Friend waits until last minute?
My friend and I often hang out during the week and also meet for lunch during the week, in which we are in constant communication throughout the day anyway and he always shows up. However, sometimes when we make plans for certain days during the weekend, I won't hear from him all day until the very last minute, so I'm stuck waiting around for him wondering if we're actually going out. I'll even text him and won't hear back til hours later. I'm not sure if he's busy or with a girl or something (we're FWB to complicate the matter), but how do I approach the fact that I feel somewhat disrespected for being in the back of his mind when we have plans. Am I overreacting?
Why do guys ask girls out last minute?
This seems to be the standard today.. guys asking girls to hang out last minute (like that evening/afternoon). I've noticed this with my friends and I and just be talking to other women. I'm 23 and the guys I date are usually around my age so maybe it's a reflection of young guys only? I just want to know if the women on Y!A have had the same experiences or not? And for the men, why does this happen? Is it because you know the women will go out with you anyway even if it is last minute?
Guys: asking her out at the very last minute?
This guy I used to like asked me out a few days ago but he wasn't being specific with the plan. He said he will let me know and did not contact me for days. Then he, out of the blue, sends me a text saying, "do you wanna go watch movies tonight" And it was only 2 hours before the movie started. Of course I said no because I was working. Is it me or he is being really rude? Why is he doing this to me? Am I his "last resort" girl? Should I cut him off? Help!
Why do girls sometimes cancel a date at the last minute?
What I would say is that perhaps the kind of girls you are going for are ones who really aren't as sincere as they would like you to believe. If a girl really is into you, she won't cancel on you. Period. When this girl has told you that she needed to "do something" did she give you any details or did she just leave it at that? If she didn't elaborate, she might have just been playing tetris on her laptop and hoping that you will just give up. Now, you say 75% of girls. that would imply that you have dated 100 girls and 3/4 of them have canceled. I think maybe you are looking for dates in the wrong places. If a girl does this to you, i would never ask her for a date again. It's that simple.
When a girl cancels a date, how long should I wait to contact her about re-scheduling?
Dating isn’t really special about this: you should do the same basic thing you would do if anybody else canceled on you, given all of the context of the activity, timing, etc. If a buddy canceled on you in the same situation, what would you do? Do that thing.For example, suppose I had plans to go see Wonder Woman with my friend Roland. And then a few hours before hand, he said “oh you know what, I can’t tonight, I have to go to Chicago.” Ok, no big deal, and I would either ask if he wanted to go some specific other time, or I would just drop that particular idea and then ask him to hang out whenever I felt like it after he got back.On the other hand, if I had bought tickets to a concert and he bailed at the last minute and didn’t offer to pay me back, I would be angry at him and let him know that. Because he isn’t treating me with respect. And maybe I wouldn’t invite him next time.
Why do girls cancel plans at the last minute?
Bro, treat a last minute cancellation like a no call no show. Sometimes sh!t happens, family emergencies, flat tire, building collapsed, we noble, we above board. We understand shit happens. If it was sincere, they'll reschedule like, I'm soooo sorry, can we get together tomorrow night instead, I am soooo sorry. If he/she canceling just to cancel, like, "Meh, phukit, I don't feel it tonight...." Might want to give it one more shot and after that develop a strong hire/fire mentality. She ain't the only girl in the world and its easy to fixate on someone, but that "one" isn't all that into you and will only lead you on a emotional roller coaster. If its's the first time, try it again, but the odds are already stacked against you if the excuse isn't solid and there isn't a reschedule..... Don't bang your head against a brick wall, time to man up and walk away.... When she said, "When we have more time". You should have immediately asked her how does your schedule look tomorrow? Chalk it up to experience man, use this downer time and expend on looking for someone else to take out, it'll work wonders for you bro!!
After the first date, what are some indicators that the girl doesn't want you to ask her out on a second date?
All the ones June Lin brought up are very classic indicators that you've sunk your first date, with slight exceptions. Here's a few more for you that are common from what I've seen as well.* If she doesn't text you within a few hours after you've dropped her off or walked her home, especially if this is in the evening, it means that she's not interested. When she has a good time on the first date, she'll almost always be excited and happy after leaving your company. At this time, she'll either want to talk to her friends/roommates/sister or whoever she's close to about you and/or text you to let you know she had a good time, or even just to say something like "good night, sweet dreams".* Chances are, if you can't get her to agree to a second date while you are still on your first date, it means she's not that into you. The best time to ask her out again is while you're still with her in person. If she's having a good time with you now, she'll rest assured knowing that you want to take her out again, and you've set a time and date for that. No, this doesn't make you look clingy. If anything, it shows a girl that you're into her and sets clear expectations.* If you haven't seen her smile at you for longer than 15minutes, even when you're trying to be charming, you have no chance in hell of getting a 2nd date. Plain and simple. She should be laughing at your most retarded jokes and just smiling unconsciously if she's having a good time.* I find that what she says to you and how she says goodbye to you is actually not an accurate indicator if she's into you or not. This is because every girl is different - it could be cultural, traditional, influenced by family or just her own personality. Some girls are more shy, or not used to hugging a guy as a way to say hi or goodbye to a guy, don't let this discourage you in any way. What she says to you could be influenced by the same factors, she could be nervous or also just lack the experience to know what to say appropriately at that moment. So don't be discouraged if this happens to you guys, if she ends up calling or texting you later, it most likely means she's interested. Also, don't be afraid to follow up and give her a buzz, some girls don't show any obvious signs of interest until further along the process.