How are some people able to talk about everything?
Junk brains.I have one and I will describe it by saying that I expose myself to tons of information in any given day, reading multiple newspapers, doing NYT Crossword, reading from several books, reading Quora articles, reading Wikipedia entries, going to speeches and colloquia when I can. For a junk brain, a high percentage of the information they expose themselves too sticks.I used to play Trivial Pursuit with a group of PhD eggheads; they never stood a chance once questions got out of their wheelhouse. Junk brains have a very large (but often not very deep) wheelhouse.Quora is full of junk brains. Just about the time I want to congratulate myself for being a most viewed writer in 100 or so topics, I run into someone who has triple that. And when you look at a junk brain’s topics, they span an incredibly broad field.It can be a curse. I have a nephew who is among the world’s great junk brains. When he calls his father, poor Dad knows the evening is gone as his son will be exploring about a dozen things he has put together in the last 24 hours. When nephew and I get together, we tend to bore the assembled crowd silly. And we never apologize, because we actually think almost everything is interesting. Like this question.So keep the questions coming, Quora.
Why don't I talk as much as other people?
Well, I also had this problem before. In every party and conversation, I had always been the most quite person because I didn't know what to say. I was afraid that people would find me boring because I didn't talk much. Then I realize that there're these three simple solutions to this problem.Most people like to talk about themselves, what they like and dislike, their passions, etc. And it makes them feel best talking to someone who can listen. If you practice active listening, you will be able to understand people better which leads to your ability to ask open-end, interesting questions. That's how to keep a conversation going on interestingly. And by actively listening, it helps you to accumulate knowledge, experiences and stories from other people adding up to your life library and you'll be able to remember a lot of good stories well. Thus, those experiences you accumulate become your own stories to tell other people in upcoming conversations, meetings, etc. In order to become a good speaker, you first need to be a good listener.Another way to increase your knowledge in general so you can have a wide range of topics to talk about is reading. Writers sometime put their whole lifetime experiences in a book of several hundred pages, by reading a book, you absorb all of those knowledge in just a much shorter time. The more you read, the more knowledgable you are, which makes you become much more intellectually interesting. It's always a better conversation talking with someone who reads a lot more than a person who read nothing. So take at least 30 minutes a day reading book as a habit, believe me, you won't regret reading too much.Last thing, don't worry if you're not able to have much to talk about at the moment. Being a good conversationalist is all about story telling. If you pay extra attention to your everyday things and learn how to talk about them in an interesting way, that would be still much better than having an interesting story being told in a boring way. How you tell a story matters as much as your experiences and knowledge.So, to sum up, you need first to be a good listener, do reading as a habit and then learn how to tell a story well. That's all you need to make a good talk.
Why do people only talk to me when they need something, and not talk to me for who I am?
In a very straightforward and elaborate way, you’ve just defined a special type of people in your question - the type we define as “selfish”. The people you’ve mentioned in your question are selfish, probably to their very bones.The world is a very cruel place, and it’s generally advised that you look out for yourself first before you do the same for others. According to that, it’s okay if you think about yourself before others, but this is to be followed in times of adversity, and not in every freaking chance you get.This behaviour, the one involving “you only mean something to me when I can utilize you or your presence in an advantageous way for myself”, is unacceptable. It’s simply unacceptable. And the people sporting such behaviour should be thrown out of your life like trash, because that’s exactly what they are.People on the internet, with a sense of sarcasm, like to say that “help a friend in need, and he/she will remember you when he/she needs help again”. Well guess what? Those people are not ‘friends’ by any means. They’re pretty much parasites. Like this leech right here -Leeches just latch onto their hosts, and drain the bodily fluids (mostly blood) which they take for themselves. Apart from the occasional infection and anaphylactic shocks in a few rare cases, they give absolutely nothing in return. Exactly like those people you mentioned in the question. I don’t think I need to tell you what should be done with leeches.All the best casting them out of your lives.P.S. Thanks for the answer request. Means a lot.
Why do some people prefer talking more to strangers than to people they know personally on social media sites?
I guess the main reasons are as follows(feels like I'm writing my geography paper again "reasons are as follows" :P):1. Strangers don't know enough to judge them based on their past. Hence, people have this sense of security while talking to strangers which is hardly the case with real people.2. We can simply ignore, block them unlike people who we know personally. 3. Many people find it easier to open up to strangers as the chances of meeting them are negligible and hence they don't have to be afraid to face them in person feeling exposed. 4. Lastly, strangers can be interesting than the real people you know. I read so many answers here by strangers and find them very intriguing. Most of them appear to be more interesting than 80% of my real friends.I'd like to post links to two of the videos I came across recently. Though they don't have a direct link to this question but both of them put up some real puzzling observations.The first video is and the answer to this viral video is I loved both of them and despite the first one being well choreographed, I prefer the second one as it is much more pragmatic. I guess I have strayed waaay off the question. So, I'm gonna end it here.Ironically, I was asked to answer this question by a complete stranger Sakshi Choudhary. Thank you as this is my first A2A.
