How can I help my friend with depression?
From my personal experience I can tell you that- Depression makes one forget their self worth, their purpose to live life and most importantly it kills the vigor to live everyday. Each day feels like a fight and as a ‘burden' to the depressed person.So, if you want to help your depressed friend,be the person they can vent all their negative thoughts to. Instead of jumping to any conclusion or start giving them advices, first listen to them completely. Let them know that you understand what they are going through without any judgements. Even if they are not ready to share anything, make them feel that you believe in them.Make them believe that they are not alone in this fight with depression.Suggest them to consult a therapist. Let them feel that you really care for them. Help them in realising their own self worth. A depressed person, often finds it hard to communicate and interact with other people and tries to cut all social connections. So, as a friend you can motivate them to join any 'positive' social group. By positive I mean a group where they can get rid of their negative thoughts. Like a support group or NGO where they can channelize their self draining negative energy into a productive helpful work. Also, with my personal experience with depression, I have found it that joining a dance class, or gym can really be very helpful. Physical exercises are quite helpful to kill anxiety and depression. If you cannot make them join one, atleast go for a walk with them, it will surely help.
How do you deal with sudden bouts of sadness?
I listen to happy music, read, or call a friend up to go hang out. Just distract yourself and it will pass. Your probably just depressed, medication isnt really needed if you find a way to deal with it yourself. I tend to act happy even when Im not and it just makes me feel better, and weirds everyone else out which amuses the hell out of me. =) Good Luck!
How to do keep friends when you’re depressed and bring them down a lot?
If you have depression, is it possible to have friends without it affecting them? Should I cover up the fact that I feel so sad and suicidal occasionally, or should I just end the friendships completely? They care, worry, cry, get angry and try to help but to no avail. They ask how I’m doing and I’m usually honest and tell them how depressed I feel. I think I make them feel helpless, useless or not good enough since I’m not getting any better from their help. Isn’t it selfish to keep friends, without lying or hiding it, when you are severely depressed? they think I don’t try hard enough. I’ve never had to deal with anything this difficult like this illness. It makes me want to isolate and keep everything in, which I did for a few months then started talking to them again, now here again with the same problem. It’s frustrating for me and them. What’s the right thing to do in this situation? Keep them as friends and cover it up with lies? Or end the friendships?
How do I deal with the sadness I feel in terms of my son's illness?
I feel parents need to show their feelings to their children. They need to see sadness. But this needs to be balanced with your DUTIES as a parent. As a parent our duty is to make sure they live well. That they keep connected to those things that make them happy.Before she died my 16 year old suffered for six years from a progressive neurological disease. I took care of her physical needs, my wife took care of her spirit. She made sure she laughed, sang, saw friends. She knew we were sad but we hid our deepest despair from her because we needed her spirit to stay strong. It was sometimes very very difficult to do.There is no way not to feel sad when your child is sick but transferring that sadness to your ill child is not right. They have enough to deal with.If by Dealing with it, you mean coping with it personally, we found a lot of comfort with a group of parents with children who had illnesses as severe as ours had. We all had lots of feelings to talk about together and it took a lot of pressure off us as we dealt with her illness.
My friend is depressed and clingy?
I have this friend who is very depressed and has almost no friends, I am one of his few friends so he is always clinging to me. The thing is we met online a few years ago and keep in touch through phone and internet but we have never met. He constantly texts me and calls me, to talk about his problems. He thinks I am his best friend because he has no other friends. I tried to get him to change and make new friends but he won't even try saying its impossible, and soley relies on me for friendship. He is always putting himself down and he refuses to try anything that will help his depression. I hate feeling the burden on someone's problems especially someone who I have never met and someone who I can't help, because I have my own problems and a lot going on in my life and its too much to deal with. It annoys me that he calls so much I feel I need my space but if I say I am busy (even if I really am busy!) he takes it personally and calls himself worthless. I feel bad for feeling this way and if I cut him out of my life I may make his depression even worse. I don't want to be responsible if anything bad happens to him. What should I do?
How can I deal with my anxiety and depression while all the conditions doesn't help?
My Dear friend , may be this …helpful for you…From my Master's Mouth…..If you are depressed, so be depressed; don’t do anything. And what can you do? Whatsoever you do will be done out of depression, so it will create more confusion. You can pray to God, but you will pray so depressingly that you will even make God depressed through your prayers. Don’t do that violence. Your prayer is going to be a depressed prayer.You can meditate, but what will you do? The depression will be there. Because you are depressed, whatsoever you do the depression will follow. More confusion will be created, more frustration, because you cannot succeed. And when you cannot succeed you will feel more depressed, and this can go on ad infinitum. It is better to remain with the first depression than to create a second circle and then a third circle. Remain with the first; the original is beautiful. The second will be false, and the third will be a far-off echo. Don’t create these. The first is beautiful. You are depressed, so this is how existence is happening to you at this moment.You are depressed, so remain with it. Wait and watch. You cannot be depressed for long because in this world nothing is permanent. This world is a flux. This world cannot change its basic law for you so that you remain depressed forever. Nothing is here forever; everything is moving and changing. Existence is a river; it cannot stop for you, just for you, so that you remain depressed forever. It is moving, it has already moved. If you look at your depression, you will feel that even your depression is not the same the next moment; it is different, it is changing. Just watch, remain with it and don’t do anything. This is how transformation happens through non-doing. This is what is meant by “effortless effort.”Feel depression, taste it deeply, live it. It is your fate. Then suddenly you will feel it has disappeared because the man who can accept even depression cannot be depressed. A man, a mind, who can accept even depression cannot remain depressed! Depression needs a non-accepting mind. “This is not good, that is not good; this should not be, that should not be; this must not be like this.” Everything is denied, rejected - not accepted. “No” is basic. Even happiness will be rejected by such a mind. Such a mind will find something to reject in happiness also.
