Visitation rights?
I'm a girl, I'm just using my boyfriend's account. We've went to court over this before. I had proof of them not being home, not returning phone calls, etc. But when they were asked about it, they completely lied and got away with it. They would just say that I simply didn't show up. And thank you for your answers. I'm sure I'm probably gonna have to resort the answer involving the police escort.
My boyfriend (who is also my daughter's dad) is communicating with the girl he had an affair with. I'm heartbroken. What can I do?
I’m sorry that this is happening, I know this brand of heartbreak well, it sucks, and there is no easy way through it.My first suggestion would be to break up with your boyfriend. He is not committed to the relationship, or to you, it is entirely inappropriate for him to be speaking to this woman at all. If you cohabitate, I would go ahead and make alternative arrangements and I would wait until you know where you are going to drop the bomb. If you already live in separate homes, then there is no need for caution.Second I would immediately file for child support. You can get an attorney to handle this for you or, you can file for DFS assistance.Third, I would establish a custodial arrangement, so long as your daughter’s father is just that, a father, emotionally, and financially and responsibly. Otherwise, cut him loose like a bunch of split ends. Children are better off without a toxic parent in their lives. Make sure this arrangement is legal and documented with the court. Even if he were to sign over his parental rights, he still owes you child support, if you are the custodial parent.You will need to be there for your daughter as much as you will need to be there for yourself. The two of you are all that matters now. Yes it hurts, yes it’s unbearably hard, it must be done. Your daughter will look to you as a role model for her future relationships, the last thing you want is to inadvertently teach her to accept less than she deserves. And you deserve much better than this man, Stormy.Fourth, surround yourself with supportive, loving friends. It’s okay to be sad, to grieve the loss of someone you cared about, but don’t let it define you forever. This too shall pass, in time. Nine times out of ten, a cheater will always be a cheater. Don’t let him convince you otherwise. Force yourself to do things outside of the house, even if you are feeling bleak and depressed. Remember to stay hydrated, and take care of your body. Exercise helps work out frustration. And it will make you feel good, inside and out.Again I am so sorry you have to deal with this bs. I’m here if you need a friend Ms. Stormy.
My boyfriend's baby mama teaches their daughter to hate me...what do I do?
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years and I love him a lot. He has a five year old daughter and I've been around her a few times in the past and she liked me. But when her mother found out that her daughter's father is in a serious relationship w/me, she began telling her daughter terrible and untrue things about me. She no longer let her daughter stay overnight with her dad...and whenever he wants to get his daughter, her mother always asks if I'm going to be around and he says yeah and then she'll say well I dont want my baby around her. He even went to court to get visitation rights (which he got). But now his daughter tells him herself that she doesnt want to come over if Im around and that she hates me...She's only FIVE! But her mother drilled it into her head to hate me. I really want this to wrk and I want to build a relationship with his daughter because we want to move in together in a few months. What do I do???PLEASE HELP! This is putting a strain on our relationship and I know his baby's mother wants him to feel like he has to choose, me or his daughter and that's not fair.
Father's rights to visitation without a court order?
My boyfriend just had a baby, his name is on the birth certificate, but there are no court orders for visitation or child support. Two days ago they went to court for child support but given the situation me and my boyfriend are in, and what all the mother is asking for, the county clerks said they would hold off on the support and re-scheduled another court date for the 16th. The (5 month old) baby's mother is refusing to allow him to pick up the baby, or take the baby, or allow me to be around the baby. She had us babysit the baby a few months ago so she could go to a wedding, and has allowed us to keep him here for a few hours, she also met with us at the mall to hang out.. having no issues at all until she found out I was pregnant. Now she is being.. silly. She demands money and refuses to share information about the baby.. now she is demanding that my boyfriend go to HER house to visit the baby.. like supervised visitation.. which we refuse to allow because we have done that before and all she will do is be so negative to a point where my boyfriend ends up having to leave because of all the things she says about him, or me, or our unborn child, or our eldest children (I have a 5 yr old from another man and he has a 4 yr old from another woman). My question is: is there anything he/we can do to get personalized visitation with the baby so that my boyfriend can see his son without it's mother breathing down his throat? All he wants is a little time to bond, something she has done her best to stop. She has already stated that she wants him to give up his rights and allow her boyfriend to adopt. (Same guy who told her to abort their child.) My boyfriend just wants things to be equal and fair.. what can we do? We don't have the money to hire a lawyer and are trying to move into a place within the next week. Is there anything at all we can do besides keep records of the texts for the next court hearing? Or does my boyfriend have to wait all that time to see his son?
How can I tell my ex-boyfriend that I don’t want him to see our (infant) daughter anymore?
You cannot do it without leaving yourself open to a legal challenge. If his name is on the birth certificate, or can be added to it by him petitioning a court for DNA tests to establish your daughter’s father, anything you say can be overridden in family court and/or social services. Even if you have a restraining order against him, he can still seek visitation rights independent of contact with you.Many women in your position wish their baby’s father were still willing to be a father rather than just a sperm donor. If there is any way for your daughter to have a healthy relationship with her biological father, it should be allowed… if there isn’t, family services can limit or delay contact by him with your daughter, but ultimately only family court can limit or terminate his paternity rights… you cannot do it by yourself. By the way, if you try to flee or send your daughter away to a friend or relative so social services cannot find her, you could be arrested and prosecuted for child abduction. If an international boundary were involved, you could end up separated from her for the rest of her childhood by a repatriation request that brought her (an American citizen) back and an INS order that permanently excluded you from the United States.
What legal rights does an ex’s new boyfriend have, in regard to my daughter?
I am not an attornery, my answer is strictly from experienc. Unless you adopt your daughter to him then he doesn't have any rights. Now, if your ex and him get married it changes the dynamic of the relatioship. Have a talk with the boyfriend, you'd be surprised how receptive he may be. My husband calls my ex his “"ex in-law”, I set rules before I remarried and one of was: as long as we're married, you must figure out a way to get along with the ex. Have a sit down and come to an agreement of what each expects. It worked well for me….can't hurt to try!
My boyfriends ex won t let him see his child?
my bfs ex is psychotic. we ve been together for 4 months and she s jealous because he found someone else, and is "punishing" him by keeping his son away from him. He s really depressed because of it and i wish i knew what to do. we don t have the money to file for custody, so is there anyway that we can get around her head and prove to her that what she is doing is horrible? has anyone gone through this, and if so, how did you resolve it?
What should my ex-boyfriend do if he loves me but can't be with me because of the mother of his child is telling him he can't see his daughter if he's with me?
Going only off of what you are saying, this mother is selfishly using this child against the father. The child is a human being who deserves a relationship with both parents. Provided that both parents are fit caregivers. My advice is to seek out a family lawyer for help getting visitation rights. The court can set up a visitation schedule for the father and the child that the mother will legally have to abide by. He should also set up child support payments if he hasn't already. If money is an issue, there are some lawyers who will work Pro Bono or at a discounted rate. Best of luck to all 3 of you.