My boyfriend is rude to my kids sometimes?
I have two children from my previous marriage. A 17 year old boy and 13 year old girl. I am finding that lately more than desireable, my boyfriend of nearly a year and lives with us is getting a negative attitude towards my kids. I find him what appears to be lashing out more and being more vocal not caring if they hear what he is saying or not. Sometimes his words are very rude. Last night - my daughter had made the comment that his dog had bit her and without even giving her a chance to say anything else - he got very defensive and nasty tone and was just rude to her in my opinion. Followed it up by saying she was a liar. This is a 13 year old we are talking about. What my daughter was trying to say as the dog has done to me as well...when you feed her snacks....she eats it very aggresively and sometimes nips your fingers - but not meaning to hurt us but it happens. He had horrible attitude the rest of the night even though I told him it was uncalled for and that was unneccesary. He just tries to turn the situation around like "poor him" "what about his feelings". The point is - I feel he is treading down a road he really don't wanna go as I cannot tolerate ANYONE making my kids feel like that or treating them that way for no reason and then him acting like he did no wrong and we are all nuts. My defenses are up now and it makes me sorta resent him and it is hurting my feelings towards him...HELP!
I wish my boyfriend didn't have kids...?
Here goes............. I've been with my boyfriend for three years, we have a pretty good relationship I would say. The only problem I have is with his kids. He has four kids with four different women. Two of his kids live in Miami and two live in the same state that we do. His youngest kid is four and his mom is a piece of work. She is extremely nagging and contacts him constantly. She uses any excuse for him to come over to her house, even if it's to bring a half gallon of milk. He lives about a half hour away from her house. His four year old is the one that he sees the most. I have met three of his kids so far. I just wish he didn't have any at all. With two of the women (so he says) they were supposed to get abortions but had the kid anyway (one of which was the four year old). I hate sharing him (I know what some of you are thinking), but I'm feeling really left out. He is extremely affectionate with his kids and that burns me on the inside. I wish he would be that affectionate with me all the time, instead he has to share his time between me and his kids. Earlier this year I got pregnant and we agreed that the best option for us at that time was for me to get an abortion. I did. Now every time I see his kids I get upset because the affection that he shows the kids could have been shown to our kid.I don't know what to do. I love him, but I hate that he has kids and that the mothers are always around and will always be in his life.
Am I obliged to tell my boyfriend?
I am 24, he is 26 and we have been dating for 5-years and living together for 3 years. He wants to have children and I don't, he doesn't know this and I am on the pill. It was my secret until my sister found out, she told me I need to be honest and I said "my body, my rules", "I don't have to tell him anything" My sister called me selfish and she said if I don't tell him the truth then she will (is this allowed?!) As far as I am concerned it is my body and I am under no obligation to tell my boyfriend anything. he doesn't own me! It is MY BODY!
When a man you're dating asks you if you want kids, what does it mean?
When my boyfriend and I started talking about kids, we had only been about 2 months into our relationship. I just figured he wanted to know more about me, which in a sense is true, but like you said, he's probably evaluating a potential future with you and probably likes you. My Boyfriend and I are now trying to have kids, so maybe he wants to know if you want them so maybe you guys can start hehe.
I'm Catholic, but my Girlfriend is Wicca?
Firstly - Ignore the Christians, especially the judgemental ones. Secondly - If you want to know what Wicca involves, then talk to you your girlfriend, she is the one who can tell you truthfully what Wicca is to her. Whether you let them or not, children WILL choose their own religion. People who imagine they have any say in what their children will grow up into are seriously deluded. Children know what they want, do what they want, they form their own ideals and morals. All you can do is teach them to be good people. Regardless of religion, there WILL be problems. There always is in a relationship of two individuals. It is basic human psychology. As long as you respect each other and listen to each other, and are equal in all things, you will be fine. I am a pagan, my partner is an atheist. The one thing we don't argue about is religion.