Should teenagers be forced to attend family events or trips if they don't want to?
Very difficult question as there are so many reasons why they might not want to attend. What is their reason for not wanting to attend? A. Desire to be with someone else or do something else. B. Desire to NOT want to be with family.C. Desire to NOT do that specific trip / event. D. OtherSeek to understand their position, then adjust plans or help them understand yours. Clearly there is high value in doing things as a family & even as an extended family. It is important to build that bond. But it is pointless if the memory of the event is tension, abuse, arguments, punishments & tears. In Short, the summary answers are for :-Situation A: Let them bring the friend / girlfriend too. OR Tell them the family event is mandatory & explain why (hopefully they will enjoy it when they are there) Especially if you've ensured it is relevant to them too. If there is a massive conflict with some event that is really important for them, consider moving the family event so they aren't forced to choose. Situation B: Explore what is the issue they have with the family. Molested by uncle. Drunken adults. Only kid at the event. Nothing to do but "be quiet". Family does not take time to engage with the kid etc. Reflect on the event & ensure the child will have a positive Family experience. Situation C:Find out reason. Either sell the trip better to the child or adjust to include some more interesting things for them in the itinerary. eg: What kid would want to go half way around the world with mum & nan only to spend "100 hours a day looking in old furniture shops at stuff that Nan wished she could buy. She never got anything!" Situation D: Other. Figure it out. May need to point out that some things they have to attend out of obligation or respect. ie: Funerals, Sisters ballet finals etc. If you aren't able to ensure that the Family even will be enjoyable to the family then maybe it is OK that they do not attend that event.
How can I make this family event less boring?
I'm 14 and I have a huge family on my dads side consisting of 43 people and I have to an event at my grandpa's house. I normally hang out with my cousin who's my age but she doesn't live where I live. I normally just say hi to everyone then sit there on my phone, talking to people, but my dad is taking my phone away for this ugh. And it goes from 4-9. How am I going to sit through 5 hours of saying hi to people. Especially when I know I can hang out with my friends as soon as I get home... Any advice on how to make this less painful? Sorry if I sound bratty lol I go to so many of these it gets pretty tiring
Cape Cod is so boring?
It absolutely depends on your interests and perspective. I lived there for a summer while in college and worked outside in the sun all day and partied at night at all the bars between Falmouth and Chatham. There were plenty of house parties too...great fun. Now, I'm older and have a family and appreciate the beauty and escape from the hectic day-to-day of say suburban Boston. So, it depends on what you're looking for...what do YOU like ? If you like partying with friends at bars or house parties...the cape has that (much less in the winter). If you like beautiful scenery and beaches, the cape has that. If you want big malls and lots of franchise shops, only Hyannis has that. If you want amusement parks, big sport games (other than the spectacular Cape Baseball games), fancy theater or other cultural events...go to Boston. If you're sick of the cape, check out the islands (Nantucket and Martha's Vineyard). Again, your level of enjoyment will depend on what you are looking for. Both islands are extremely scenic, peaceful, romantic, relaxing....but, they have even fewer big shops, fewer bars, fewer activities...which is exactly why many people go there. We have personal photos in our blog (in source below)
How can I escape from a boring family party?
Don't try to escape . Your family and relatives are as interesting as the others and others are as boring as the family members . Learn to find what is interesting about them . Show them that you are interested in them . Do you know the following lines ? “Errors, like straws, upon the surface flow; He who would search for pearls, must dive below.” ― John Dryden . People other than relatives seem to be more welcome because they are formal , polite and usually don't reveal what they really think of you . Relatives do not take this precaution . that is the only difference. So why not prefer the known devil to the unknown one ?
How can i make a party NOT boring?
Ok so to make a party NOT boring you need good food. SO if there is a bunch of preteens in the house i suggest ALOT of pizza. Have good music to. Go to www.grooveshark.com and click popular or something like that. Then look around for good music that's not going to drive people up the wall. Stay up late and just have fun. Oh and at random times when everyones getting bored (If the do) stand up and shout "20 second dance party" then start danceing like a crazy person. soon everyone will start danceing again.
I'm scared that my party will be boring?
I don't know how it even happened, but I'm having a Sweet Sixteen on February 8th. My family doesn't have too much money but they're really into parties so they wanted this to happen. I love parties, too, but I also get super stressed out. Anyway, I have two weeks into my party and I have about 80 on my guest list. Today's the RSVP day and only like half of the guests responded. My friend said to make a Facebook page because that generally draws more attention to the event. I just made the Facebook page but I'm still really worried. I want to invite more people, but I don't know if this deadline is too soon. Also, how do I make my party less boring? I'll die if people don't think it's fun. Thank you so much for any responses! BTW, I'm putting this in the weddings section because I know that a lot of people who have weddings go through the same stress.
How to get rid of the boring moments with my girlfriend?
For the past few weeks I have found myself bored out of my mind when I hang out with my gf. I recently started college and am also playing baseball for school. we have been dating for over 2 years so I am used to being with her am I getting tired of her or am I running out of ideas to do. I am very athletic and she hates pretty much anything that requires competition. so I need some help am I just not feeling it anymore or am I doing something else wrong?
What are some ways to escape a boring meeting without lying and offending the organizer?
Whether you should really really do it, depends on the setting. You can make some lame excuse to sound polite, but eventually the organiser or the speaker will understand it. Even if the meeting is boring, don't assume them to be fools. If it is so boring that you really cannot survive, somehow make your cellphone ring and go out of the room. Enter a few minutes later and say that neighbour's colleague's cousin's father in law passed away and you need to be with his family.
What would you do in a family party in which you don't enjoy neither food or music, and don't have anything to talk about with anybody?
My suggestion is to let down the walls that are preventing you from seeing another person's Viewpoint. If you feel There is nothing in common between you and the others, I promise you are wrong. For one thing, you are bound by blood. It doesn't get much more in common than that. I feel it is ones closed minded belief, not the situation, that creates the outlook your question addresses. In most cases, being different or having nothing to talk about is far from the truth.There are many things that are interesting about other people and you just have to be willing to enjoy them. Various types of music and foods can open your eyes to ldifferent styles, viewpoints, and cultures. Older, more experienced people often have great advice they can give you.You could try asking a question to turn the conversation in a direction more to your liking. If you do change the subject be respectful of the views of other people.Remember this, God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason, maybe you shouldn't be talking, but rather listening to what the others are sharing.Most importantly, this is a family gathering. Cherish the time you have. It must be cherished because once it is gone it's gone forever. Don't take life for granted. It can change very quickly. Just three weeks ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I am fighting for my life at this moment. I am unsure how I will pay for treatment (chemotherapy), the long term aftercare plan, and provide for my family. Open your heart. It will open your mind. Please up vote my answers and raise your finger with me as I take my life back saying SCREW YOU CANCER, I want to live.please, help me live.Donate. My Life Depends On Ithttp://Https://www.youcaring.com/screwyoucancer