How can/should I deal with sadness?
It depends on the cause of sadness. A sense of loss may be involved. When a loved one dies, for example, you must go through the grieving process. Personally, I read several self-help books when I got divorced. There are many out there. Pick some that look useful, and spend some time each day reading and contemplating. Write down specific ideas you find helpful. One idea that stuck with me is that there is a natural healing process for psychological loss that is just as reliable as the healing of a physical injury. Live with that process and trust it. Cooperate with it by thinking constructively. Some people like to see themselves as suffering heroically, perhaps as a "martyr." They think in ways that are likely to prolong grief and sadness. Some even define their lives as necessarily miserable and see themselves as heroes who are suffering nobly. Don't do this. The less you suffer, the better. Many years ago, I went to an aunt's funeral and felt guilty that I was not more upset by her death (I rarely saw her, and I had not seen her for many years). So to ease my guilt, I got myself into a sad, miserable mood. I finally realized this was a mistake, but it took some time to shake it off. I can look back on mistakes I made -- things I said that were wrong, usually because I was too inexperienced to know what was right -- and now, decades later, I still flinch and cringe at the thought. All we can do is learn from our mistakes and try not to repeat them. Tell yourself this. Say it aloud every morning and evening until you are ready to let the mistake pass and move on. If you are struggling with depression, that is a different matter. Perhaps a psychiatrist could be helpful. The news media regularly present information in the most negative way possible. It's easy to get worried about the future. Be selective in how you read the news.Fortunately, there is a profound truth that most people don't know about: The quietest level of your mind is peaceful and unconditionally happy. You can take your conscious attention to this level of your mind and experience deep happiness every day. When you do it regularly, the peace and happiness persists during the day when you are not meditating. I've been using TM to do this every day for over 40 years. It really works.
How can I deal with my melancholy and sadness, now that is Christmas, I'm 25, broke up with my ex-gf and fell so lonely?
Hi, Luca! Make the most of your moments regardless. Turn a negative into a positive! Don't let past memories hold you captive to your past and keep you from moving forward in your life.Think about it this way: What if this were your last day to make the most of your time. You know, tomorrow isn't promised, so why waste your time being "sad" and "melancholy" about things you can't change or have any control over.When you think about it, your "melancholy and sadness" are based on "memory". but you can change your mind set. The "memories" only have power over your emotion if you gave them power.So take control of your mind and your emotions. Go out and have some fun! Or throw a party with friends and family. You can still enjoy the company of other people, meet new people.Put yourself into things you enjoy doing! Cook a creative meal and invite a friend over, indulge in conversation, maybe dance a little.Don't allow yourself to just wallow in depression or sadness. Decide to do something different.Keep moving forward, Luca! Make the most of the moments given to you! Create the next moment!!
Why do we feel better after crying when dealing with anxiety or depression?
I believe the answer to this is simple, yet, a bit covert. Yes, there is a myriad of scientific facts to implicate that crying is actually healthy (from a chemical standpoint) for your emotional body, but there’s something deeper that must be realized in this age of Emotional Neglect.When we cry, and I mean, REALLY allow ourselves to cry… we are attuning to and giving validation to our emotions. Our emotional body is suddenly NOT neglected, and we are sitting WITH the emotion, rather than IN it.You’ll know if you’re sitting in an emotion because that’s the insult to injury. Ex. “I’m so sad. GOD! I shouldn’t be upset about this, it’s so trivial anyway, right? Now I feel WORSE about myself!” Did you see what happened there? Said person became their own enemy, and was angry at themselves for being sad.You’ll know if you’re sitting with an emotion because you go through it to get over it.Ex. “I’m so sad. Yeah. I’m sad. If I cry about it, I’m going to LET myself feel my emotions. I won’t try to put on a strong face, because that’s me telling myself I’m WRONG for feeling what I feel.” The difference here is that you’ve realized the emotion isn’t going away UNTIL IT IS DEALT WITH. The only way over something is right through it. In this second scenario, you are actually LOVING yourself.This is what people mean to say when they give you the trite adage, “You must have self-love.” Crying is at our disposal any time we need to give attention to something that throws our emotional focus/body out of whack. It’s a tool that we’ve deemed as a weakness. It’s actually a powerhouse tool that, if we give attention to, can easily bring us to a place of presence.So, yes, I say…cry it out. It feels good for all the scientific reasons people have spoken of. I just wanted you to be aware of what’s ACTUALLY happening beneath the surface of the factoids.-Adam xoxo
How to deal with losing a friend?
We had a blow up and it wasn't the first, prolly not the last. I cannot trust her anymore, she uses me and copies everything I say and do. Its annoying. We talk out problems calmly and rationally but she never takes any blame, she thinks she is the perfect friend and tells me I am a bad friend, when i put all the effort into our friendship. Well like I said before, we ended (i think) with a blow up and this one we cannot recover from. I know im losing her, I don't want to pick up the same old pieces again and again, and I'm not going to be used anymore. I dont need her bc im better off. Now shes acting like shes better than me, and talking crap to all of our friends about me. How do I move on, positively, and keep her out for good? But how do I deal with this? how do I recover? How do i react when I see her in class? What do i do? :(