How can a father get joint custody?
Don’t be fooled by the “Best Interest” standard. Unless you are a danger to your children and there is proof that is beyond a reasonable doubt, the sate cannot exercise parens patire over you and your children. Troxel v Granville. You have Constitutional rights to your child that cannot be dissolved easily. The biggest mistake parents make is agreeing to sign an order that says they accept limited custody. Most states have a standard visitation schedule. But you should never agree to it. Once you agree to it then that’s it….you agreed to it. Say NO! Demand 50/50. Demand that both parents be responsible for child support. And demand to know why only you are being forced to pay it. Demand that evidence be shown to prove you are less of a parent than the other. Demand that evidence be provided to show that you are unfit. The trouble with attorneys is that they don’t want to fight for you. They don’t want to make a judge mad at them. Attorneys make a living by working in a judges realm. It political. They aren’t going to demand your rights be protected. They will certainly take your money and pretend to look tough and maybe even act tough. But they won’t demand that your rights be protected. You’ll need over $30k to afford an attorney willing to act tough but even then they don’t have control over what a judge decides. You do however, by not accepting a custody arrangement that is less than 50/50. Appeal it if they force it on you. But you probably only have 30 days to file an appeal depending on where you live. Don’t trust people who tell you that you have to accept what the court decides. Its your kid. And remember this, all states want is that child support. They have become greedy machines that feed off of federal Title IV-D incentives. $4 billion a year is appropriated by the US Congress as a “carrot in front of a donkey” Men make the most in the workforce so it is best to make men pay child support. The more child support ordered means more federal incentives. Each state is judged based on the Five Performance Measure of Child Support. Fight back from the beginning or lose the entire thing. Your choice.
Joint Custody - Pros and Cons?
I don't believe child support or the amount of involvement should determine whether anyone has the right to take away anyone's custody...in other words, unless the absent parent is deemed an unfit parent, then there should always be joint custody. In fact, in many states, that's the only way to go. Also, if no custody has been ordered in the past, then you already have a "joint custody" arrangement And even with joint custody, there is still a custodial parent...the parent with whom the child has his or her primary residence for school zoning, on medical records, etc...and the other parent has visitation. If the visitation is set up to where the child lives with each parent equally, then that's a visitation issue, not a custodial issue...same as a child visiting a parent every other weekend...that is still joint custody, just different visitation schedules. So, let him have joint custody, but arrange the visitation schedule to meet your desires, until the child is old enough to voice his or her own opinion.
I do not want my sons father to have joint custody?
I got pregnant at 16 and the whole time my sons father came and went.After I had Jacob we would break up and get back together, but the the whole time either way he didnt have much to do with Jacob.He only gave me money here and there and would call randomly wanting to see the baby and would only keep him a few hours.He would go a month sometimes without even asking about him.3 weeks ago he met a girl and moved in with her and her child.Since then he has been gettng Jacob a little more but want help me with diapers or anything because I finally took child support out, so he want help me until he has to pay that.My question is, now he's wanting joint custody.I really dont want that, visitation sounds okay and I could deal with that.He's violent and was physically and emotionally abusive towards me.I have seen him call his son names also when he cried9(little pussy and little *****).Is there anyway I could fight joint custody, I dont want him having rights over my sons medical things also, hes way to immature.I'm in Ga by the way.
Why do fathers want Joint Custody?
Because dads love their children just as much as moms do. Dads are just as important to their children as moms are. And children need their fathers just as much as they need their mothers.Outdated images of uninvolved, lazy, clueless dads are false stereotypes that feed a dangerous narrative. The reality is that we have achieved an equality in the American home that few people realize. Today’s fathers are just as involved as mothers, and work equally hard on behalf of their families.I prove all this, with hard data and tons of interviews, in my book All In. I explore custody issues in detail, and show how kids who lose time with their fathers fare worse overall in many serious ways.
My ex (NOT EX WIFE) wants joint custody!?
