How do I deal with an angry, rude and impatient father?
I'm with you. I used to deal with it everyday. Then I moved away. And when I come back its the same situation at home everyday and it suffocates me. Its hard to talk to anyone about it let alone suggest your dad anything.I read up a lot over the internet, trying to find a way out of it. This time I realised the behaviour of every person is a result of circumstances. And, like mine, I feel even your dad might have gone through a lot. However he is, he is your dad. Don't ever forget that. I suggest you apologise. If he gets aggressive at something you say, let him get over with it. I'm sure when he goes silent he starts contemplating on what he just did. When he's at it you apologise. Even if it's not your fault. There's nothing wrong in apologizing. You become the bigger person and it makes him go into self analysis. I am still working to see how this goes. I hope it helps you in some way.Stay happy :-)
Why is my dad always so angry?
He yells and curses and swears constantly. The last time I dropped a cup of soda, he completely flipped and told me I was stupid repeatedly. Sometimes, I feel like the only reason he's like this is because he's unhappy, so I really try to get good grades, get home on time etc. But when he yells at me, it's terrifying, and I don't know what to do anymore. I guess my biggest concern is whether or not I'll end up like him when I get older. I don't want to hate my dad, cause he can be a really nice guy, but it's basically gotten to the point where his voice annoys me. I don't pick up my phone when he calls, and I avoid conversations with him. He knows that I don't like talking to him, and when he confronts me about it, he only gets more upset. Should I just tell him to knock it off? Or should he get professional help?
Why are my parents always angry?
Do they watch Fox “News” or listen to hate radio, or spend time reading fake Russian facebook and twitter, or spend time with friends and relatives that are right wing extremists, or are they members of evangelistic churches? Any of those things might explain it, as they tend to be the highest cause of anxiety, depression and anger. Are they overweight and under-educated? That would also be an indicator, not a cause, but a correlation to a personality types that are either unhappy or live in confusion regarding who they are, their place in society, the true cause of their personal and financial problems, and their inability to see their choice regarding the solution.Generally, people with anger issues consider themselves (mistakenly) as victims and they are frustrated by not being able to lash out a those they blame for their problems. They can perceive each other, or you, as being the source of their problems. They could even see you as a projection of themselves and be disappointed that they cannot live their dreams out in you, because you make different choices than they would make.Anger can also be a pattern, learned frome parents, or they could each be the product of abuse. There is no single cause for people with an anger habit, however, it is often something that is treatable for those willing to go through therapy.
My dad is always angry and takes everything out at me?
My parents got divorced when I was three. They never got along and always fought. Even now, 12 years later, they still hate each other and can never agree with anything. So with that said, they use me as a midway communicator, if that makes sense (Dad tells me what to say to Mom, vice versa). It sucks because they always take their anger out on me, and it's freaking childish. So anyway, my dad is always angry at me. If there's some mis-communication, it's automatically my fault. Like, he'll always say, "Hey, do you wanna come over ----?" and I'll say **maybe**, but nothing else would be said about it. Then, the DAY before I'm allegedly supposed to come down, he calls me and gets mad because I didn't plan on going down there. I'm always terrified to talk to him because he's just one of those people who you do NOT want to piss off! He'll yell at me and say it's "my fault" that it didn't work out. I'm one of those people who hates arguments, so I won't say anything and just let him beat me down. He's also ridiculous because he tries to make me spend my whole summer down there, which just can't happen because I don't know ANYONE where he lives (I'm in Missouri, he's in Arkansas) and it's so boring. Plus, I just plan don't want to be around him. So my question is, how do I deal with my dad always being angry at me? My mom is sort of the same way because she refuses to talk to him for me (or rather, how it SHOULD be-- the parents talking to each other rather than using the kid as a shield) I'm scared of confronting him because he always yells and, to be honest, it really scares me :P
Why are my parents always angry with me?
Wow. I never in my life thought that I would find someone who's having the exact same problems as me! Seriously though, I am going through the exact same thing as you are right now. For example, today, not even an hour ago I tried talking to my grandpa to get his advice on something. I explained to him what my problem was, I asked him what he thought I should do. But whenever he gave me his answer it didn't even relate to the conversation we were having! I was getting frustrated, so was he. I raised my voice to make myself clear. I wasn't trying to be a smart *** with him, yet he thought I was. My grandma just got back from the doctor. As soon as she came through the door she started complaining about how she was the only one to do any work around the house. She got into the car and I asked her what I could do to help her, she just closed the door to the car and left. Usually when I feel like my parents are against me, or when I feel that they're just trying to be straight up ***** this is what I do. 1. Get on the roof, away from everyone else. Just give yourself as long as you need to calm down. 2. Personally, what I do sometimes when I'm really upset is find the one thing I know I'm good at, regardless of how my parents make me feel, or how my brothers and sister treat treat me. I'm accustomed to art and music, so I draw a picture, or write a song using my feelings as the theme. To answer the question "why are they so quick-tempered" I would have to say it's because it's the holidays. I know it may seem impossible right now, but look at the situation from a different perspective. The holidays are always a stressful time of year. Planning for Christmas, preparing for Christmas Eve, or carrying out any type of working schedule to meet deadlines can be a handful. To put it simply, any time you have a falling out or problem, find something that has a positive influence on you and try to use it to calm your unhappiness.
