fruit for dinner and my dad was in the kitchen. He said "On Saturday me and you are going to the coffee shop." Like what? Okay backstory time- Me and my dad have never been close, ever. I make sure to respect him as an elder to me, and I'm grateful he took care of me as a child. I do the house chores and I get good grades. I just don't really like him as a person. He's quite gruff and he can be really cruel when he wants to be. I used to be kinda chunky when I was little, no super fat but enough to feel self-concious. So what does my dad do, instead of lightly encouraging me to diet and be healthy? He bullies me into starving myself. Back when I was fat, my dad would never ever speak to me. If he did it was just to ask me if I REAAALLLYYY needed another piece of fruit or to tell me I should go exercise for ANOTHER hour on top of my other 2 hour work out. Now I have a bunch of health complications that I know for sure I wouldn't have gotten if he had just been a little bit nicer. What a punk, it's all his fault I get sick all the time, it makes me so mad. Anyways (rant over), now that I'm skinny he's been starting to talk to me a little bit more. When I get home from my tutoring session sometimes we run into each other and he'll ask me how my day was, I just say good and run up to my room to study. That's been going on for awhile now, like a routine, but today he said he wanted to go to the coffee shop, just the two of us. I said okay to his face but I really don't want to go. I don't know what I'll say to him or what he'll say to me. My grandma just died recently, I never really got to know her so I didn't cry at the funeral but my dad did, it was the first time I had ever seen him cry and it was sooooooooooooooo awkward. Do you think he'll talk about his mom? I'm really not good with people's feelings, does anybody have any advice for me, what should I say to him or how I can weasel out of this?
What should I do if my dad wants to spend more time with me, and I want to spend more time with him too, but I am also focused on advancing my career and studies?
Simple answer: Spend more time with him.Focusing on advancing your career and studies is a good thing, but it should not be taking all of your time, no matter how dedicated you are.Take some time off. Relax! Spend more time with your Dad. If you both wanted to do that, why wouldn't you?You didn't provide much contextual information to this question. Maybe you have some reason why you both want to do that but you can't? Maybe you can choose to spend your time with him not physically but perhaps online? A call or a video chat, maybe?
How can I spend useful time with my dad?
First off remember: Spending useful time with your dad, IS giving him a GIFT; The gift of your TIME.As with ANY gift, its value is dependent on the recipient of the gift. IE: Giving ME a new pair of $800 custom boots would be a VERY NICE gift…but it would NOT be a good gift, and it would possibly be INSULTING to give them to a double amputee.You LOVE basketball, so you score court side seats to a Lakers game! But your dad absolutely HATES basketball! You’ve not given him a good gift at all.However, your dad likes to bowl, but YOU hate bowling! Bowling with your dad would be quality time to your dad, even if YOU hated it.Just time spent with him is meaningful, listening to him repeat the same tired stories a dozen time, won’t mean anything to you today…but wait another 30 years, and you’ll WISH you could hear about how your dad, “did that thing, uh-um, something about a traffic cop, that ah, well gosh, I don’t exactly remember now…but I sure wish I did!” Mark my words.What the great Bear Bryant said about his mother will one day apply to your dad:
My dad is a big miser! Is there any way to make him spend more?
You're having a wrong perception that a person being a miser is a bad thing.In this whole world, there is no one more generous than a miser- the man who could deplete the world's resources but chooses not to. If a miser earns a dollar and refuses to spend it- the rest of the world becomes a dollar richer because they produced a dollar 's worth of good and didn't consume them.Now coming to your question your dad doesn't own you anything except giving proper daily incentives to help you in growing up and paving a good career for you.You're accusing your millionaire dad of being a miser. I will give you an example of one of the most richest person(Billionaire Warren Buffett) in this world who doesn't give his children a single penny unneccesarily.He's already a billionaire and still making money at tremendous rate but still chooses not to help his children financially.Once, his daughter Susan Alice Buffett asked his father for a loan of $41,000, for the renovation of her kitchen. To which, he said, go to bank and do it like everyone else. And, moreover after his death he has decided to donate the bulk of his fortune to Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation and four other philanthropies, leaving almost nothing to his children.Remember one thing, a person who knows how to make money even knows how to spend it and he surely doesn't need to learn it from you.
Shall I spend more time with parents and my dad?
I would absolutely spend more time with my parents if I could. I recommend you do the same. You never know when they will be taken from you and your opportunities will be lost. I can tell you from experience, it is a tragic thing that will weigh heavy upon you when you lose those opportunities. When you are a young person, you need to get away from your parents. You need to be independent and to be yourself. That is normal and desirable and understandable. Sometimes we fabricate excuses to be apart from them. It's ok to do it. But as you become established in your own life apart from theirs you should reestablish and strengthen your connection to them. They probably have a lot to offer in the way of friendship, and a connection to family history. A family history can provide a way to self-realization and knowing your place in the long line of your culture. It is important to know where you are from. Your parents most likely love you and can provide these things. Also, I can add, you can be a great benefit to them. Having a young person to rely upon as necessary in waning years is vital for older persons. As your parents’ child you should endeavor to put yourself and keep yourself in this position. You owe them as much. Building and keeping this relationship is vital and rewarding to each.