My ex has gotten a lawyer to get joint custody? So my ex has gotten a lawyer and wants joint custody of our son who lives with me? she cheated onme 5 years ago and agreed that our son could live with me until she got her stuff in order, I guess she has it in order now after 5 years. In those 5 years she has remained in contact and would see our son often we dont have any court orders and nothing saying she had to pay child support. But now she is not happy with the fact that for the last 2 years my live in girlfriend (who i have a child with) watchhes our kid when Iam at work, she is not happy that my son is spending more time with my girlfriend than his own mother but I see nothing wrong with this as she has him every two weeks on the weekend,she is telling me she is going after joint custody now. Everything has been fine on my end and I see no reason why my son should have to split up his time, my girlfriend has been very good with him and doesnt mind at all. But now my ex who is married (we were never married) and has her own home and 2 kids with her husband wants to come in and take my son away from his house and get 50/50 custody and she was even mentioning child support which I do not agree with, my question is could she win and will I have to pay child support if she does I do not think this is right. 4 minutes ago - 4 days left to answer. Additional Details My ex doesnt work she is a stay at home mother, and she is arguing that since I make over 125,000 a year I should and can pay a small amount for child support. She is mostly angry that my ex watches our kid when Im not home, so she is doing this based on that she never had an issue before my girlfriend moved in, 2 years ago so why is she doing this now/ she has also mention going for primary custody as well since I work alot and sometime have to leave town during those time my girlfriend watches him so I have child care, my girlfriend does alot for our son I donot want my ex to get this, things have been fine with how they have been so far.
My ex boyfriend and I have joint custody for my son. I'm a full time student. I try asking him for help and he denies it. What can I do?
What kind of help are you asking for? Child care? Child support? How did he get joint custody without having been ordered to pay child support? If he was ordered to pay child support but you aren’t getting it, call the court trustee of the court where you did the paternity action. They might be able to help you.If no child support was awarded, why? Did you have an attorney helping you? Did you try to do this on your own? Maybe you should call a legal aid group now and ask them for help or for a referral to a low fee attorney who can help you revisit your custody situation. It isn’t acceptable that you are doing all of the work and providing all of the support for your child if he’s doing nothing. You need legal help to do something about it.Are you getting all the social services you can get? Go to your state’s Department of Children and Families. Take your legal documents and tell you them you aren’t getting any child support and you need help. Maybe DCF will provide you with cash assistance and then go after your boyfriend to reimburse them.Good luck to you.
Can an unmarried father get joint custody?
There is no legal impediment to an unmarried father having joint custody. There are two practical impediments. Unmarried parents are confronted with custody considerations from a child's infancy whereas divorcing parents are usually dealing with custody farther along in a child's development. Given societal values it would be a hard, if not impossible sell to convince a court that a father should share custody of a newborn. Secondly, joint custody works best between cooperating parents who agree to joint custody and have the maturity to handle the details with grace and cooperation. Without that, joint custody can impose too much burden on a child who becomes a pawn of their parents angst. That said society can't allow one parent to sabotage joint custody so that they can be the primary parent. It is a delicate question. I'm only saying that joint custody works best between two mature and cooperative parents. I'm a Bay Area small business and start up lawyer but I'm not (yet) your lawyer. My lawyer demands that I remind you that this content is subject to Quora's legal disclaimer. You likely need a lawyer in your area to properly address your question. Good Luck.
IF I HAVE JOINT CUSTODY CAN I JOIN THE ARMY RESERVE?
I AM A 20 YR. OLD MOM AND MY SON IS 6 MONTHS OLD. I REALLY HAVENT BEEN DOING MUCH WITH MY LIFE AND I REALLY WANT TO PROVE EVERYONE IN MY FAMILY WRONG. I WANT A BETTER LIFE FOR MY SON AND I WANT MY SON TO BE PROUD OF ME AND SEE ME AS A GUD EXAMPLE. I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW IF I CANT JOIN THE ARMY RESERVE IF I HAVE JOINT CUSTODY WITH THE FATHER OF MY CHILD. I HAVE HEARD ALOT OF DIFFERENT ANSWERS AND I WOULD LIKE TO GET ANSWERS FROM PPL WITH EXPERIENCE. ESPECIALLY FROM PPL WHO ARE IN THE SAME SITUATION.