How do i deal with my overprotective mother?
i am 17, and will be 18 in less then a month. my mother is very overprotective. she yells and sets weird rules and doesnt give me a chance to discuss anything with her. she says she knows best for me and wont let me experience anything myself. i just need help to try to get her to understand that i am growing up and need my freedoms. how should i go about doing this? should i write a letter?
How do I deal with my over-protective mother?
My mom was like that too… asian typical old fashion mother… shés still like that now, except I dont live at my parents anymore, so somehow, I started to appreciated it a lot. I know that she will always be there for me as long as she can.. Truth is, I a child now and Im starting to think like her, to understand it.. why she was like that.. where wére young, we forget at lot, our youth, how our parents sacrefice a lot to esucate us, how they changed our diapers, how they save their money to give us the best future possible, how they spent their time cooking and cleaning for us… its taken for granted… and with all the stories you hear outside… especially for girls, the need to protect your child is even stronger.. you are her baby and will always be. She will do everything to keep you safe even id it pisses you off until the day you will be the one able to take xare of her.. only then she will feel that she can rest a little.
How do I deal with my overprotective mother?
You say in your profile that you graduated in 1991, so you’re in your 40s. Go to a therapist. If your mother’s actions still affect you so much, you need more than a few answers on Quora. Sorry to be blunt. There’s a good book that outlines how different parenting styles affect children as they grow into adulthood and first steps to take to overcome some coping mechanism that no longer work: Running On Empty by Jonice Webb. It’s a good starting point. In countries where there’s a strong cultural push to worshiping mothers, overprotecting may just as well mean intrusive, controlling, authoritarian, hoovering, prone to parentification, among other things. Good luck.
How do I deal with an over-protective mom? She says I’ll only be able to do something until I turn 18 (go to other cities with friends only, etc).
How? You just deal, meaning accept and go with the flow. She knows of what she speaks, your mother. There is so much that you don’t know, yet, and so much you are not prepared for to happen to you. You don’t want to learn these things the hard way. Thank God you have a mother who cares and looks out for you. One day, if you have the privilege of being a mother, hopefully, you will be as wise and loving.
How to deal with overprotective parents?
My parents are overprotective to where I can't go out with my friends without them wanting to go with me and monitor my every move. I hate that I have to sit around the house like an old lady when I'm sixteen years old. My parents think that I will automatically give into peer pressure the minute I go out. I've told them countless times that I don't drink (I tried a sip of alcohol once. It was gross) and I don't smoke. At all. But, they still don't believe me. I've been finding that I've been extremely shy lately. I rarely ever talk anymore, not even to my family. I'll be asked a question and I just nod or shake my head. Also, I've been feeling kind of depressed. Writing is my passion and lately I've been asking myself "what's the point?" How can I get my parents to back off without them mocking or yelling at me? Because they do that. And then they tell everyone that they know so their friends mock me too. My best friends laughed their asses off when I went to my friend's birthday party and my parents embarrassed me by watching the party before actually leaving (they called every hour to see if I was getting pressured or not) I'm their only child and they are convinced that, no matter how safe my neighborhood is, I will still get raped and murdered. I tried confronting my parents about how I felt, but they just made fun of me and told me that every parent does the same thing that they do. No one else's parents monitor them like mine do. I'm so sick of it. Suicidal thoughts have been appearing more and more recently. It bothers me that I can't hang out with teens my age, I'm just at home. Yeah, yeah, I know I'm lucky to have parents that love me this much. But, it's too much to take, especially at my age. I feel like I'm being suffocated. I feel like a ticking time bomb ready to explode. Please help. I ask again, how can I get my parents to back off without them mocking or yelling at me?
How do I deal with my boyfriends mom who is very overprotective?
Wow I'm sorry you're going through this and you definitely should not have to at all. Wow. Anyway, think about possibly filing a harrassment complaint against her but, please, talk to your boyfriend before you do this if you decide to do it. Basically she will not get arrested or charged with anything but basically it's just a warning by the police to leave you alone or they will have grounds to possibly charge his mother if she does not leave you alone. One KEY thing: If you decide to file a complaint, keep ALL harassing texts, voicemails, emails, calls, etc. from her and DON'T delete them otherwise, well, then you're screwed if you do not have evidence. Sorry if that sounds kind of extreme but I seriously think you should consider doing that. Just make sure to tell your boyfriend before you do it and make sure he is completely on board with it. Another idea is to try to find another place for you and your boyfriend to live temporarily (maybe at a friend's house, an apartment, etc.) just so you can get away from all the looking at what's going on inside the house every day. Hopefully everything works out with you and your boyfriend! And don't worry, he'll choose you over his family if his family forces him to choose based on what you've written here like him standing up for you, supporting you on the rides home, etc. Hoping the best for both of you!
How do I deal with overprotective parents?
Damn your mom sounds like a pain in the *** just run away. Seriously. About Disney, write a 10 pg essay/make a slideshow about all the reasons u should go, like how its a great experience, safe, u won't do anything dangerous like go on any rollercoasters (u still can, shes just not gonna be there so wut she don't know wont hurt her), and be sure to add that you're very responsible and respectful by always doing wut she says so it's just a small thing ur asking of her. Also say ur smart u know wut not to do and wut to do in certain situations
How to deal with overprotective parents at 18?
it is really really wrong what they have done to you, but hopefully it has made you a better, stronger person. Just because they are your parents doesnt automatically mean they are doing the right thing by you, a lot of people end up screwed up because of their parents, but its up to the individual to allow it. I think you should call a meeting, sit down and tell them its time to listen to you, and speak the truth and be firm. Tell them exactly how you feel about how they are treating you, and that they need to let you go as you need to become your own person and have your own personality. It was really wrong what they did to you, but you can put an end to it. You need to show them that you have a mind of your own and you arent their child anymore thats going to be walked over by them. My fiance had huge emotional issues all his life because of his parents and thankfully i showed him the truth to what they were doing to him and he hasnt spoken to them for years and it was the best thing he ever did, he is so happy and a different person. Take it from me, dont let it control you and be your own person.
How do you deal with overprotective parents?
Is it possible to bring in a third party adult who understands your feelings? A relative, a teacher, a councelor (I would guess that the city you live in has a free service maybe?)If simply telling them how you feel does not make a difference, they may need to hear it from someone they respect more based on age.Other than that, I would make a list of the Goods and the Bads that can happen if not being monitored and the Goods and Bads being monitored, or if stay at home too long alone.I let my daughter much more freedom than her mom does, and we are constantly having this debate. I make a list and try to figure out what are the four or five biggest worries on mom’s mind. Then we try to find a solution that fits that.Are they afraid for your safety in general?Are they afraid you will have boys over?Are they afraid someone will abduct you?Also, while not ideal for a 12y/o privacy, I assume, we have for my (7year old) a cell phone with an emergency beacon and we can track where it is from our own phones on gps. She can only call us, grandpa, and the police, and only receive calls from us, grandpa and the police. This might be an annoyance for you, but perhaps it could be a good compromise.