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How Do I Be My Oldself

How do you kill your old self?

You leave the past behind. The personality you had, the way you treated people, you forget it all and start over and also you have to stay positive

I miss being my old self?

A year ago i was confident, motivated, outgoing and very happy. I felt so connected with myself and truly loved who i was. around about May last year i woke up with severe nausea and i didn't know the cause. For 4 months the nausea proceeded to get worse and worse. I was afraid to go to school and eventually even afraid to leave my house. I had many tests done and everything come back normal, it then occurred to me that maybe the was all in my head. i then realised that i had been living with severe anxiety and to this day, no matter how much i think about it i still don't know what caused me that night to get anxiety. Eventually i learnt to cope with it and for the most part the anxiety doesn't bother me like it used to although i still get nervous and nauseas on the way to school however. It is now 2014 and I feel like a shadow of what i used to be. Even though my anxiety has gone down and only sometimes bothers my day to day life. I feel like the 4 months of pain i went through, changed me into a different person. I get nervous a lot more often now, i have 0 motivation, i always feel stressed, i barley ever feel happy, i feel disconnected to who i am, i don't love who i am. No matter how much i try, i can't feel love. This makes me the saddest. I just want to know if any of you guys have gone through the same thing and gone back to normal. I want nothing more than to feel like i used to feel before this whole anxiety situation which has changed almost every aspect of my life. Please help me.

I hate my old self?

When I was 15, my parents got a job transfer for 2 years far away from our home. I was extremely mad and took out my anger on them, not including the later hormonal anger. I was so mean to my mom and am still today ashamed at things I said to her. I was also mean to my brother, picked on him all the time called him "justin bieber," At the same time I was a very weak person, was extremely gullible, very socially awkward, and I don't think I was super intelligent. i also wasted time, didn't put a lot of effort in school, was dating a guy because he pressured me into dating him. I felt like I made such bad choices and i didn't like who I was.

I'm 21 now. I accept everyone for who they are, every religion, and I'm a buddhist. I am a completely different person, and I don't even swear. I am not gullible anymore, I am a much stronger person, have a lot more friends and don't pick on my family anymore. But sometimes i feel like I want to punch my old self in the face. How do I get over this

I think i hate my old self.?

As children we all were stupid, naive and ignorant. That's what made us children. But who we are on the outside...our long hair, the clothes we choose etc, are not who we really are. They only reflect the choices we have made. Who you are on the inside is who you really are. We often react and sometimes overreact to the opinions of others. We let it move us in another direction. You will always be attached to the childish 'you' because that memory will always be there as part of your foundational heritage. We may not have liked all we did, or how we looked, but it was just the beginning of what we are today. What you choose to be today does not depend on your long hair, or tattoos or piercings or dress. If you were to loose all that, say, because you were in an accident, you would still be who you are on the inside. Learn to like yourself as you are on the inside and others will like you too. People who express their dislike for themselves often find themselves alone because others hate to be around negative people. So instead, be an encourager and speak 'up' to people and you will have a host of friends. Your confidence will grow and you will soon put the 'little boy' of the past far behind you.

Why do I miss my old self?

I feel this same thing, and I’m only a senior in high school. Sometimes I remember the quality and amount of friends I had 5 years ago, and how worthwhile each new experience I had was. I came up with a theory why this summer, and it came down to the fact that:I’m not trying to create new experiences like I was at the time of my better-self.I’m not treated the same way by other people anymore. I used to be the young kid, but now I’m the young adult who needs to make a ton of decisions to become peers to the same people who called me ‘bud’ 3 years ago.I don’t treat others the same way anymore. I used to look up to older kids, and imagine what my life was going to be like when I got to the age of wisdom. (AKA, age 17…) When I finally grew up, I saw that even the best of kids were doing really dishonest, immature things. So, I lost the immediate respect of people, and it showed from my body language to the enthusiasm of my “hey”s.The changes that you experienced obviously made you a different person. But the nostalgia you feel more the old version of you is because you might want to go back to a time of ignorance, or because you simply forgot the issues you had at that time in your life. A psychological effect known as Rosy Retrospection: A Psychological Phenomenon can be responsible for this. It basically states that people tend to forget why or what things disappointed them in sections of their lives that they expected to be happy in. It’s probable that you thought that you should be happy in that part of your life, so you reconstructed your memory of that era as a better version of you. Either way, don’t feel bad! People change, and if you don’t like your current self, study, learn, act, and grow.

How do I become my old self?

