I have become so bitter! why could this be?
I'm 21 and in my final year of university. I have never dated,been kissed and haven't made any real male friends since I got to uni. I've had 2 or 3 major crushes that were I've had 2 or 3 major crushes in my life that were unrequited. I'm just so frustrated and I'm wondering why I'm not out and about dating like most girls my age. I've been willing to be patient but lately I just feel so angry! I really don't understand why this is happening to me. I have become so bitter and easily irritated in general but also towards my friend who I adored more than any other. She is in a relationship with a not so nice guy who she wants to let go of but keeps going back to. These days I hate everything she says n I snap at her a lot. I also talk badly about men and yet I have no experience. But the thing that sticks out to me is I am unshakably unwilling to settle for someone who doesn't really love me or would be abusive in anyway. Does this mean I'm going to be alone forever? If this helps... I'm 5'6ft and about 52kg. A size 32a cup (barely)... Do these things have anything to be with my state of loneness? What is so wrong with me that I can't find anyone who wants to be with me cause other girls find plenty??
Why is it so many people become bitter?
No answer on this forum would be sufficient, yet a couple things do come to mind. First a person must expect life to be unfair, and thus not be surprised when things go wrong. Second, knowing peace with God through Christ will enable one to weather any of liefs storms with greater capacity and endurance. Many times bitterness is rooted in unforgiveness for another person. When we forgive another, we loose the chains that person has wrapped around us. Lastly, a person who is generous, looking for chances to give, rather than "get" will develop a heart that is pleasing to God. God will in turn grant grace to that person. Where God's grace abounds, you rarely see a bitter person.
Why do men become so bitter after a breakup?
I think the word you are really looking for is resentful. People who are in an addiction or dependent or codependent dynamic become resentful toward those who stop participating in the dynamic. They feel betrayed. Their disease rules their life from ego. They may not be the addict but are very likely from a family in which addiction has trained them to expect strict conformity to a way of survival. Rather than allow them to control you, find your own serenity and continue to change what you can to make your life well...answer to a power greater than ego. You will find you can have compassion for the sick but also respect yourself.
Why have I become so rude and bitter these days?
You seem to have a great life. Congratulations on that!I have had this issue too, of being rude when its not required of me - actually, its never required of me to be rude!I believe, and I maybe wrong, it comes from a sense of dissatisfaction! I mean, I have observed that I am rude to others on days when I feel that I haven’t spent my 24 hours in the best way possible. I am angry at myself but take it out on others.In your case, while it seems you are doing great and have a perfect family, perhaps you need to ask yourself if you are truly happy with the job that you are doing - its well paying, but that doesn’t matter. Unless your job makes north of 500,000 per month, you should not do it for the pay. I say that because your job occupies nearly 60% of your total awake time and unless you are 100% satisfied with it, you will be frustrated.It can also be something as silly as you feeling that you have gained a lot of weight! Believe me, there is no sillier reason that this. If you burn 100 more calories than you consume every day, you will be slim in 3 months.If not health or work, then it has to be an event - something that has upset the status-quo. Try to remember when did this start and then think about anything unusual that happened in that period - met someone? read something? found out something?If nothing works, see someone. Someone who can listen to you and help you recover your old happy self. There is no taboo in seeking any help. The fact that you posted this on Quora, already shows that you want change and you are on the right track.Thanks and best of luck!
Why do some people become so bitter and mean?
In my experience, people who become bitter and mean are dissatisfied with life and have insecurities that they have not resolved. The insecurities lead to fear which will cause people to lash out at others in order to try to protect themselves from embarrassment or what they percieve to be harm. People who are dissatisfied with life, who may have been frustrated by failures, will come to believe that the world is against them. They may feel that there is nothing that they can do to fix the problems that they see in the world. This could lead to bitterness. Having said this, there are numerous reasons that a person may become bitter or mean. They may have a superiority complex or this may be the only way that they know of for interacting with other people. Everyone has different experiences growing up, and for some people, this is thier way of coping with life. But, to reiterate what I said earlier, almost everyone that I've met who was bitter or mean had a strong fear in their lives. Sometimes, all it takes is talking to them to let them know that they have nothing to fear from you, and they will stop being bitter or mean to you. It doesn't always work, but it is the only approach that I have been successful with. Good luck.
