My parents don't understand me?
My parents are constantly trying to mold me into a younger version of themselves. My parents treat me like a seven year old. They try to get me to watch Disney channel and read kids books. And if i read a non-kids book (ex the hunger games), they have to read it immediately after i do to make sure it was appropriate. And if the characters even make out, I get the sex talk. Literally last night, my dad came into my room and said this. "You haven't been talking to me and your mom as much as you used to. Is everything okay with school and stuff? Is everything good with your friends? And... stuff?" Okay that part wasn't bad. I get that they're just checking up on me, but there is a reason I'm not talking to you and mom as much! I have like 5 freaking pounds for homework per night for starters. Next part. I asked: "What do you mean by stuff?" He said : "You know. Um, boys? You know just be careful and use protection. And tell us things okay?" I'M 13. I'M NOT HAVING SEX ANYTIME SOON. They just don't get me.
My parents don't understand me..?
Okay, basically I am fourteen and I have a diary. My mum found my diary the other day that i had only started writing about a week and a half ago and read it. In my diary I had written about how I had smoked, drank alcohol, taken drugs and had sex. Okay, i know I'm fourteen but here me out, My parents already knew that I drank alcohol at times. They also knew that I had smoked but that I am not a smoker, I just smoked when there were cigarettes around. However, they didn't know about the drugs or sex. I have been high twice. And it just so happened that the last time I got high was only a few days ago. The time before that was about 4-5 months ago. Also, i just so happened to lose my virginity a few days ago too. and I wrote that in my diary and they read it. So it's not like i take drugs and have sex on a regular basis. It just happened to happen a few days before she read my diary. And I know i shouldn't have had sex, it just happened :/ Anyway, my mum was really upset with my and so was my dad. My mum was crying telling me how upset she was with me for having sex after she had told me i shouldn't. She didn't care as much about the drugs. I am basically grounded for a month unless i can behave and not mope around in my room all day. i don't know what to do. My mum expects me to act like I'm happy and that nothing has happened when actually I have cried NON STOP since yesterday when they found my diary. I have also told my boyfriend i need a break because I'm really stressed my mum found out we had sex and i haven't been able to see or talk to my friends. I am so miserable. My parents keep telling me they don't want me to be miserable when they are clearly the reason I am. And they punishment isn't going to change me ONE BIT. I know I won't have sex for a long time but I am happy to get high, drink and smoke again. How can I get round them? How can I be happy again? How can they realise them punishing me like this is pointless. i know loads of people are going to be dead angry with me, telling me I am a stupid teenage girl but please just understand where I am coming from. Please help me. thanks.x
Do your parents understand you?
Yes they do. Not always but they do most of the time.Why:- If you share things and stuffs with your parents they will understand you.If you respect them, they will understand you.If you never lied to your parents, they will understand you.If you care for their happiness, they will understand you.If you are there with them in their ups and downs, they will understand you.And finally If you understand them, they will understand you.If you never did these things, they will understand you anyway, because they love you more than anything. You belong to them, they belong to you, and rest doesn’t matter.Why Not:- This is the worst case.They Won’t understand only if you never tried to make them understand.
What should I do to make my parents understand each other and live a happy life together?
First of all you have to understand both your parents are creating their own KARMA and harming each others. This is also due to their own KARMA in previous birth. Why I am saying this, you can not continue to feel helpless and spoil your day on this matter any longer. The moment you detach yourself from their daily quarrels, you will be peaceful with your inner-self and can do wonders for yourself in life.I am giving below a web link, please go through this in details. I recommend this strongly for you to understand how the KARMA plays in everybody's life. This course was developed by Guatama Buddha and was practiced by lakhs all over the world in almost every country. This course does NOT talk about caste, religion or Nation. This is Universal and any human being can attend, if they wish to. Vipassana MeditationI would be happy to provide more details, if you take interest..Best of Luck.
How can i make my parents understand what a hookah bar is??
If you've explained it, and they are still wound up, you aren't going to get anywhere. Some things, parents don't need to know. At the same time, if you are in their house, you need to follow their rules. If it were me, and I were you, I'd bide my time until I was free and living somewhere else. Enjoy the hookah at that point if you are dead set on it. There's no reason to discuss it with them if you are legal and they are that against it. For the record - I actually got my own I liked it so well. I try to make sure not to do it more than once a month to keep from getting a nicotine addiction. It's very, very smooth, so getting hooked on tobacco is easier if you do it alot. Also - if you are starting out, don't smoke alot fast. You'll get nauseated. I found that once I actually had one, I didn't feel inclined to do it all the time anyway. A hookah session is equivalent to about a half a pack of cigarettes. It rips up my sinuses the next day. - Kevin
How do I make my parents understand my choices?
There are a couple of things at play here. Are you putting yourself through school or are your parents? Have they always tried to influence your career path? The one thing to remember is that you are an adult now. Your decisions and choices are yours and yours alone. For the most part, parents will always have an opinion regarding all facets of their children's lives, and want what is best for you. With that said, it doesn't always mean they know what is best for you. If you have found a path within academia that you find interesting and are excelling at, then by all means pursue it! An interesting fact (the source is a little dated, however numbers have virtually remained steady), only 27% of college graduates get a job within their field. And from a business perspective (unless in a specialized field or industry specific jobs), many employers care more about your performance and contributions to a previous job, instead of your specified degree. It may seem annoying or frustrating to have your parents express statements like they did to you, however it's better to have parents that want to be involved then those that don't care at all. So in summary, I would say pursue what you enjoy and excel at. You will be working for the rest of your life, so take this opportunity to experience different schools of thought and interests. If it really continues to bother you, have an adult, rational and calm discussion with your parents. You may always butt heads on this, or other issues for that matter, but have conviction in your decisions and choices. Your parents are human too, and are allowed to voice their input. Take everything with a grain of salt, and remember; advice is free :-)
My parents don't understand my phobia?
I'm extremely afraid of spiders. I would probably rate it as severe. I pretty much live in fear of them. But my mom always tells me to "toughen up" and to "get over it". But that's the thing you can't just "get over" a phobia, it takes time and therpy, and I'm too scared to try to get help.. And my dad really hates that I can't kill them, and gets agitated when he has to come and kill it. But anyway there getting all over me about getting over my fear more recently because i just started Drivers Ed and tell me that I'm gonna kill myself and others if i "can't face my little fear". But they just don't understand! THEY don't have a phobia! How can i not get so mad at them when they talk to me like a phobia is a choice and I should be able to just "get rid of it" like it's an object, not a phycological problem? Its not like i WANT to be to have a phobia, or that I WANT to live in fear!