Okay, don't get me wrong, I like who I am...but I want to become...better. I guess that would be the word for it. How on earth would I go about changing my personality? Okay, this is strange....I know. But I used to be a completely different person than I am now, and I miss that person. But I'm lost in how to get back to her. I know that she's still inside me somewhere...but I just don't know. Many things in my life are reason for my change, but that was in the past...now that I would definately benefit from being her again, and am allowd to be her again, I don't know how to be. I used to be very self confident, happy go lucky, wacky, fun girl. All the time. I'm still self confident, but to an extint....and I'm happy, but not happy go lucky...I can still get wacky...but its very seldom. I used to be the life of the party, the one that people called on...the one out of the group of friends that everyone expected to pull others out of a slump...if you needed to laugh, you looked to me...if you needed to cry, you looked to me...I was really nice, but I had a tough exterior, and didn't really let stuff bother me. Over the years I went through some hard life lessons, and they really changed me. They broke down my walls...instead of a tough exterior, I feel like I'm working with an egg shell, and any tiny tap will crack it. I'm touchier than I used to be...I can be a real b**** if you cross me wrong...and honestly I hate it. I want to be happy and be able to make everyone happy at the drop of a hat again...and I definately want to lose these darn mood swings...gurr... I'm not old enough to have lost who I was yet.... I just miss who I used to be...how do I find her again?

Thank you in advance if you can help me.

How can I get my old self back?

Something like that happened to me in my early teens, what did I do? I stopped trying to be the cheerful, little girl I used to be and started embracing my very own self. Yeah, perhaps you'd like to be as social as you were before but, guess what? Wave goodbye to that person because you won't be the same as you were ever again. They say that what we live and the experiences we have shape us into the human beings we end up becoming, and it's true. You'll see, while you are trying to get back the person you used to be, you are still changing and you're missing out on all those things that could be quite important. Perhaps you truly don't want to be that person again, but you're pushing yourself into it because it seems right. Perhaps you are kind of comfortable and okay with who you are right now but you're not noticing because you are wallowing over something that has already happened. It's not only that the situations you were in, changed you, it's also that you changed because of what happened. Do you see it? It's because you chose to go down that path because of an external factor. You're the one who chooses how you want to see the past; like it's anxiety's fault that you can't return to be your former self or like it was just a mere factor in how you ended up evolving as a person. Write down your qualities; make a list about all the things you consider you are. Take a good look at yourself, how much do you know you? Are you losing track of who you are? Do you like yourself as you are now? Accept yourself, and try to mend your flaws. Let the time heal your wounds and please, let go of the past. Hope I helped! Good luck! Thanks for the A2A!

I miss my old friends, old self, and old life?

Your situation sounds very similar to mine. I too distanced myself from my friends and life in general. I have shut the whole world out for 3 years now. I am also feeling like old self again. But a lot about me has changed. I feel confident about my new self though.

You should be glad that you are ready to get back out there. I also think that if you changed some you should be proud of what you learned about yourself. Go out into the world with your head held high.

You did some soul searching and that is very healthy. Maybe now your really coming into your own.

Remember like you said your friends are talking to you again. And they obviously forgave you for being neglectful. That means they are genuinely good people to have in your life. That is a rare thing. You should be happy about that. Now you can return the favor by being there for them in return.

If they dont like you because you changed too much then..... those are not the type of friends you need in your life. Then you need to move on.

But from what you have written it sounds like you are gonna be just fine. You have grown some. Be happy and get out there and have that awesome time you were talking about.

How do I get my old self back after a breakup?

The girl is living her life normally while you sob ….that is not what you want in your life…life is too valuable to waste it on idiots who left us…think of it as it is their loss …you are an amazing and wonderful person …why do you need a girl to make you feel complete or incomplete in any way…Few years back you didn't even know a girl like that existed….you should go back to those years…forget about her…give your time to career and family as well as friends…I'm damn sure you have family and friends just waiting to spend time with you …they love you and will be there for you no matter what…These people whom we feel sad of having left us don't think twice before doing so…neither do they look back as how we are doing after they left us…Whenever you feel sad or need to cry…just cry…society has made guys to be tough….but you can and should let this anger or frustration out one way or other…or something as silly as when Kareena asks shahid to flush his ex’s picture in the movie Jab we met….or punch a punching bag or pillow till heart’s content…You should talk to friends about the anger or frustration and sadness you are feeling …they are the most supportive ones..Quora is also a great medium to vent all the anger….keep repeating this to yourself When you feel weak /sad / frustrated because of her.She left me….she is happy and doesnt care about me….why should care and be sad..to hell wit's her….I'm happy….I don't need her…God bless You

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