Only straight people go to heaven? Not fair?
Absolutely not. Gay people go to heaven, straight go to heaven, and anywhere in between. Any loving "God" would not burn your for all time because you like men, or women, both, or none. 99% of peoe don't have a choice with their sexuality they are born with it.
In the initial stages of dating, when do you stop talking to other people?
When you've decided you like the other person enough to turn everyone else down.It's a two-way street. 1, 2, 3 dates in you decide: “I am interested in a relationship with this person.” but obviously if you plan on becoming exclusive, you want to make sure that they're making the same decision.If you want that exclusive relationship and you like them that much, then drop a hint at some point, maybe on the next date “yeah, so, I deleted my Tinder and POF profiles..” see what the response is. If they say “why?” then say, “I dunno. I kinda like you. Don't want anyone else to think they can have me haha” smile/laugh.. something like that. Maybe they'll say “yeah I'm going to delete mine as well actually” then you can ask “why”.. or be cocky; “good! I want you to myself haha!” Anyway, you can see what I'm getting at. Basically just cut the shit and let them know you want them.
Why is it that wise people typically don't talk much?
They belong to different wavelenght of thinking / higher plane of thinkingWisemen choose their audience, chose their subject & time to speakThey do not like idle talking - weather, politics, sports = are often the endless, directionless topics. They want to converse on their chosen topics with whom they can sure of engaging in higher planes of discussionWisemen are often seen to be slow to action !!! They take time to react but definitely NOT passive but very active people.Wisemen does discuss but often in discussions giving suggestions or advices.Wisemen are that category of people who are 25 steps (randon figure) ahead of general people in that mental spectrumTruth is perceived differently by many. Say Apple fighting off on principles against FBI / CIA to disclose its encryption in the interests of the nation - for ordinary people it is a great news & rush to buy Apple products. Seasoned industry people will percieve it as a market positioning, but the reality is totally different in this dark world. Infact Apple, FBI & CIA exchange seamless information, for they have jointly funded & promoted Apple. So Wiseman stays away (avoids) from the technical gossip discussions.Another case is - You built a strong & good quality product say Apple & juxtapose it alongside of Android & Blackberry. Naturally Apple will shine more brighter in the comparison. To corporate Users Blackberry will shine !! for Android has “lowest security”. It will drive Users to buy more Apple / Blackberry & masses will go to Android being vanilla flavor - The wiseman knows all this & would like to spend less on hype but more on practical applications
Why is it that people tell me to speak up, and when I do, they tell me to quiet down?
Grow up.You mumble. People ask you to speak up. You get pissy and repeat yourself in a clearly Angry-You-Made-Me-Repeat-Myself voice. That's what children do. I mean 6 and 7 year olds.You are completely capable of speaking in a normal, clear voice with your head held levelly. You don't need to be looking down at your feet, barely moving your lips, trying hard NOT to make a sound. You are ABSOLUTELY aware of the fact that you mumble.... and you are absolutely aware of the fact that you don't have to mumble. It is a choice you make based on multiple different factors.This isn't the issue however. The problem is, you mumble by choice. You want to say things out of anger and defiance, so you say them. You know what you are saying would get you in trouble, so you just mumble it. At least you said it out loud, right? That, or someone is making you admit something you don't want to admit. Or you have no confidence in what you are saying, so you are mumbling to fit the requirement of answering a question out loud.The issue is that instead of doing what you are told or expected, you get defiant. That mumbling... it is a defiant expression of a lack of confidence.Stop mumbling. Keep your chin up, look people in the eye, and speak clearly. Don't spit your words out in anger. Don't shout or raise your voice. Speak clearly and normally, just like you have heard and seen HUNDREDS of people do. Speak clearly to be heard the first time so you don't have to repeat yourself.However... if you were expecting people to tell you that everyone is being mean to you in how they won't just let you mumble... think again.This attitude you express in your question... where you imply it is their fault you repeat yourself in a shout, and that it repeats ad nauseum because people won't just let you mumble.... that is clever, but incorrect. The fault is yours because you were mumbling in the first place. It is not the fault of the people asking you to speak up. You chose to mumble... and then you chose to react the opposite way, in an equally inappropriate overly-loud voice.Your choices are getting you in trouble. There is no happy medium. There is no middle ground where you get to occasionally make bad choices regarding speaking, and the people you talk to get to only occasionally tell you to speak up and then condemn you for being too loud. There is only you, making the right choices. You... not mumbling or shouting anymore.