Why have i become so bitter and apathetic?
i used to be a nice caring loving guy before. the one who would put his friends and family and everything he loved and cared before him. now i have become really bitter and apathetic. i don't know if i should blame my previous relationship for turning me into the person i am today. when i broke up with my gf, wished her dead and gone. i hated her so much that i went so far as to wanting to kill her. the reason why i hated her so much is because after we broke up, she wanted to be "friends",and two people who were lovers at one point, in my opinion, never really stay friends for long after the breakup. afterwards we were thinking of getting back together, but we both knew things would not change. then sometime passed by and i find out one of my so called friends liked her and they both started messing around with each other. a week later, he confessed it to me after they first started fooling around. then i find out they had sex at a park at night. that got me so fried that i wanted to kill both of them. and from there on, i made her life a living hell. i was out for revenge.i knew that the one thing that would satisfy me would be her death. i held a grudge over what they did for a while, but later i realized that it wasn't worth it. and the other reason why i hate her and the reason why i feel the way i feel is because when we we're together, she never opened up to me. she said she didn't know how. she was bitter and emotionless. that's what always made me doubt her love to me. and i guess all that rubbed off on me. i opened up to her and gave her everything. and in the end i was left with nothing. so it took months, but i got over it even though it hurt so bad, as with all relationships and broken hearts.. now i have a gf and i don't even know how i feel about her. i can't even tell her how i feel because truth is... i don't feel anything for anyone anymore. i just feel blankness and emptiness. i feel really apathetic. and i don't know how to feel or what to do anymore. what should i do? any suggestions?
Why has George Carlin become so bitter?
He has ALWAYS been that bitter and hateful. Maybe you have matured more and just don't find that crap funny anymore. It probably sucks to be that old and be an atheist too. You know you're going to die in the next few years and you have nothing to believe in or look forward to; that would make me pretty bitter too.
Why am I so bitter?
I find myself hating myself. I hate everything. Everything pisses me off. Then when i am in a good mood. someone makes a joke with me and if i dont smile or laugh- that person has to tell me "its a joke" - I know-maybe, i just didnt find it funny. I feel like this is a bad thing if people have to walk on eggshells around me. Boo-what fun is that? How and why did i become this way? sad thing is i have everything i want, there should be no need to be bitter or mad or dry or whatever.
Why have Americans become so jaded and bitter?
No one is getting along anymore, it's always them vs us in America ... Gay vs Religeous, Black vs White, American vs Mexican, Republican vs Democrat ...etc ... no one is working together to better the USA, to make us a shining example in the world. We used to be the envy of the planet, and now we are loathed ... With the threats that face us today, you would think we could come together as a people, but instead we drift further and further apart ... what does that say about our country
What causes someone to become bitter about life?
An unforgiving nature and refusal to forgive.Holding grudges.Not being satisfied about his/her life.Frustration and hopelessness in life.Envy/jealousy.Keeping troubled thoughts bottled up inside of you.Negativity.Being cast out of society and alienated from a young age (and not knowing why).FearBeing hurt once (really badly) and defending themselves by putting up a wall.Experiencing abuse, rape, etc. unexpectedly or at a young age.A badly broken heart.Someone or something that killed their loved ones, etc. for no reason.An experience in life that stuck with them; usually bad experiences.Depression?Constant criticization from others.Thinking that their existence was a curse; Example: Thinking that having a certain disease, etc. is a curse to them.Allowing their problems take over the wheel, their emotions, their decisions, etc.And many more…