My kids fight with each other all the time. How do I get them to stop being so competitive?
You need to learn to accept their nature and try channeling it in ways that don’t bother you so much. You wanting to get them to be less competitive would be as fruitless as a parent that DID want their kids to be more competitive. Nature is nature and you can help shape and direct it to a degree, but you can’t change it anymore than another person can change your opinion about liver and onions. If you don’t like it, no amount of cajoling is going to change that, and if you do like it you aren’t going to stop just because someone else wants you to.
How do I stop my kids from fighting, or should I not stop them?
If they are having a heated verbal argument listen if you can but don’t interfere. If it turns physical, step in and suggest the three of you sit down to talk it out. You be arbitrator and make sure each child gets a chance to speak without interruption. No name calling. Once, everyone has said what they need to say, talk about what kind of solution would be satisfactory to everyone. You may find, at this point, they have calmed down and are willing to give a little.If they are so angry you don’t make any progress, call a time out for a few hours where everyone takes a break from each other. Schedule a time that’s convenient for all and make another attempt. You may need to do this a couple of times before everyone is ready to talk.Good luck!
How do I stop shaking in a fight?
If you are not used to being in fights, your adrenaline is going to cloud pretty much everything. Martial Arts teach you to control your anger and adrenaline, and many times to use your opponents anger and aggression against them. The less angry you are in a fight, the more clearly you can think, and it will allow you to apply the proper techniques to your opponent in order to defeat them quickly and effectively. Just take a deep breath man, and everything will slow down. All that being said, don't get into fights. Its really pointless. If you want to do something like that, go find your nearest gym that teaches Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu and Muay Thai, or go join your school's wrestling team. That way, you'll learn to relax in stressful situations, both for fighting and just in general. Always try and take the positive out of things.
How Can I Get my Two Akita's to stop fighting?
Once a dog fights, they will repeat it. Separate the dogs . Period. OCD or other behaviour /medical problems can manifest in middle age. A dog can change. If your male is showing possession, or separation anxiety, then the female will be a target if the dog feel's its attention is being threatened. Ask yourself? Does the male dog always have to be near, touching you? Does the male dog get upset when you give attention to the other dog? Does the male dog bark or become anxious if you leave the room and he is forced to be away from you? Do you leave food or toys or other resources out for the dogs to compete with? Do the dogs have any obedience training or any type of structured living? Ignore sentiments here that compare dogs to children. Dogs are NOT people. Leash the male and female in the house, feed them supervised (ie stand there) or in separate rooms, do not leave dog toys or bones out, and let them outside separately. You will have to walk them separately as well. It will not improve without work and increased structure in the home . The best case is you re-establish control by leashing and restriction and realize these dogs will not be pals and that left to their own devices, the male will eventually seriously hurt the female. A vet visit isn't out of order
How do I get two friends to stop fighting?
Friend A is like recently with all of the popular kids and friend B just got kicked out of the popular kids group. Now friend B thinks that friend A told the popular kids to kick her out. They are both screaming and also yelling at each other now. Friend A Told friend B directly "I'm ignoring you." and she did. A told me that the reason she does ignore her is because she swears too much. I tried to get A to make up with her over the e-mail and this is what she wrote back to me: B IS A JERK! I WILL NEVER MAKE UP WITH HER ,EVER!!!!!!! NOBODY LIKES HER ANYMORE BESIDES YOU (my name)!!!!!!! OPEN YOUR EYES AND SEE HOW HORRIBLE SHE IS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. So I feel like A just got mad at me and B doesn't want me to talk to A. I'm not choosing sides because I know that they will get hurt or something. Also, B says that I am the only friend she has and I just skipped school today cuz I'm sick. I think she was miserable all day at school. B sent a lot of friends to spy on A and they did a horrible job spying. A noticed right away and started to yell at them. I feel like I have to do everything behind everybody's back now.B won't let me talk or even look at A and A asked me the last time I saw her "Are you my friend or what?" (annoyed voice) They are like the only friends that are in the same class as me and I need to get them together before they get torn apart for good. What would you do? I know that they are friends deep down but barely.
Why do my kids keep fighting?
Because they're kids. It's natural.I have four siblings and my (oldest)younger(by 2 years) sister and I used to hate each other (still loved each other of course, deep down) and we'd never stop fighting and arguing. Now we the best of friends. She's still an annoying little sister but we're each others closest confidant. It's the same with our younger brother and sisters.My mother(who primarily had custody after she and my father split) Never had siblings and didn't understand that's how kids act (my father was the youngest of four and understood well) and she made some bad decisions regarding our behaviour.My advice to you is make sure no one's hurt and be as unbiased as possible (do not go down the “I don't care who started it” route) and never lose your temper, it doesn't help. In my expirience in visiting my mum and babysitting them empathy is incredibly important. And never forget you love them!