Abusive male friend. How do i make it stop?
Since the "friendship" is now making you uncomfortable, just end it. You don't "owe" him anything more than "Sorry I don't want to hang around you any more". You are right what he is doing is getting to the weird stage, and isn't healthy for you to be around.
Should I just give up on having friends?
Whenever I make friends, they always backstab me, use me for something, lie to me, ignore me, etc. And they all end up abandoning me. Friends aren't a necessity anyway, and I hardly trust people anymore.
Is it wrong to ask my boyfriend to stop talking to a female friend of his?
Yes, it is wrong.You find it wrong when she used to give massages to him in the office, or she used to hug him, Right? You may be right, they must not get that physical in front of you. But tell me does the guy love you? Really? How do you know? How can you judge him? Just because he said so? People these days don’t know the meaning of LOVE.Listen dear, this may sound rude and make you feel bad.. But just put 1 small, minute thing into your brain. When a guy says he loves you from the core of his heart, or he wants to spend the entire life with you or any of that mushy talk, you might feel that he loves you. But in reality a guy would show his love not by his words, but by his actions.If he would have loved you and cared for your feelings, he would never ever have let that girl behave like what she does in your presence or absence. If he pushes a girl away who makes such a move in your absence that is love.If you think they must not talk just because you are together now, so let me make it clear to you. You don’t own the person, nor would you ever. You can make a person yours just when he wants to be yours.If you find something inappropriate in a relation between your boyfriend and his female-friend, just make it clear to your boyfriend. If he actually loves you, he would take care of that girl, or any girl in that matter.You must not take matters into your hands by talking to that female-friend. You are simply destroying your relationship with her and breaking her heart by your cheap talks.**P.S.: I don’t want to be rude or arrogant, but I have been into the place of that female-friend and I know how it feels when we were not wrong but still some one teaches you how to behave with one of your best-friend, and how that silence of the guy breaks my heart till date. How my relation with of them is still in tatters. All three of us regret our words after about 3 years of that incident but there is no turning back now.**
When my friends cross the line with jokes, I get really defensive. One friend told me to stop pining over an innocent stranger-crush, but I do not see what’s wrong with that. What can I do to be less sensitive?
I understand you. When my friends make a very rude/racist/sexist joke, I can get really defensive as well. And that’s totally fine. If you ever joked with them saying, “Oh, your mom’s so fat!” I’m pretty sure they would get defensive over that. And who cares if you have a crush on a stranger? But if he/she is a bit to old for you, I can see why their telling you to stop. If he/she is about your age, then tell them to stop doing that to you because it isn’t wrong at all. It’s just a simple “crush”. And if you want to be less sensitive, I think this article may be of help: How to Build Thick Skin and Stop Being So Sensitive Scroll down in the article until you see the title, “How to build thick skin”. But you really don’t have to be less sensitive. If your friends can’t handle the way you are, then maybe you need to find new friends? But if you really feel that determined to change a part of yourself, go for it and good luck!
How do I deal w/ sarcastic friends when I am not a sarcastic person?
I have a very small group of girlfriends. We are extremely close. The only problem is they are all sarcastic people by nature. They make rude comments to each other all the time and each seems to understand that everyone is "just joking" and never takes anything seriously. But I am not like that. I personally grew up in the school of "mind ur p's and q's and if you have nothing nice to say then zip it!" I do admit I am on the sensitive side. My family was not one to joke that way and growing up I never had friends who were like that either. Whenever my current friends make sarcastic comments towards me they usually hurt my feelings and I end up leaving early with a huge grudge on my shoulder. How do I work around this. I've tried explaining to them that I can not get used to the "friendly teasing" and for them to cool it but they do it so much w/ each other they often forget not to include me. When I get upset or defensive they tell me to stop being so sensitive and roll their eyes and completely disregard my feelings.
Why do my friends think I'm gay, even though I'm not? And how do I stop people thinking that I'm gay?
Your friends probably think you're gay either because you may act a little effeminately and are probably stereotyping you, or they're teasing you, or your behavior or actions that you are not aware of suggest to your friends (or your friends interpret as) you are gay. Hell, some people call or view some guys as gay because they have pretty, sometimes feminine, faces.But anyway, I really wouldn't suggest you going out of your way into proving your sexuality to people, even to your friends, because it can be seen as you being defensive or in denial which will not help your case. If you're going to get a girlfriend, then make sure it's not out of the purpose of proving your straightness to your friends because that's just rude to your girlfriend and very juvenile overall. But hopefully, this situation of yours don't create some homophobic feelings in you. Don't let your “friends” get to you so much and have you question your own sexuality, especially when you know it yourself. Don't let them stress you out too much.
Why does my husband get defensive instead of just talking to me?
We had a fight tonight. I was upset and crying. Instead of talking to me he just drove fast and ignored me. Even though I thought he should empathize with me he just was furious with me for mentioning to him I am uncomfortable with his new female friend at work who is has become close with over the last 2 months. I just wanted to hear him say that everything was ok and not to worry but instead he accused me of being oversensitive, over critical, over everything. Why can't he just tell me it will be ok when my heart is breaking instead of beating me up more? Is this what all men are like? This is what he got upset about if you care to read...if not please answer anyway:http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhvETUixHhKbrXLGW7uyj3zty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080619184150AANKnAe or http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AnjIagt5dU_lmVA5zdPIlcDty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080608214305AA9k0K6
My best friend keeps making fun of my small chest?
Okay I'm 17 and a B cup, not completely flat, I suppose, but smaller than a lot of girls. I'll start off by saying I do love my best friend, but only when she isn't being insulting. Lately, she's been making fun of my boobs, calling me "flat-chested freak," "tiny ****," or when we were acting stupid, I stole her phone and told her I'd stick it in my bra, and she said "Go ahead, there's plenty of room in there." She makes fun of me whenever I wear a push-up bra, and tells me I'm fake. She tells me, "Oh, you wouldn't want big boobs, but *I* don't have to try so hard for cleavage like you do." I told my other friend it bothered me and he said just ignore her because hers are only big because she's so overweight (she's like 220). The whole thing is very immature, and I can't stand anything worse than when girls make fun of other girls for things they can't help. In theory, calling her overweight would make more sense because diet/weight loss would be easier than me getting a boob job at 17, no? But what should I do? Should I: 1.) ignore her next time she makes fun of me? I've been pretending to laugh it off, do you think maybe it's giving her the idea I think it's okay? 2.) Or should I call her out on it? She gets defensive easily, so if I do, how should I go about it? THANK YOU if you took the time to read and answer. Please no rudeness :)
My friend ditched me for older, new friends at a party last night and I was alone.What should I have done?
Yesterday I went to a party for a friend of my parents. There were five other people my age and the rest were adults. When my friend, who I've known for eight years, arrived she said hi to me and then ditched me to talk and hang out with her other "friends", who she's known for a little bit and who are slightly older than us. She asked me once to hang out with them, which could've been because her mom made her, but I made up an excuse. I don't like the older people and I don't know them very well at all. I'm not comfortable with them and I don't like them, and my friend is really comfortable and likes them. They were really comfortable with each other because they're good friends and weren't engaged in anything like polite convo. I felt snubbed by my friend and I thought it was pretty clear that she preferred their company to mine, so I was alone the entire night (there weren't any people to make friends with) Is it too much to ask for her to not ditch me? What should I do next time?