Why am I always angry around my parents?
Since we cannot judge whose mistake it is, because you are getting angry and you regret for that….that’s why you suit question here. If you are parents neglect you…. you cannot have space to communicate like this…. since my understanding of today’s youngsters by counseling several students I found simple concepts that you guys all think yourself you are more mature and brilliant than your parents. I cannot blame you, its completely cause by transformation of society, influencing of Hollywood movies, modern technology, advanced education. these things cannot match with your parents because they are not in a position to observe as well they will not understand your expectation and feeling.But I am asking question? all your age group people, When your parents cannot understand today’s development of technology, where you guys are easily learn it and observe as well practicing too therefore you are smarter than your parents. but when your parents try to hold you for certain reasons due to lack of modernized world why you guys are not able to understand your parents instead you all expecting that your parents need to understand you. please think about it…..if can able to understand greatest technologies its not a big deal but do not forget to understand your own parents feelings and expectations on you. if you can understand, at any cause you will not even think to get angry with your parents……More than the technology….parents affection its hard to understand so try to take practice of know about your parents than this show off world technology…I hope you are mature guy to understand the concept of wrong society…. i appreciate that you do not like to get with your parents.. understand??? you unknown friend kris
How do I control my father's anger?
Hey friend!Everyone has to face their father’s anger when they have committed a mistake but there is a hidden message inside it which you will only understand when you will think about it with open mind. It is a bitter medicine which i recommend to everyone if they do something wrong. Even I have suffered fury of my father’s anger.But one thing i have always kept notice is that whatever he says to me and if it has some meaning and i have committed mistake, i definitely grasp and admit it at any cost.Silence is the best way to handle these situations.Sometimes you became the victim of your father’s angriness but don’t feel humiliated. You must listen to him and never (i say) never answer or reply( i mean debate ) to his saying or take his word in your heart (even if he had said something that you didnt’t like). Let the time pass and wait until your father’s mood is cool. If he had committed mistake or misbehaved, he will definitely regret it.Afterall he is also a human and he can also commit mistakes as you do!And remember he had got the licence to punish you when you are indulged in wrong deed.If i have said something wrong here please forgive me.I am still a human!!!
How do I cope up with a hyper angry (Indian) father who demands a perfect son which I am not and I probably can never be?
I would like to share one incident that happened to me few months back.Myself and my Dad went to my brother's college for his admission.And the conversation between me and my dad goes like this.Dad: Go get money from ATMMe: How much ?Dad: 80000 bucksMe: Dad ! We can withdraw only 40000 bucks. Dad: Why not 80k ?Me: That is limit per dayDad : Ok ! Do one thing. Take 40k from SBI ATM and another 40k fromthat ICICI ATM(pointing the ATM). Simple !Me: No we can't do thatDad : Why not ? At least try once, we can be lucky sometimes.Me(Angrily): Why don't you go and try yourselves !!!Dad: OK then tell these college people that we will pay 40k tomorrow.If you don't pay the full amount then you wont get the admission slip without which you cannot stay in the hostel and even your seat is not confirmed in the college records.(One of the strict administrative and reputed universities of South India). Hundreds of people waiting outside to grab the seat.Me: They wont Agree dad.Dad : Why not ? At least try once, we can be lucky sometimes.Me: Dad ! You know nothing.. (I didn't even complete the sentence)Dad(angrily): Abhi tak joining letter toh mila nahi aur khud ko mahaan samaj raha hai ?(You haven't joined the company yet, you think you are great and you know everything)This conversation continued for sometime and I left the place angrily.My dad speaks telugu and the college Dean speaks tamil. I was the only guy who can speak both the languages and I left him helpless.Later my dad requested the Dean with the english he knew (very little) and explained him What the problem exactly is !! To my surprise, My brother got his Admission Slip for 40k installment. And few days later even i found that we can withdraw more than 40k (It depends on the bank). I knew nothing and I was arguing with my half knowledge. Hence Proved.I always feel bad for making him feel sad.You will also regret if you repeat the same. Mark my words.Moral :The only source of Knowledge is "Experience" - Albert EinsteinSo Keep Calm !And Do what your father asks you to do !!