How do I stop thinking about things that make me sad?
Count your blessings, dear.It is not easy to draw away your focus from memories and circumstances that hurt you. This inability to alter direction of attention can lead to temporary or permanent thought disorders.There are two things that worked for me.Firstly, like I said, consciously list all those things that you are satisfied with. You have disappointments, you have things that make you smile and then, there are things that you don't, in the true sense, realize they exist. They become so integrated in your system that they are inconspicuous. You might argue that you feel there's nothing in your life that makes you smile. But, I bet you have a plethora of entities of the third kind. Those are the things that keep you satisfied. Make a list of these, like, your health, parents, studies, beauty, siblings, friend/s etc. Think of them during those heartbreaking moments when you indulge in lamentations.The second solution is an exercise that you must do. Now, dear, everybody has awesome and awful memories. I am sure your present is comparatively bleak, but, if you look back a little, you will definitely find a moment or more that exhilarated you, made you feel at the top, a nice memory that gladdens your heart. Remember every detail of that moment, the visuals, the smells, the temperature, the expressions of people, I mean, everything. Repeat this activity till you can physically recall that moment right to your skin. The level of practice should be such that you can reach there at the drop of a hat! Whenever, the reality hits, go there. If you have done it right, you'll feel better.And, remember, good times or bad, they will go away!
How do I stop thinking of bad memories?
Stop thinking about your past . I know its not easy but there is nothing impossible to forget … Try to make your friends if you are not comfortable then start writing down the dairy in which you have your day-to-day work which makes you relax.. Try to busy yourself with studies or in free time u may join sports and other extra classes so that you are not able to remember your bad things… I tell you diary writing is the best thing to forget about your bad memories .. Try to celebrate your little success by giving yourself a toffee or something you really like.. Try to make your every day so special .. And about some past incidents if you have anything then you have to throw outside or you take distance from that thing.Stop thinking about the bad incidents you have, thinking about the happy times you live in your life …share your stuffs with your friends or any family member with whom you feel comfortable and take advice from them.. don't make yourself introvert .. Try to become an extrovert person this will helps you to come out from that bad memories..
How can I stop thinking about my past?
But do you need to stop thinking about the past?Why are you afraid about the past? Have you thought about it?Because it makes you feel bad in the present, right? Else you won’t have bothered?If you have happy memories from past, you will feel happy now. Does not mean something happy is happening now. It is just that you do not mind this stale happiness! :)If you have a scary dream, you feel scared right now. But you easily ignore it, because you know that though your experience, your fear is real - the things which your thoughts were pointing to, are not.Similarly, if you have sad memories from the past, you will feel sad now. Does not mean something bad is happening now. IT CANNOT DO ANYTHING UNLESS YOU LET IT.But you find it hard to just shake it away. Why? Because unlike thoughts from a dream, you believe that these thoughts mean something. About you. But actually, they are as unreal as your thoughts from a dream. A dream which you refuse to accept as …just a bad dream. When you have a bad dream, do you decide to ignore it based on how bad it was? You know that it does not matter WHAT the dream was about, what matters is it was a dream! That’s it!When you feel sad, you are not experiencing sad events, you are just experiencing your thoughts about them. Not reality, but just your thoughts about past reality. They are a bunch of sad, low quality thoughts arising in the present. Sometimes they might be about the stomacg gas you experienced 3 years back, sometimes it might be about your ‘epic failures’. But WHAT they are about does not matter. They are just … thoughts.So why be afraid? Why believe the dream is real? Why not see that those thoughts are just thoughts? When I was a kid, I used to feel scared after watching horror movies. I still am - but much lesser. I am scared - but I enjoy them. Not because I have grown more courageous. But because I know that it is just a movie.Why be scared of a random movie playing in your mind? If it’s a scary movie, you might feel scared. If it’s a sad movie, you might experience sadness. Possible. Human.But why should they make you ‘helpless’. Let them come. You can feel. But still know that you are safe. Like when you wake up from a nightmare.Yes, all that happened. In the past. But you are in the now. Always. You are free. If you can just see that.
How do I stop thinking about my grandma every day?
Ever since my grandma died of cancer in October of 2009 I have not been able to stop thinking about her. Literally I think about her at least 3 times a day. She pops into my head at random times and stays there for at least like an hour. When she does I feel really sad and depressed. I can’t think of anything else or do anything else. Like if I am in school I can’t pay attention and I just miss out on the whole class. I also think about her every night when I am in bed wanting to fall asleep but I can’t. It takes me like 3 hours to fall asleep. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night because I had a dream about her hating me. She meant everything to me I was closer to her than anyone else. We were very close. Now that she is gone I feel like there is no point to anything. So how do I stop thinking about her almost all the time?
How to stop thinking of negative sad thoughts?
How do I stop thinking thoughts that upset me?? Or thoughts that make me really sad and unhappy, I think them so often and not even on purpose they just pop up in my head and I cannot get them out!! And the thoughts make me so sad and unhappy, they are thoughts such as a bad day I've had before, or something extremely weird or uncool that I did (I know that sounds pathetic), but they become anxiety and I guess my mind makes them seem weirder than what they are and I get anxious and upset about those thoughts, and then they become ubiquitous for about the whole day. I hate this.
Mental Torment - Can't stop thinking of my ex?
I just woke up again thinkng of my ex. We have been separated for over a year now and getting divorced. I can't stop thinking of how he made me feel. The moments we had, our wedding, the way I felt when he looked at me. Everything. We had a relationship many envied us for. I loved him so deeply and woke up every morning thinking how lucky I was. He was wonderful to me until the last moment and lost it. It was finanial trouble that forced us to end it. I have a bf now who treats me like a princess. He loves me and will do anything for me. He doesn't deserve this. I feel intense guilt. I don't want my ex back as we both moved on and so much damage has been done but I just want to forget him and love my bf the way I once loved my ex. Please help. Thanks.
I can't stop thinking about my Ex-Best Friend?
i had a best friend, and we stopped being besties, it was really tough. it hurts now, but you will eventually get over it. friendships don't disappear overnight, so its okay to be sad, and even think nice things about them. 1 - get new friends. don't hang around with the same friend, and don't talk about her. so she will look stupid when she starts talking about you with your new friends, but when they ask you be truthful with them. 2 - if you have anything that Belong to Bree or Sam, give it back. even if it a birthday gift, give it back, don't keep anything. this is how you get over boys too. even burn their pictures!! 3 - find new places to hang out, don't go where you know they will be. if they show up where you are at, stay away from them. if they talk to you, ignore them. it will kill them even more if you do look at them, smile, and be nice. LOL!! 4 - stop listening to music and thinking about them. find something else to think about when you hear that music!!