How do I overcome a huge regret?
The happiest thing is that you understood that you have done something wrong. The worst ignorance is not understanding or accepting one’s own fault. Be happy that you have already paid for your wrong doing. As the above line says, don’t worry about the thing for long time. But at the same time don’t forget about it. It is because only if you have the memory of your mistakes, you will not do it again.Just thing that hereafter I will not make that again in lifetime. Be bold and face the life.
How do I overcome the feeling of regret? I feel empty.
The best advice I got about moving on was from a Buddhist monk.I was 15 and angsty when I came across a book written by a Buddhist monk. I can't remember his name or what the book was called. All I remember is that it gave me the answer to one of my life's most difficult questions: how do I stop thinking about the sad things that happened in my life?Life was a bit difficult for me growing up and I had contemplated suicide many times. This was a question I was desperately looking for. And I found it.The monk wrote in his book that (and I paraphrase), 'If you want to let go of something, you must know this: everything in your life is a collection of thoughts.The sadness that you feel is a thought. To stop feeling sad, you must let go of that thought.But then the question becomes: "How do I let go of a thought?"The first step to letting go of the thought is to be aware of the thought. Be aware of it rising, and then, without building on the thought, let it go.Let go of the thought, and then the next thought, and then the next one.'You have to keep practising this until it becomes second nature. Ever since I started, I never looked back and I can truly say that I don't live with regrets.I wish you all the best. I know how hard it can be right now and how bad it must feel.
How can one overcome regret if one feels that one did something which one strongly feels regrets from the bottom?
The quote is telling us a way that we can avoid being consumed by regret. That way is to think about what we did (the thing we regret) and figure out what lesson is contained in that experience. When we can learn something positive from a bad experience, it becomes a good thing in that it helps us to grow toward a better way of living and more happiness. Being consumed by regrets is not precisely "normal," but it is not unnatural--it is a common human reaction; however, it is unproductive and painful. So first, we can genuinely feel sorry if we did something, for example, to hurt someone else or ourselves. Second, we can determine not to repeat the mistake. We can also think of ways to make up for any wrong that we did--not necessarily with the same people, but with others. For instance, suppose you failed to help someone when you should have. Now it is too late to do anything about that situation. But since you regret it, you can learn that helping others has value, and you can do it in the future. The lesson might be that sometimes it is important to put others before ourselves. Another example might be that you blew a relationship because you were afraid to show your true feelings. So there the lesson is that sometimes showing our real feelings to someone we care about is a good thing to do. The quote is definitely implying that we should not allow ourselves to be consumed ("eaten up") by regrets. But instead of just forgetting about the incident that produced regret (if you can), you should draw a positive lesson from your mistake, and this will help prevent the pain of lingering regret.
How do I overcome the regret of not being an IITian?
By realising that the regret is over-rated.Being an IITian who has seen quite enough (I guess) of the ‘IIT life’ , I can confidently say that you do miss out on a few things, but they are not super-exclusive.For starters, not all IITians are the best engineers. I know many non-IITian friends who’d make much better engineers than me. Some of them even outshine my IIT friends in tech quiz, competitions, Techfest etc. All without attending a single lecture of an IIT Prof.You’d be free to explore and experiment. This is not an obvious point, but being an IITian puts you under the pressure of expectation - from parents, employers, basically the entire society. As trivial as this may sound, the pressure to perform and deliver’d make you more conscious, leaving lesser room to explore other things on the side.IITs basically provide a platform for one to excel and come out as a better person. There is no guarantee that this’d work for all. Moreover, it is not very hard to inculcate the same for anyone else. With a good influence and sound mind, you won’t be left far behind!If the above helps you overcome your ‘regret’, IITs have a sex ratio of 1:10 (in favour of boys, obviously). Hope that cheers ;)
How to overcome regret of selling my motorcycle?
I sold my motorcycle yesterday, for more than what I bought it for 2 months ago (still a loss because I had to cancel insurance, register it, fix some stuff on it, etc.). I honestly don't know why I sold it, I put the ad up assuming itll take long to sell and someone responded instantly and came over with cash at hand looking to buy it right away, and I just sold it. Now all I think about is my motorcycle and why I shouldn't have sold it, what do I do?
How do I overcome regret of wasted potential and time?
What do you say on possibility it can last for a lets say a decade? Or maybe 2 decades? I’m sure you won’t like that scenario… It happened to me. Around 9 years on “full throttle”, to say so.Enough time to analyze? Sure is. Wasted? Not really, at least not from usual perspective. And now more to it… I didn’t get my college diploma, left study when i had 13 exams left (yep, basically I was at end), soon end up on street due to some bad decisions regarding work choices. Not on street, but when you end up in office you are working in severe depression (again), sleeping on 3 chairs, almost nothing to eat, showering in students dorm you know you hit bottom. And with natural born handicap, which was really killing me cause I was fighting with it from my childhood.Shitty situation isn’t it? And when I told people what I went through, they don’t believe me. But here I am, standing and helping people to solve their problems.So, whatever is hitting you (fears, worries, inherited patterns, habits, unsolved situations etc.), it can be released and healed. They are freezing you and that’s why you have tendency to overthink and analyze every move you make.Past is past, but it will come to you until you accept, forgive yourself and let go all of it. Sooner you start, it will be easier to do.And don’t look situation you are in as wasted time. It is your experience and you will use it often later. Not to make same mistakes again.