What does it mean when a girl talks to you about her problems and leans on you for support? I have a crush on one of my close friends who is a girl (I'm a guy). Am I friendzoned or could she actually want to see where things go with me?
First, I feel you. I’ve been here. I’ve been the shoulder, the advice-giver, the confidant, to someone who I wanted romance from but was getting mixed signals, instead.In my unrequited-romantic past, every time I’ve over-explained someone’s actions I am not looking at the clear honest truth that is in my gut. My friends do the same thing.The “talking her through some of her insecurities and issues.” Ugh…my stomach turned over at this sentence. Like really did a tornado-twist that made me almost not reply.There’s this great episode of Friends where Phoebe is dating a therapist, played by Fisher Stevens. She ‘loves him’ because he’s so insightful, and she introduces him to all of the gang. He dissects all of their ‘insecurities and issues’ and so well that they all immediately hate him. Even though he’s right. When she tells him later that her friends don’t like him, he explains why, and hits it right on the nose. She then hates him, too.No one wants you to talk about their insecurities and issues unless you’re their shrink, and even then some people will fire the shrink so they don’t have to look.We learn what we have to fix about ourselves on our own…the hard way. That’s the cut and dry truth.It’s so not hot for a potential lover to do that. So that makes me think you’re not a potential lover. However…You might be right - and I mean this - that you might be in the friend-zone because you are so far away. Maybe.Only one way to find out.My best suggestion is this: Be less available. Don’t talk about her other relationships, with men or women, and yes both are equally real, no matter what she says.Leave her issues for her future therapist if she pays for one.Be a guy she’d want in her life romantically. Be charming. Be complimentary. Shut down the drama. Shut down the gossip. Be a little elusive. Wait and see what she does because she will show you how she feels. Stop listening to words and start listening to actions.Step back so she can see you. Really see you.As who you are, not how you can fix her.Start to use my belief in what you have to offer, until you believe it yourself.I believe you can be loved, and love, for real.I believe you can have a woman — or a girl — who doesn’t want to kiss anyone but you.But you have to believe that first, and act like you believe it, until you do.Borrow my belief, and treat yourself like you’re the king of your world and worth everything your heart desires. Even this girl.xx,Faleena HopkinsAuthor Faleena Hopkins
My girlfriend wants to meet my friends, but im worried because..?
You're fine relax
Is it normal to have more guy friends then girls?
so i've been thinking about all of the friends i have because i am getting ready to go christmas shopping, and i have realized i have alot of guy friends. i get criticized alot because some ignorant people in my city think that's "slutty"...but to be honest, i just find to much drama hanging out with girls. it's not that im not a girly girl...i still wear makeup and dress up and do girl things, but i just tend to hang out more with guys. is that normal? is it slutty? im not sleeping with any of them so it can't be right? i mean so many people have judgments on it i need some advice on maybe how to change this? maybe get more friends who are girls?
Why I'm SO nervous around girls and how to deal with this problem (plz answer)?
You're nervous because you want to impress them. When you can stop thinking about that, you'll stop being nervous. Try thinking of them all as your best friends girl friend...someone you're not remotely thinking about asking out.
All my friends get girls attention but me how do i cope with repeated rejection when will i ever get my turn?
a) are you the same level of physical fitness as the gals you want to attract? this is a tough but true question you've got to answer. if not, work on it. b) insecurity makes us all act like weirdos. it makes us scoff when people compliment us, act crazy and clingy when someone we like shows a bit of attention, turn away from people smiling, etc.... lose the insecurity in any way you can find ... work out, find an exciting new hobby, get a new haircut, whatever makes you feel good. c) maybe your friends just happen to be super attractive, ultra interesting guys....yeah, a lot of the high caliber gals are gonna be attracted to high caliber guys. but that doesn't mean the cute, quiet girl in the corner isn't eyeing you instead of them.... find ways to meet new people and don't underestimate the power of networking through your buddies. for example, some of my friends are smoking gorgeous, and its a bit of a rub when i see that the stunning guys are drooling over them, but i've found that sometimes those stunning guys have average friends who are more compatible with me anyway... i wanted to be kind, but honest because i have similar problems as you and i'm sick of bs answers that just try to make a person feel better. this is as close as i can come to giving real advice. good luck!
Why is it hard to get a girlfriend?
For part of my life, when I was younger, I found it difficult to find a girlfriend.Today, I find it easy.What changed? I did.When people say they can't find a partner, it has been my experience and observation that those people are not paying attention to what matters. They are focusing on what they want, but not what they offer.If you met a woman tomorrow who was everything you could ever want, the absolute perfect girlfriend for you, why would she want you? What do you offer? If you met your perfect girlfriend tomorrow while you were standing in a group of five other guys, what would cause her to notice you and want you instead of one of those other guys?A lot of people think the answer is “money” or “looks” or “an expensive car,” it isn't. I'm a balding, goofy-looking middle-aged man with no money who drives a 25-year-old van. I do not have any problem finding partners.So what is it?Be open. Be courageous. Be authentic. When you find someone interesting, say so. Ask people out…but be willing to accept no for an answer. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Be vulnerable. Treat women like people. Be confident and secure. Don't be jealous, controlling, entitled, or manipulative. Treat others with kindness and compassion. Don't hide your intentions by pretending to be friends and hoping she will wake up one day and decide to shag you.That really is all there is to it.