My roommate's parents crash at our apartment constantly. How do I tell them to STOP?
My roommate's parents, and sometimes her siblings, stay at our apartment at least once a month for three days at a time or more. Lately, they've been coming every couple of weeks to hang out with her, sometimes unexpectedly. We have a two-bedroom, one bathroom apartment, and they stay in the living room. We're in our late 20s, so it's no longer comfortable for me to have guests crash whenever they please. I've told her the following: I need advance notice, weekdays aren't ideal for me, and the frequency of visits is too much. When I said that I'd like her parents to stay in a hotel this time when they requested a last-minute stay on weeknights, it didn't go over well and they showed up anyway. (They are well-off and can afford a hotel.) She's a good friend, and I don't want her family to feel like they aren't welcome for an occasional visit. How do I ask her to have them visit less often -- without being rude? What kind of rules should I set? What's reasonable?
Should I have to leave my apartment because my roommate suddenly wants to have Thanksgiving here?
My roommate's family was having Thanksgiving at his sister's home, but apparently something has happened that he now plans to hold it here later today. He has asked me to leave because some of his family are uncomfortable with strangers. But I literally have no place to go. I live two states away from my own family, any of my friends and coworkers obviously have their own plans, and it's not like I can just go sit in my car for six hours. To me it seems like I could just stay in my room, which would be fine for me, but he thinks that would be uncomfortable for his family. Should I really have to leave my own house just because a couple members of his family are socially awkward?
Why doesn't my roommate ever talk to me? I am starting to hate him.
He is a roommate not your buddy that you share your thoughs, ideas, pictures on your phone.. with. Just 1/2 the rent, cable and utilities. He is living his life as usual and hasn't actually seen you in except hello or something casual. He is just sharing a living quarters. He doesn't know you. If you have tried to start conversations with him and he doesn't seem to be interested then back off. It's a fundamental human right to have your own boundaries. So don't be upset or hate him for not talking to you. Go your on way. He is just a roommate that shares expenses. You lived before him with friends and hobbies and if you didn't get some. Try the Library. Computers, books, tapes, events, programs PEOPLE with the same wants and needs you have - believe it or not! I had the same thing happened to me years ago and had no transportation but a diner and a public library were in walking distance so after so many cups of coffee I was bored and headed to the library. I was hooked on event night - It was on the Civil War then started checking out books on the Civil War….you get the picture. Good Luck. It's not a marriage! Lol
My roommate's mom will be arriving for a visit and most likely will stay in our room. How can I tell her politely I am uncomfortable with this?
Say, “I’m uncomfortable with your Mom staying in the room with us. It has nothing to do with your mother, in particular. I just don’t like the idea of visitors sleeping in my bedroom.”Suggest that either her mother sleeps on the sofa or volunteer to do so yourself. You also need to have a talk with her about future visitors. Tell her that visitors, no matter how nice they are, disrupt your schedule and interfere with your privacy, and you feel that both of you should establish mutual guidelines including sufficient advance notice.There’s really no way to tip-toe around this. You have to come right out and say it.
Should my roommate's boyfriend have to pay rent?
I moved into an apartment with my best friend about a month and a half ago. She was single at the time. Then about 2-3 weeks ago she started dating a guy that we work with. Ever since then he has stayed at our house every night. He showers here, keeps clothes here, and does his laundry here. Everyone thinks he should be paying rent, and I've said that he needs to but Mollie says "well we were the ones that got the apartment and he doesn't even have a room" so he shouldn't have to pay. He says he has his own apartment (which Mollie never been to) and that he'll be paying rent at 2 places. Not my problem! I shouldn't be having to pay for him to live here and I'm getting tired of it. Do you think he should be paying? What should I say to Mollie to let her know I'm serious?
What is better - a PG/flat with a room mate or a PG/flat alone?
