My Roommate Keeps Invading MY Space?
I recently moved into an apartment that is split- with a door that connects the spaces. My landlord promised me my own living room, kitchen, bathroom and bedroom. The other guy, we'll call Tim, has a larger space on the other side the apartment that includes 2 bedrooms, bathroom and larger living room. Before I moved in, he was used to having access to the kitchen. Apparently he didn't realize when I got there, I was getting the kitchen and the landlord was going to provide him an electric hotplate, microwave and two mini fridges. This simply won't do for him and he now is demanding he can barge into my kitchen any time to use it- often for hours at a time. I tried to reason with him and tell him he could have the kitchen on weekends, and then allow me the kitchen during the week. Nope, he says he wants "flexibility" to access it any time- which included him making eggs at 1AM the other day! The problem is- to get to the kitchen, he has to come through MY living room! That's an invasion of MY space and privacy. What if I'm entertaining? He suggested getting a curtain to split the living room, and that's ridiculous. I am not in college! Im a grown man who wants my space, who was promised that half of the apartment. I understand I am getting a decent deal for my space, but this is not fair! Can't he just suck it up? He gets more space then me and I offered him weekends in the kitchen, and that's still not enough?? It's not a lease so this is a verbal arrangement.
Roommate Won't Stop Touching My Stuff!?
My roommate is rarely home. Maybe once or twice a week, and I've only spoken directly to her once. The rest is through email. When she is here, she's always moving my things around. I have my own living room and bedroom, but in the kitchen and bathroom, she will move my food, bathroom supplies, weird things. Some stuff I would say is compulsive, like, instead of having her salt and my salt next to each other, having my salt and pepper away from her salt and pepper. Other things are super weird. She'll move my makeup remover from underneath the ceramic soap holder to on top of it. Like, why move it two inches higher? Neither of us keep much in the bathroom, so it's not in the way. Today I came home and she had put the grapefruit next to my loaf of bread to on top of it, squishing the bread. Actions like this make me think that she wants me to leave. Her parents own the house so I know if I mentioned it to them, nothing would happen. The rent here is amazing and I'm on the beach. I love this place, so moving isn't an option. How can I mention to her that I don't want her touching my stuff, especially since she isn't being careful, without her getting defensive (like the one time I asked her to specifically not touch something and she did anyways). I don't want to burn any bridges!
How do I tell my roommate she is disrespecting my space? She leaves my dishes dirty with her food, showers 30+ mins without asking if you have to go, and lets different guys sleep over for days at a time. I'm too irritated to be nice. What do I say?
When does your lease expire? If it's within a few months, suck it up and just wait it out. Channel your frustration into finding a better living arrangement.If it's longer, address those issues with her directly. It's true that it's partially her space too. But you're entitled to having some boundaries and civility.Ask her if she would prefer to use paper plates if she is unable to wash dishes. Or if she could get her own plates, of different color and use dishwasher when needed.Regarding guys, ask her to not let them sleep over for more than 24 hours at a time. And if she ignores you, start asking the guys directly. Whomever is not listed on the lease, doesn't have a right to be there.Showers - negotiate usage schedule and print and post it on the door. Be like Sheldon about it.
My roommates invaded too much of our common space. What should I do?
Thanks for the A2A.Talk to your roommate openly about this. The three strike rule - Request him 3 times and explain how his behavior is bothering you.If he doesn't pay heed - the 4th time, go beyond your limits to make him realize. Start invading his space and see how he reacts.Also, maintain cleanliness and pay your rent on time. Give no reasons for others to point at you.
How can I prove to my roommate that leaving food out attracts bugs?
OMG you live with a stubborn pig. Suggest he grow up and act responsibly...or find a new house to infest with ants and cockroaches. http://www.orkin.com/learningcenter/pest... For a DIY experiment, leave a cup of Coke sitting on the counter overnight and put several drops of red food coloring in it. The bugs will leave their trail all over your countertop in red Coke.
My roommate has gone through my things repeatedly, and is now charging a 25$ cleaning fee each time. Can she legally do this?
I’ve had roommates go through my stuff and borrow things without asking but I’ve also had roommates who leave their shit everywhere. Even in the shared spaces like the living room or kitchen.So is she going into YOUR room to clean? If so, you need tell her to not go into your room without permission and you will not pay her 25$ for something you did not ask for.Or is she only cleaning your stuff from the shared spaces? If this is the case, then you both need to sit down and come to an agreement of how the apartment needs to be kept.I had a messy roommate and was totally fine with it because most of her stuff stayed in her room but when her stuff started covering the entire living room, it made me uncomfortable and unhappy to see it everyday. We eventually talked and agreed that the shared spaces are to remain kept clean and tidy and the individual rooms/spaces can be kept however the individual wants.If you are a messy roommate, that’s totally fine, live your life, but you should do your part in keeping the apartment clean but she shouldn’t be charging you regardless.The answer to your question is NO. She would only have legal standing if you two talked about this service and pay beforehand and got it in writing. The fact that she’s going through your stuff is a huge invasion of your privacy and needs to stop immediately. But again figure out why she’s doing this and try to come to a middle ground.Or get a new roommate.
My roommate, a guy, doesn't respect my space, knocks my door often to chat. How do I deal with him?
I've got the same problem.At heart he's good but otherwise no manners at all.Whenever I do something on the laptop, he pokes his nose into my business.He knows I prefer the door closed when I'm inside and he's out. He fuckin' never closes the door behind him.Thrice, he kept staring at my phone while I was chatting with Dad. There's something called personal space, you asshead!!When speaking on the phone with his mom, he is too loud, practically shouts.Who the heck keeps the air conditioner on during winters?He even gathers friends (my hostel-mates) and they all sing Telugu songs in loud, ugly voices. In my mind I keep thinking, “STFU fatheads, we've got classes tomorrow, lemme sleep.”I'm an early riser (I rise at 6 am) so I sleep early (at 10 pm). These fatheads sleep after 12 am and rise at 8:10 during weekdays and at 11:30 am during weekends (yeah, sometimes they sleep for 13 hours). Smartasses gather around and listen to songs on their loud speakers at night and themselves blare out the song or scream like tribals for nothing Just use your fuckin' earphones damnit. And don't behave like tribals, tomorrow ain't a holiday.They barge right into my room, no courtesy to knock.And are you gonna develop India by littering around? Our PM advocates Swachch Bharat and you fatfucks won't even bother keeping the hostel clean, litterbugs!! What's the trash can there for, to piss? Thank God you haven't gone that crazy yet.I guess I'll just prop up a huge notice on my door, “Wanna come in? Then fkin’ knock first. And don't play songs on speakers when I'm asleep, use your goddamn earphones.”