How do you handle a person who is bitter, angry, and depressed?
Patience. That person is far from their best. Try to distance yourself emotionally from their anger. Try not to take anything personally, including personal attacks. You’re going to have to protect yourself if you’re going to maintain this relationship with this person. Hopefully it’s someone you love, in which case the relationship is probably worth saving. Distance yourself from their anger, treat them with kindness and patience, make sure you get time by yourself or away from them, and treat yourself with the same love, patience, and compassion that you would show a sick or sad loved one. You deserve to be loved, especially by yourself, and you need to treat yourself well when others are treating you poorly. Mental health is a struggle, and this is an article I wrote about how people in a support system can help a mentally ill loved one. How Outsiders Can Help - The Goldfish Painter
How do I stop being such a bitter and angry woman?
It is important to be very accurate with your statement, otherwise you may miss the target completely.You imply that you are "a bitter and angry woman." What happens if you examine that opinion more closely? For example, are you actually bitter and angry every single moment of your life? Or would it be more accurate to say that sometimes you are bitter, sometimes not? Sometimes you are angry and sometimes not angry?Only you can come to a definitive answer. However, on the assumption that you are sometimes bitter and angry, sometimes not, which I suspect may be true, then it may be useful to recognize that bitterness and anger seem to occur in human beings. It is apparently an inseparable part of being human.You may want to be bitter and angry less of the time. To spend less moments in bitterness and anger and more in happiness and peace of mind. In this case I would like to suggest a starting point. It is not the whole work, but maybe it can serve as a first step...Is there a possibility of loving yourself as you are each moment? Independently of your mood at that moment. In reality you are always what you are. You are never different from that. And when you look closely, it is difficult to pinpoint who or what controls that. If you controlled your mood, you would never be bitter or angry, both unpleasant feelings. So apparently it is not you that controls it.Is this a possibility? Is it possible to love and accept yourself as you are -unconditionally. You see, whether you love and accept yourself totally, or whether you hate yourself at any particular moment, in both cases you are exactly what you are at that moment.Chapter 12, "Cultivating Beneficial Relationships" of my book "Ending Stress" states:Loving yourself and others unconditionally is a declaration of your sanity, since you are what you are anyway.So is this first step possible for you? Then, although your bitterness and anger may still occur, at least they do not cause you additional bitterness and anger that you are bitter and angry. So some relief has started.I hope this clarifies rather than confusing you further. If it is not completely clear, please send me a message or read the book or check some of my Ending Stress blog posts on this issue. If this works we can continue.Enjoy your bitterness and anger as essential material for this exercise.Good luck,Jonathan
How do i stop feeling so angry with everyone? i get so irritated with people and I want to say somethign but ?
If its really serious, talk to your doctor. I know I sound like a smart alec, but that's what I did. It may be a chemical or hormone problem that you really can't help. The fact that you seem to know its wrong suggests this. Once I went on medication I still have feelings, but they're rationale now.
How do I stop being resentful and angry?
Here are some things I have written to help you with anger. You can also find more information:In my book: Ending Stress: A Practical Guide to Nondual Meditation and Therapy is available at this link on Amazon in Kindle and paperback formats.By contacting me through my website simplymeditate.com.Good luck.Jonathan------------------------Feeling angry is certainly disturbing. If you are interested in living free of anger, here is a book and some posts I have written which may help you get started. If anything is not clear, please ask me. In my experience, anger is usually relatively easy to remove as it stems from a misunderstanding of how things work. When you clarify your understanding the anger is not found.Good luck,JonathanEnding Stress: A Practical Guide to Nondual Meditation and TherapyIs there a time when anger is appropriate?Does your conditioned mind ever scare you?How do I responsibly dispel anger?What are some good resources for anger management? I am never not angry, and I can't take it anymore.Why am I not able to control my anger and stress? How can I be more tolerating towards adversities?I more or less know what makes me angry, but why is it so hard? Why am I always angry?How should I handle my anger towards my mother being a selfish person?Is anger a trigger to do better?What do people recommend as a tried and tested method for overcoming anger?What are some practices or exercises to control anger?How does one handle anger, especially a horrendous short temper?How can I control my anger, anxiety, and frustration?What are the evolutionary reasons for humans having anger?How do I stop being such a bitter and angry woman?How can I control my anger towards people I disagree with strongly?Why am I always angry?What is an appropriate way of expressing anger?How do I overcome my anger over politicians by actions?Is it right to be angry at your father for not being successful?How can I be patient with my kid?I keep breaking my promises to control my temper when I scream at my pregnant wife. What can I do?I get angry and confrontational when someone disrespects me, especially in public. How can I successfully deal with this problem? by Jonathan Harrison on Ending Stress
How can I stop being SO bitter towards people and stop hating everyone?
Hey everyone. Lately I have been so bitter towards everyone. I mean BITTER. I am always so miserable towards people. I don't lash out, but I am just miserable and hate every bit of being around people. Its mostly with work. I have gotten picked on so much and for everything that I do, that now I just hate everyone. Everyone has bossed me around so bad that now I am just a miserable person. At a staff meeting I outed my supervisors for some bad behavior of theirs to my manager. My manager spoke to them and was glad I brought it up, but now all of my supervisors treat me badly. Making me do crap jobs and just being unfair. How can I be less bitter towards the world? I don't enjoy peoples presence anymore. I hate everyone and feel no happy feelings towards people except my family and fiance.
I feel like a bitter and sick person?
I know I am a bad person. Maybe that's why my confidence is so low. But I keep unintentionally hurting people I love the most. For example, I told my mom when she was talking about her dad dying at 16, I said well you got a big fat check and bought a car, you lived better than I did at 16. I could tell it really hurt her and I feel really bad right now about saying that. That's like something that's hard to take back. Also I was raped and abused a few months ago but I basically wanted to get raped and drugged myself because I felt like an adventure. Now I have serious issues stemming from it (anxiety, depression, isolation) and I find myself saying these horrible things and I just have this way of letting people know I don't want to deal with them and I hate everyone. I don't know what is going on with me anymore and I have serious issues dealing with my anger. Something is wrong with me :/. Can you please help?
How do I let go of my anger and bitterness? I've gotten so angry at many things to the point where I feel sick inside.
Your self awareness is high level and that is of great benefit to you.You are wise to ask the question “how” instead of “is it possible?” That is intelligent, more accurate and helpful thinking.What is most angering you, what has you feeling embittered?What do you feel you reasonably “need” or would like to happen to not be controlled by the person involved with causing the deep hurt and pain you feel and have carried with you? (by the way, I’ve done this in my past too)Would you like to get free of those shackles and prison of anger and bitterness, for your mental and physical health, for the benefits you own for not being intensely angry and bitter?Decide that while you can’t control all negativity that happens to you that you can control how deeply and how long you allow something to pierce your peace.We can do that with our minds, bodies and behavior.How do we choose to calm our stress and anger escalation in our minds in a legal, healthy way?How do we choose to calm the physiological response that happens to our bodies when we are highly stressed or intensely angry or bitter?How do we choose to change our behavior when we are struggling badly with stress and anger?Stress de-escalation and anger de-escalation are merely skills to be learned, practiced, practiced some more and practiced until they become skills, competencies and strengths.The specifics are too lengthy to describe here yet can be learned by reading quality books: Angry All the Time - Second Edition - Ronald T. Potter-Efron, and Rage: A Step-by-Step Guide to Overcoming Explosive Anger - Ronald T. Potter-Efron.You can also choose to work with a private coach for 3–9 months to develop strength and/or mastery.Hope this helps.Michael ToebeCommunications, Crisis and ReputationLinkedIn