Why do some people avoid eye contact?
For many people, when someone is looking directly into their eyes, it makes them uncomfortable. So they simply avoid it.Someone looking directly at you when you are speaking means (hopefully) they are listening to every word you say, along with tone, inflection, etc. If you are speaking on a topic you are unfamiliar with, or just bsing your way through it, you are fearful that they will see right through you, or ask a follow-up question that you simply can’t answer. As such, you avoid their eyes.The opposite is also true. If someone else is speaking and you are avoiding eye contact with them, this can indicate to them a number of things. You are not confident of your knowledge in what they are discussing, you have poor mastery of the language and do not understand their words, or you lack the knowledge to respond to them in the proper manner.Lack of confidence in yourself/language/knowledge is the issue.Or.. they could just be shy.Or they could just be hiding something they don’t want you to figure out.And... alas… then we have the “human” aspect.There is something about people looking directly into the eyes when you are speaking that turns on the “uncomfortable” switch in lots of people.How much easier would it be if you had to give a speech in front of a large group and all the audience members were sitting there with their eyes closed.
Why do people look down after eye contact?
I don’t think it’s always about shyness. I’m anything but shy, I often make eye contact and smile at strangers but only for a brief moment. After which I will look away, whether that is down or sideways or just at some other object or person.More eye contact than that with a stranger can come across as a threat or it can feel like someone is overstepping your boundaries. Like if someone is staring at me too long, I start to feel uncomfortable - like maybe they are going to approach me in a second and bug me about something - spare change or sexual advances for example. Or in the worst case scenario, it might mean that someone is actually planning an attack of some sort.Eye contact is pretty personal, it can be an intimidation tactic or it can be used to show deeper interest in someone - like when you look someone in the eyes when they speak. Showing too much interest in strangers usually comes across as creepy though.
What happens to people who don’t make eye contact or communicate when on a date? Lately everyone I see is on their cell.
Well them people are handicapped due to them being from the new generation or having that new generation mind in doing things.I'm from the 90s era so certain values, morales & ways of doing daily day to day things are always gonna be applied by me no matter what time zone we are in & being on your phone while your talking to somebody especially on a date is disrespectful & shows that you have no total regard for what is going on during the time we are spending together.Put it this way there's ways of doing it, take out your phone when your get an important notification etc but just pulling it out to surf the net or social media like you got nobody around you is rude as hell, call me old school in that aspect I don't care it just had to be expressed.I'd rather spend my time by doing something else, got no time for that disrespect there, thatsbjust my opinion & how I else on things really, no hard feelings.Jacob Latimore …
I suck at keeping in contact with people even if I like them. Why am I like this?
Not a huge fan of some of these answers that immediately try categorizing you.Meyers Briggs is a fucking sham. Who gives a damn if you’re an introvert. Nobody can tell you who you are and then explain why you act the way you do.Now that that’s settled, let me tell you why you may act the way you do. (I’m funny).Recently, I had a conversation with a close friend about this very thing. She lamented the fact that the guy she was dating didn’t text or call her a lot, and made a link between constant communication and effort. A link that, in my opinion, isn’t true.You know what I like, and look for? Not having to feel like I need to call or text someone.Got a best pal? Maybe a family member? The kinds of relationships that you can not talk to him or her for months or even years at a time, but when you meet, it’s as if no time has passed? C’mon, you know what I’m talking about. That’s the stuff I like.If I’m dating someone, and I feel like in order to keep the “flame” going I need to keep up with a barrage of communication, I know it’s already a failed relationship. At least from my end. I like knowing that I can not talk to someone all day and everything is going to be juuuuust fine. Closeness in silence. Comfortable with quiet. That’s a wonderful feeling.I don’t think there is anything wrong with you, pal. Maybe you’re like me. Maybe it’s not about sucking with communication, as much as it is valuing those around you that don’t require constant communication in order to feel validated. It’s being there when you’re needed, lending a hand when you can, and supporting when you should. I don’t need to tell you about my damn haircut in order to do those things.It’s about being there in a meaningful way, not in an artificial way.
What does it feel like to have strabismus (squint/crossed eyes)?
I read Sabrina Ali's response below and very much identified with much of it. My strabismus is of the straight "cross-eye" form, and my manner of dealing with it, like Sabrina's, was to learn to use one eye at a time.So I identify very highly with the lack of depth perception, the inability to see the Magic art, and it's a waste of time and money to go to 3D movies.When I was about 5, I had surgery for cross-eye, and six months later, my eyes turned back. So when I was about 6, I had surgery again. And my eyes turned back. So they decided it would be better to wait until my eye muscles were more mature and less springy. So I had surgery when I was 14, and they only fixed them about half-way, because they were worried about scar tissue. They recommended I revisit when I was 18 or 20. When I did that, they examined me and said, "you've got so much muscle work in there that if we gave you surgery, there's a good chance we'd over-correct" and my eye would turn out instead of in. I had the same experience as Sabrina did as far as being "comically bad" at athletics. But, it might have been worse for me, as when you're a guy (at least in the US), athletic ability is a big swinger in how much status you have. I was bullied pretty heavily when I was a kid because of my eyes.Now, as an adult, I've been OK for the most part (I still am horrible at tennis and golf and driving nails with a hammer). But my eyes are such that I can kind of hide my now half-crossed eye by kind of looking at everyone kind of sideways - I always turn my head a little bit. BUT -- eventually, I grew up, I was able to get over a lot of my missing confidence, and I was able to start dating, based on my other qualities. And I'm very happily married and have a family and a good career. Sure would be nice to be able to play golf, but oh well.
I feel because I am disabled, people reject me?
I'm a teen and I have mild CP and I have sight impairment. By the way, my CP only affects my legs, and not my learning. I'm actually a lot smarter than people my age. The CP causes me to run slow and for physical exercise to be tough for me, so I'm always the last girl to finish doing stuff in gym. It makes me look like I am out of shape, when I am not, because it's my legs. People always stereotype disabled people with being dumb. My teachers have done that. They treat me different and ask if I need help at the beginning of the year until they finally realize that me being a strait A student is from my hard work instead of other peoples. I've been bullied before, and now people don't want to be my friends. Could it just be that because I am not considered pretty, I'm unpopular, I'm a nerd that can't ever be athletic, I'm shy, and that I wear boyish clothes? I'm always really nice to everyone. A lot of people aren't just nice back. I've had a crushes that always reject me. I think it's because of my CP. I mean they most likely notice what happens in gym class. Or people have told them. They only see of me as a friend and nothing more because of it. I kinda want to change my style next year. I want to understand though why people are doing this to me. It's not like I wanted to have both of my disabilities. I was born with it. It makes me really sad. A lot of disabled people are nice, are smart, are beautiful, are amazing, and are unique.
I am a cautious person, does that mean that i have no confidence?
Of course not. I'm really confident in myself and I'm still cautious. Caution is a good thing as it can keep us from doing stupid stuff, though as with all good things too much can be detrimental. Besides, in what areas do you believe in yourself? I'm confident in my intellect, but that doesn't mean I shouldn't be cautious if I were to begin doing parkour seeing as I'm fat and athletically impaired. It all depends on where you believe in yourself, I guess. Besides, so what if he called you unconfident? Why would that influence your actions? Peer pressure is a fool's weakness.