The most important thing to note while looking for a room mate is the level of comfort that you have with that person. May it be a PG or a flat you would always want to gel with the person you want to spend your time living with. For that you would first like to know the person on one to one basis before going forth with the decision. Flatchat is a great app that helps you find your potential roommate on the go.How that helps? Well as stated earlier the most important thing is “whom” you are going to share you flat with, and Flatchat matches you with people according to your needs with whom you can chat with and eventually take it ahead.Flatchat also has a useful feature: the ‘Flatchat assistant’So apart from allowing you to chat with members who match your requirements (and you theirs) Flatchat also provides you with a human assistant who will be your one point of contact for any requirement you have.The assistant will personally assist you in finding available places. You may ask for any advice like in your case, you may want to know the trend at the place you are moving off to.So if you want to find a place of your interest hassle free, I would suggest you to go forth and try the Flatchat app.
In North Carolina, if you invite someone to stay at your house without any written contract, is it legal to kick them out at will?
Well, that depends on a number of factors. I don't know specifically about North Carolina's landlord tenant law, and you should talk with a licensed attorney about the specifics. This is based on general property law. If they have been there for a short period of time, most likely the answer will be yes. In most states, you are perfectly legally free to have visitors for reasonable periods of time without adding them to the lease, though states will vary as to what a reasonable period of time is. For the most part, if the person is staying longer than one rent period (usually a month on a residential lease,) then they will probably have to be added to the lease. That would mean to evict the tenant, the landlord would have to go through formal proceedings. If the person has not been added to the lease, then the person has a revocable license to be there with your permission. You can take that back at any time. If they refuse to leave, you can bring a trespass action against that person. There are things that may prevent you from doing so, however. One is estoppel. The person would have to show in court that (1) you promised them a place to stay, (2) that promise was reasonable and they relied reasonably on it, (3) they have substantially changed position (4) to their detriment, like having given up their own apartment, and (5) the only way to avoid injustice would be to enforce the promise you made. It's a pretty uphill battle for them, in other words. Once again, this is based on the majority view of general landlord-tenant law. For specifics, please contact a local bar-certified attorney in North Carolina.Edit: I misread the question a bit. This would apply if you are renting the property you are on. If you are the owner of the property, it would also depend on if you have accepted rent from the person or if they have done something in exchange for living there. Most courts will impose a month-to-month tenancy absent a specific contract to the contrary under those circumstances. If you have not, then you are most likely within your rights to simply have them removed as a trespasser.
Roommate dispute, someone threaten to shoot guests. Is it illegal to threaten roommate?
Roommate and I had a verbal agreement to not throw parties in our apartment. Five of my family members were in town and asked to sleepover with me for one night. My roommate refused to allow them to stay. I mitigated all his concerns, but he still said no. His reason for refusing was that I "told him" they were staying instead of asking his permission. A heated debate ensued in which I told him I didn't need his permission if we were civil and respectful. He "warned me" that if I had them come over, he would ask nicely for them to leave. He also "warned" that if they wouldn't leave, he had the right to "defend his home against intruders." I asked, "Really?? You'd shoot my cousins??" He replied, "Absolutely. I can shoot any intruder that refuses to leave my home. No matter who they're related to." Can he do that? Isn't that a threat of physical harm? Subsequently, I told him I was going move out because I don't feel safe with him making threats to my fam. He won't leave so I can pack and move. He THEN told me if I involve the police he will pull all stops to make my life as miserable as humanly possible. He will tell the cops I'm crazy, a drug dealer, and he will give them names and addresses of my friends and fam and send the cops over because they deal drugs, too. I'm not a criminal. I've never sold drugs a day in my life. And I don't associate with people who do. I've saved the text messages. I don't want to open Pandora's box but I don't feel safe packing in the apartment with him there. He plans on hovering around to make sure I don't "steal or destroy" his property when I leave. I'm not a thief. Never have been. Don't want to start now and have his crazy self after me even more. What should I do? I just want to move on and have him leave me alone!!