What makes people a target for bullies?
Well there are two different things here. One, people could bully you if your are sensitive, or quiet, or have an alien hobby or interest, well alien to them at least, and they find it strange or weird. They could be teasing if your small, or big, or anything they think is weird or funny. Two; they could be jealous of you. If they were trying to steal your shoes, that's one sign of jealous, they wanted YOUR shoes, and they didn't have the decency to buy a pair themselves. This could mean they were jealous of you if you had more money then them, or something of that nature. Now the touching, I don't really know about, if you mean sexually harassing you, then they were attracted to you, if you mean poking you constantly, they are just immature assh*les and very childish. The beating up, many people do this for dominance or "power." They do this to make themselves feel secure, and powerful, and to have a good image with other people. It's really stupid and you should stoop to their level, fight back, or tell a teacher anonymously that this kid has been bullying students! I had a problem with being bullied. Girls would tease me because I'm very tall and very skinny. Boys would also say mean things, especially this one boy who would call me anorexic and flat, and all these things. He CONSTANTLY harassed me, all the time. Then when I came back from summer break, I was more curvy and my facial features filled in, he still teased me, but now he would say I was to nice and to quiet. I always prided myself on him saying I was to nice, because being nice is NEVER a bad thing. If you are nice to people, there will always be a person that will love you. The people that really like you for you are the people who matter. It may take some time to find people, but once you do, you will be truly happy and successful, and those people that bullied you in the past will be miserable and self tormented. I ended up modeling and doing well in school, while the kid who was constantly bullying me dropped out and is now a drug addict. So remember, be yourself, do what you love, and you will always find someone that has the same interests as you and someone that will just love your company!
Why do people always pick on me?
It's like I have 'target' written across my forehead because I'm always the first one to get picked on and I don't do anything to anybody. I'm sick of it.
Why do people treat me like an easy target?
Hi, it might be that you are a little bit arrogant. Introverts are usually very smart people, they intimidate others by their non-interest in them. It is always safer for an introvert to make the first move into an interaction, showing his (although limited) availability for the (short) talk and their consideration for the other person. If they feel superior, they will transmit it, and they will be attacked by the other party.Shyness may also be a hiding tool for introverts, hiding their dis-respect for the other people. Think about it, and work on making the first step - usually a single “hello” will do it.all the best
Why am I always an easy target for bullies?
I’m the child of a narcissist (NPD) mother.As a kid I never really learnt how to stand up for myself. My mother is highly unstable and from an early age I just knew I had to make sure she was happy at all times. Or else all hell broke loose. She’d be screaming, threatening to leave the family... So I became a people pleaser before I even started school. Deep down I was afraid of everyone - because of her. I was chronically anxious in all social settings. This the school bullies picked up on - and I got bullied a lot. They saw me as weak when I really was just plain scared and afraid of upsetting people - and so I was too kind and forgiving in all social relationships I guess. I became a doormat. And I’ve continued to be to this day. And I’m now 47! But I’m finally learning how to deal with it…You could also be the child of a narcissist. We suffer immensely in life. Our parents taught us that we have no control and that we should be controlled at all times. This is perhaps what the bullies see in you. You’re an easy target. Perhaps you’ll also have to learn how to get over being the child of an NPD. Search out YouTube!
Why do people always try to bully nice people?
My mother often advised, that "People will always bully you as long as you portray yourself as weak, meek and affected by their acts", whenever I burst into tears as a kid for the bullying. Over a period of time when I stopped giving a damn about it or when needed responded back firmly, there was hardly anyone around wanting to bully.If you keenly observe, it is not the nicer people who are bullied, but the people who would not cause them any bully in turn or those who are affected by their bully or the toothless.This is why people bully in general.1) They are weak - They are weak deep in their hearts, in their minds. They need something or someone that assures them that they are not. What do they do now? These people do not choose to work on themselves to make themselves stronger, but look around for those who seem weaker, to pacify themselves and/or portray to others that they are stronger. Do you see the comparison ?2) They have emptiness in them - Have seen a busy scientist or a operating doctor or a programming engineer roam around bullying others? The ones who bully have time to kill, have nothing to do with their lives, need someone to prey upon and hence, the nicer people are the targets. This is how they fill their void.3) They do not know how it feels - anyone who has faced bullying is most likely to never bully or encourage someone to bully others. They know how it feels, what the pain of it is.4) Lack of identity - They do not have an identity of their own. They are desperate in having one and this is how they choose to make one, by comparing themselves on par with someone else (nicer, weaker being). They prey on those whom they are sure do not turn back at them, they do not bully those who are tough but the ones who would not stop them. This is the easiest way for them to prove to others that they are above those whom they bully, than to work hard & smart to make their own identity.Again, it is not the nice people who are always bullied, but the nice, weak, and meek people who fall victim to bully.
Why am I ALWAYS the target in my friend groups?
This has been the case for the past 10 years, I swear. If I'm ever with a group of friends, I'm always the one who gets teased. And when girl's tease me, it's so indirect that if I were to say something, everyone would be like "oh my god... it's just a joke. god." Do I set myself up or something? I feel like it's my fault since it has been going on forever. Or do I just need to deal with the fact that I'm going to get teased wherever I go?
Why are some girls always the target of bullying?
because, Some people can sense that you're going to be successful when you grow up, so they're just trying to pull you down now. be strong, keep smiling! trust me when I say this, you're going to look back at them when you're WAAAY up and then they'll come running to you:) lol don't tell on them, it'll only make it worse, just ignore them, you shouldn't even care about those stuff! go take some karate and dance classes! learn new languages, plan your summer vacation!!
Why do people always pick on the innocent person?
i think it goes to that same basic principle that a shy or a gentle person is an easy target for bullying b/c the aggressor feels they wont fight back..and it makes me so sick... michael didn't do anything to deserve the kind of bullying he received from the apathetic media...they ruined his life...its so irritating that adults can teach children to respect others, but they cant follow their own advice...the media and all those other people that essentially ostracized him should feel so horribly ashamed of themselves...they kicked someone who was down to make themselves feel better....pathetic (and i kno this wasnt supposed to b specific about michael, but i couldnt help it...sry lol)