I'm never happy to see my family? Depressed?
I'm not really sure where to start with this. I'm a 15 year old girl who lives with her family. For about the past year-year and a half I've not been as happy as I'm used to being. More specifically, I'm not happy seeing my family. It's like whenever I get near them or even hear them, my mood drops instantly. Additionally, I never feel like talking around or to them. This is odd for me, because I used to love spending time with them, but now I almost dread it. My family has always been supportive of me and cared for me, so there is no obvious reason to feel this way as far as I can tell. At school I always have a great time. I'm happy and love talking to my friends at school, but right when I get home I go up into my room and don't feel like coming downstairs to be with my family. When I'm isolated from them I'm happy. I feel a whole lot better alone than with them. After summer break began these feelings have been becoming more severe. I cry almost every night in my room, have lost interest in most of the things I used to love doing, I'm significantly less motivated to do anything, and I dislike being with my family even more than I used to. For example, I used to love drawing, but in the past couple weeks I have no motivation to do it. I want to ask for help, but at the same time I'm afraid people won't take me seriously. I'm also afraid that maybe I'm making a bigger deal out of this than I should be, even though I feel that I am not.What's wrong and what to do? Thanks
How can I wake up happier / less depressed?
At the end of the day , when going to bed, think of something which made you feel relaxed, or happy, or just about anything which brought you peace of mind during the entire day. Think happy thoughts , try avoiding negative thoughts creeping into your mind. You could watch some good comedy shows , or try listening to good soothing songs which make you feel happy. Have a hot shower, drink warm milk and just tuck yourself into your bed and you will just drift into sleep mode. you will feel better and refreshed the next day when you wake up. Try doing these as a routine and try sleeping daily at the same time.Hope this helps.
What makes you happy and less depressed? Does it last or is it something you will always have to do?
Finding something I can take control of, something I can do or change, and doing something about it.When you’re feeling lost and unsure of what to do, it’s always good finding some form of outlet that you can control. Be it excersise, writing, playing games, whatever.I was feeling pretty isolated, so I took control and started talking more and opening up to my friends.I was struggling to express what I was thinking and feeling, so I found an old notebook and started writing down everything that came to my head.I was unhappy with my body, so I found my dad’s old weights and started weight training.If I hadn’t decided I could do something about my isolation, I would never have reached out to my friends. If I hadn’t written down everything that was hurting me at the time, I would have never let go of it. If I hadn’t started excersising, I’d still be a weak, 6 stone kid.I took control of everything I could get my hands on, and now I’m closer to many of my friends than I ever have been, and am becoming better friends with even more. I am (mostly) free of regrets and sadness because I can write down what I think and vent to my friends as I accept whatever happened, which has led to me being an overall more positive person.Finding something to do and doing it, especially if it releases dopamine, is the best thing you can do.
How do I make a depressed person happy?
To begin with, depression is a logical illness which can't just go away suddenly and is something we need to understand. I know this sounds philosophical but to twist a quote - ‘ happy people are all alike, unhappy people are unhappy in their own way.’ Depression is too broad a term and can stem from workplace issues, peer pressure, family issues and million others. Another very important fact is trying to understand if a person is having a bad day or medically ‘a mental health day’ before deciding if they are depressed .Whatever the case may be, there are a few early signs and triggers we need to realise and the first thing is not starting off a conversation with ‘Oh, you’re depressed? Yeah, I’ve been depressed’. As we don’t and actually can't understand the implications and triggers of mental health, here are a few things we can do to help calm the person , if not make them happy instantly.The first thing is to accept and not judge the person for being depressed and try to tell them they aren't the only person who’s depressed. Just understanding and accepting saying you understand, you’re not alone is a great first step.Another thing I’ve noticed including with me when you’re depressed is you want to sit and talk to someone but most of the times you can’t explicitly say the same. You don't have to tell the person you understand or actually be able to understand what they are going through… but letting them know you are there is a step ahead. At times just being there when they are alone and catching a movie, a coffee…without even bringing up the subject can help the person feel better for the time being.Don’t pressurise the person into talking but let them know you’re a call away. Be patient.Low self-esteem often causes depression. Try to talk or show the person how they have inspired you or taught you something.The key is don’t let a person who is depressed feel alone. Just by showing you are there can make a big difference for that day, create a moment of esteem, belonging and happiness … and yes, if symptoms persist do help the person take the right step to medical attention.'
How does a depressed person become happy?
