How can I convince my mom to let me dye my hair?
When my 7 year old asked me if she could dye a streak of her hair, I laughed and said “Of course not.” It was said in a definitive tone with no wiggle room. I wasn’t even going to consider letting her dye her hair. And yet, just 2 weeks later, I brought her to a salon and helped her dye a streak of her hair.What changed? I’m still not completely sure how she got me to change my mind - but she did. Let me try to pick apart what she did during those 2 weeks.She reasoned with me. There was no whining, no complaining, no yelling or tantrums. But she wanted me to explain my reasons for saying “no” - and I had a hard time coming up with good reasons. We talked about hair dyeing as a slippery slope toward tattoos, piercings, etc. - but she was laughing out loud when I was saying this, and I quickly realized how ridiculous I was being. She reassured me that she had zero interest in tattoos, piercings, or any of the other things I mentioned - she only wanted to dye a small streak of her hair.She had impeccable timing. She repeated her request multiple times over several days, but only when I was in a good mood and feeling good about my parenting skills. She asked about dying her hair after she had taken all her medications without complaint, or after she had done all her homework.She told me that she would pay for it out of her allowance, signaling to me that this was important to her.She suggested that we look at pictures of kids online with streaks of dye in their hair, so that she could show me what it would look like. And the pictures all looked so reasonable - the kids we saw looked like good kids.When we were having a snack at a cafe across the street from our local salon, she persuaded me to stop in briefly, not to get a streak, but just to talk to the people there about what it would entail. I admit I was surprised at how easy, quick, and cheap it would be - and how common it is these days for kids to get streaks of dye in their hair.And finally, when I said that we could do a streak, but ONLY if it was with temporary dye and no bleaching - she immediately agreed. I also insisted that she wait another full week, so that she would be completely sure that this is what she wanted.The next weekend, I took her to get two streaks of red dye in her hair.
How do I convince my mom to let me get a shorter haircut?
A few ideas:Start with just a bit shorter. Then next time shorter still. Etc. Get them used to how you look a bit at a time.Help your folks out a lot. After a while they may relent.Get a photo of yourself and edit it to show shorter hair. Or get photos of others with shorter hair. Do you like this? Do they?Ask them what you can do to convince them. Offer to do chores, etc.When it’s your birthday, ask for the haircut instead of a present.Offer to wear a wig when going out with them, seeing relatives, etc.Get them to explain exactly why they object. Then offer reasonable answers to each objection.
How do I convince my mom to let me get a pixie cut?
Not everyone can pull off a pixie! My daughter was 17 and had to cut off her dyed black long locks and show off her beautiful blonde healthy hair underneath. She was accommodating her sister who’s upcoming wedding wasn't going to go with the goth look she was trying. The result? STUNNING! She looked like Audrey Hepburn gone platinum.When my girls were teens I had to accept that it was their hair and whatever the color or the cut they were wonderful daughters. I think that's where you should start with your mom. Are you at your best?Both were good students, not into drinking or smoking, drug free and put boys in the friends only category while in high school. Not perfect girls all the time but I was always proud of them.Remind your mom that it’s just hair that will grow back! Brag to her about your grades, your friends, your respect for her and everything else you have going for you! How could she say no to a darling haircut on such a mature young lady? Don't nag and become a pest. Keep it on the light side. Once she says yes don't give her a chance to overthink it. Go get that cute cut!
How do I convince my mom to let me get my eyebrow pierced??
Alright, I think your mom really has a good case. Getting a piercing is a big commitment. At 13 you're just starting to find your positive identity and decided who you are. If you don't think you can wait until you're 16 then chances are you shouldn't be getting one anyway. An eyebrow piercing isn't just something that goes away either, at best you'll always have the scar, and sometimes, your face rejects your eyebrow ring and it leaves a massive buildup of scar tissue. I know you don't want to hear that you need to wait, but you really should. The last part of your argument reminds of of when people say "but everyone's doing it!" and the response always is..."If everyone was jumping off a bridge would you do that too?" I have definitely been in your position, at 13 I wanted my nose pierced and my parents said no way! Since them I have gone through a phase where I have wanted every facial piercing in existence. You also have to think how it will make future employers and everyone else you meet think of you. Like it or not, people judge based on first impressions. I am a firm believe in self expression, and I think piercing are awesome, but you should wait until you're absolutely positive this is what you want and you can deal with the repercussions. Now that I'm 18 I've decided what piercing I actually want (a lip ring) and know that it will be okay in my profession. I'm so glad my parents didn't let me get the nose ring (and all the other piercing I wanted) back at 13 because i would have really regretted it now... In the meantime, you can certainly get magnetic eyebrow rings, or clip on ones (another great way to make sure you really want the piercing) And you can express yourself in other ways like dying your hair, or getting henna tattoos :) And if you still want it in 3 years, GO FOR IT! :) Don't worry, the time will pass before you know it!
Is it child abuse to let a 7 year old dye her hair?
Is it child abuse to let a 7 year old dye her hair?Grade schools allow hair dye here. However, one teacher confronted a mom about letting her child dye her hair, saying it is child exploitation and not “raising kids properly”. Also that pedophiles may prefer a child who wants to appear older than they really are.Not in my opinion. My granddaughter had teal blue hair at 7 years.How is this different than getting their ears pierced? Answer: It’s not.Coloring your hair is fun and not permanent. Let your child explore what they like now while you can monitor it. It will make them a more confident adult when they are older.Not that you have to do away with rules. The oldest grand had her ears pierced when she was 3 months old. No problems. The younger one hated it so her mom let them close and waited until she was 3 before trying again. Success! When my daughter got a tattoo my granddaughter wanted one too. My daughter said 5 was too young and she’d have to wait for her majority. She was hours into her 18th birthday when she got her first one! If that doesn’t convince you that children know what they want, nothing will.Edited to add: I’m not ignoring the teacher, I think she should mind her own damn business.
How long does Revlon Colorsilk hairdye last?
My hair is already a mix between red (naturally ginger) with blonde, kinda blonde highlights. Some people could say my hair is both blonde and red. I want it to be all blonde. I hope I don't have to continuously die my hair over and over. Tips on managing blonde hair? Any suggestions on what hairdye to use in the future? I'm stuck with this brand until next time I need to die it. By the way, please don't suggest going with brown or anything because blonde is the only color I like on me. I'll also be purchasing Shimmer Lights shampoo before I dye my hair. The last time I died my hair it was very yellow and I wish I had known about the shampoo. I've never used it before. Should I be cautious of anything first? Shouldn't I use a very limited amount? Is it damaging? Thanks so much.
Is it good for a 13-year-old to color their hair?
When my daughter was 12, she colored her hair. Then she did it again, and bleached it, and colored it yet again. She didn’t ask me, just did it, and I worked on the assumption that she was the one living with the consequences, and I was fine with it as long as it didn’t violate any school policy, which it did not.Here’s what happened.She processed her hair so much that it became very porous, and didn’t hold any pigment at all, and my (by then) 13-year-old had grey hair. She was pretty upset, and being a kind parent, I took her to a salon, where they cut her hair, eliminating a good deal of the damage, and spent several hours restoring her hair to her natural color. At the end of this process and several hundred dollars, I told her that if she ever wanted to color her hair again, that she should come to me and I’d take her to have it done, any color she wanted.So, what I say to a 13-year-old considering hair dye, or the parent of such a kid, is to go to a salon, if it’s in the budget. Avoid bleaching your hair, or if you do, don’t do it more than once. If you’re doing it yourself, use reputable products, or semi-permanent color. That’s just the sensible stuff.Past that, have fun with it!