Why are some people just "perfect"?
Ok, see, but even then there's a problem with these "perfect" people. Too often, they've been given every chance to succeed in life....and none to fail it. This can be a problem when it comes time for this "perfect" person to move out, graduate from High School and go to college, for example. See, not being allowed to ever fail is almost as bad as not ever being allowed to succeed. If you never fail or get confused or get lost....how do you learn the really important stuff in life? Failure becomes something alien, outside of your frame of reference, and this feared thing. When the truth is, people screw up and mess up all the time and _need to_ learn how to overcome that and move on at a fairly young age. Basically, it's about learning the difference between having a failure--screwing up--and _Being_ a failure, or losing at life entirely. For most people there's still a fairly large difference between the two. I once knew someone, in my graduating class in High School, who was just like this, he seemed perfect at everything. And he was. Until he left his small town and his friends and his family, went to a medium-sized but challenging university on his own...and failed miserably. Failed all of his classes, got screwed up in terms of paying his tuition and fees, the works. It left him in a state of despair that honestly, he didn't recover from--because he didn't know how to. He ended up going back home, giving up on college entirely and just working for his dad for years and years. I did things differently. I failed in everything my first semester in that university too. But I didn't quit. I fought everything tooth and nail and adapted as best I could--because I knew what failure was. I could cope with failing. Succeeding and then having that taken away from me after the fact? That's another story. But yeah. Point is, you need to know how to cope with failing. Definitely.
Is the average person a complete moron?
First, where are you getting the information that the average IQ is 100? Second, I can't believe you can be such a pompous *** and group people into little boxes without even knowing them. Some people may not be able to form a perfectly structured sentence, but their life experience may make them wiser than their years. It must be nice to live in your little bubble. I wish I could be a fly on the wall when one of those 100 IQ people survives a virtual apocalypse because of their street smart or worldly wisdom and you're stuck in the mud using multisyllabic words. Even though you may have an IQ to boast about, you're one of the dumbest people I've seen on here. My own edit: I love seeing your edits. Nice to see that you're proving your intelligence by calling people stupid. I can't wait for the day you're judged as much as you're judging here.
As always many great answers here and the overriding theme is there are many different intelligence's that are suitable for different roles in the world and some people are better at some things than others. Pretty simple and we can see it all around us in our own work and social lives.In regards to inborn abilities there is a lot of research indicating that the formation of our mature brain is part genetics part environment but this formation stops around the age of 14, and this becomes the thinking and processing pattern for most of life barring a serious injury, working on a dedicated skill or massive concentration on certain brain training which can shape certain parts of the brain.Here is a fascinating article Is Success Hardwired In Our Brains? that shows through MRI scans how different parts of the brain light up while taking specially designed tests (all non IQ) for a whole range of different abilities/aptitudes. What it shows is a person who scores high in a psychometric test measuring “Design Memory” for example, has a larger mass of gray and white matter in that section of the brain versus someone who scores low on the same test indicating a difference in the composition of the brain. Most interesting was the scans showed that the person with the “natural ability” was using much less brain energy to complete the tasks compared to the person who performed less successfully indicating people using their natural abilities in work will use less energy and probably be more relaxed and ultimately less stressed.I think if more people understood (objectively) what makes them unique and they played to their strengths and did not wish to be someone they are not, people would be happier, the work force would be a better place, and more would get done.All of this said, no matter how much natural inborn talent a person has, very little will get done without a good attitude and hard work.
If I have aspergers syndrome why am I only average in intelligence and not good at anything?
It's a stereotype that all people with Asperger's syndrome are exceptionally intelligent or skilled. Not everyone with Asperger's syndrome is like that. Many people with Asperger's syndrome have average intelligence and average skills. That being said, everyone (with and without Asperger's syndrome) has some skills, something they're good at, but on different levels. People also discover their skills at different times in their lives. Very few people have savant skills, exceptional skills or the kind of skills that don't require any work. Most people have to actually work on their skills in order to reach their full potential. You may simply not know yet what you are skilled at, or you may have to work on developing your skills further before it becomes obvious what your skills are. People often overlook their own skills when they are busy admiring or being jealous of other people's skills. Your skills may not be the same as your brother's. There is little point in comparing yourself with him, or with anyone else for that matter. Your brother may be good at academical stuff while you may be good at something else (music, sports, making things with your hands, repairing stuff, problem solving etc.), or he may be good at one subject and you at a different subject. Everyone is different. Just keep exploring different kinds of things and putting some work into what you do to see what you're good at. Sooner or later you'll discover what your skills are.
Do smart people have less friends?
Yes and no. I was the dumber girl, with lots of friends. My younger brother and sister, however, are little geniuses. Yet they have even MORE friends than me. It just depends where you look for them. Try finding someone who shares your interests. Although it might seem dumb, its reasons like that why some schools are divided into regular, honors, and gifted classes. Don't fell lonely and don't let your family get to you. Keep being yourself, as long as it makes YOU happy. If they still refuse to drop the issue, just tell them you haven't really met people who appreciate the same things you do.
A genius, an average man and an uneducated man walk into a bar.They talk about life, they talk about death. They discuss making money, they talk about family.The average man has big ideas. He wants to change the world. The uneducated man wants to be happy. He wants to start a family and live a simple life.But the genius, he can achieve. He can create, he can lead, he can contribute to society. He thinks on a greater level than us, and has a mind racing all the time.But, does he want to?Intelligent people and geniuses have no obligation to serve the society they were born in. Just as any person has the potential to become anything, a genius may find it way easier to achieve that potential. But what do they want?Who are we to tell them what their potential is in life? How do we judge their successes and failures as a loss of potential?If they are smart, intelligent, and driven to change the world, that is fine. Some geniuses don't want to do that however. They may just want simple lives. They may want a steady track, a simple goal.Expectations play a huge role in intelligent people's lives. They are expected to make the most of their ability to achieve, innovate, create, etc. As if it was their purpose in life.When we put such responsibility on someone with a greater ability than ours, it's like a case of noblesse oblige: we can, therefore we must.Maybe, some of them do not want.Why do some intelligent people fail to reach their potential?Because they have a life to live, and no obligation to live for anyone else.
Hard to do two things at the same time. One or both of them suffers.Thinking and socializing are rarely compatible. People pick their priority.Small talk and talk over superfluous matters is time wasted. We only have one life. And even if it were otherwise, so what?Superfluous things clutter the mind and pull away energy. Not good. You wanna keep mindspace for your pursuits and energy to the same purpose.Most social activities stimulate the basest things: food, loud and flashy stimulation, simple narratives of pop-culture. Takes away from the important stuff.Intelligent people do not necessarily want to stay by themselves. If they are having a stimulating and interesting conversation, they might have it for hours and hours on end without getting tired or bored.Being by yourself you are able to build complex intellectual objects in your mindspace. That requires a degree of concentration impossible to achieve with others around.People less intelligent will sense your intellectual superiority and resent it, even if you genuinely do not assume yourself being superior just on the basis of intelligence.p.s. More on that at spartanfife.com