Happiness is more like a state of being. It is not something you acquire once and then retain for the rest of your life.It is very similar to maintaining your personal hygiene. Showering just today will not guarantee your cleanliness for the next two days. Realizing this is the first step to being happy.Our thoughts, if not kept in constant check, can round back to being negative. We’re often exposed to negative attitudes throughout the day, be it in the office, at home or pretty much anywhere else. The key to a happy state of mind is letting go of these negative influences, the arguments, the relationships, the grudges. Focus on your positives. Yes! its better said than done. But its not so hard.The best part is no one is an expert on this. Everybody is fighting a battle we know nothing about. If anybody is happier than us its only because they chose to leave their sorrows behind and wear that happy grinning mask all day long. Smile so hard that you forget why you woke up so grumpy in the morning. Stick to some activities which will help you stay pleasant. Indulge in writing. Write out your fears, your sorrows, what makes you happy and what does not. A good thing about writing is once you a have listed out your fears and pains, you are able to see how in fact miniature they appear. You realize how little they should matter to you. Be conscious of those that you can change and those that you have no control over. Another good practice is finding some time for yourself with a book to read. Make sure you choose a subtle genre.Do not rely on social media to get past your depression. All the pictures and posts of your “happy” peers will only set you further down. Instead find a silly hobby that helps you distract for a while. It could as simple as learning a new card trick to writing on your personal blog.Try this and you should be fine. I hope this helped!
What makes you feel happy, and got you feeling less depressed?
When you are depressed, nothing seems right and nothing seems to be the way it should be. There is a big difference in feeling down (we all go through a day or so when we are feeling down for no apparent reason) and being depressed. A good meal. The beautiful hearty laughter of my wife when she is laughing at something. The mischief in her eyes when she is teasing me over something. A good meal (I generally enjoy a greasy meat curry), a good song (I listen to a lot of Classic Rock and Heavy Metal and certain songs really bring up my spirits when I am feeling down), the cheeky answer of my younger son, the stupid comment leading to laughter by my elder son, a good action movie. There is an old saying “ONE MAN’S RUBBISH IS ANOTHER’S TREASURE” and the principle behind this saying also applies in this situation. What could make me happy could bring you down. Not necessarily, but that doesn’t mean that it is not possible.
How can I make someone who is depressed happy?
Is the person comfortable around you and does he/she trust you to tell you what problem he/she is facing or what makes them sad?First of all, make friends with them. A depressed person always needs that one shoulder to lean on when they’re not fine. Talk to the person, leave the topic of what makes them that way if they’re not ready to tell you yet.Whenever you’re free, plan and go hang out with the person, make their day better by doing something that’d be fun. Sometimes, even sitting with them and doing absolutely nothing would mean a lot. I was once in this phase. I had my best friend then who would randomly pop out of no where and just sit with me and this itself meant a lot to me. I had trouble with my ex.. At that time, I wasn’t ready to talk about it and no one really knew of my ex (people yet don’t really know I dated that f*g). I trusted no one but my best friend.. He knew of everything (that best friend is the man I am with now :) )See what all the person loves doing and go ahead doing all of that, try new things, listen to music, think of everything you can do to help them smile and make them feel loved. Just don’t remind them of what puts them down.. Even if you do, motivate them to get over it and motivate them to do something for themselves.It’s not going to be easy if the person keeps shutting you down though. I did that to a couple of people. I in fact cut everyone off from my life and didn’t bother talking to anyone and kept refusing to hang out, too. My best friend refused to let me do that to him though. He would randomly appear out of nowhere and demanded I watch cartoons with him (he hates cartoons but he knows of how I love Spongebob so he downloaded 6 seasons of Spongebob and used to watch it with me so he could see me smile).You can get them to temporarily forget about the pain when you’re around them but I don’t promise it will get them out of depression so easy. Though, you could try and be the person they can turn to when they feel lonely :)
Why are some people depressed, or significantly less happy than usual, during the holiday season?
Because not everyone has a happy association with the holidays. On top of several of the other answers that give good reasons, there can be others. People like to act like miracles of kindness and happiness happen for every single other person during this time of year. Or if they don't, that person somehow deserves it. Neither is true. For many the holidays can be times of stress, bring up bad memories, be soaked in guilt, and make them feel like more of an outsider in society than they might normally.The push that everyone loves everyone, that it is the happiest time of the year, the overabundance of "feel good" everything can actually push people to feeling more alone, more strange, more dysfunctional. Not to mention, if people have spent any regular time working Xmas retail, it really is, as the guy in Tiffany's of NYC once sang when I was there "The most horrible time of the year, the customers are rude and the bosses are angry, the crowds are ridiculous and the traffic insane".
Why do I feel less depressed after eating?
Eating is triggering the dopamine in your brain to be released. Bungee jumping would probably do the same thing. Your brain can train itself to give rewards at certain times, yours is dolling it out when you eat. If you start jogging or riding your bike often this could replace eating as your rewarded activity. Your brain will release the dopamine when you are running instead of eating. This is known as the runners high. Try other things too. I enjoy mushroom hunting out in the woods, and I get a huge dopamine release when I find a cool mushroom. Also, when I make cool music I get a huge dopamine release. Lots of people get them finishing an art piece or hugging and kissing a loved one. Find a new release trigger for the dopamine that is healthy for your mind and body.
How can i change my voice to sound less depressed?
Arrange your mouth into a smiling position. I'm told that telemarketers learn this.