What are some of the best replies to your crush when she calls you "bhai" or "brother"?
Hii... Well I have an incident to share about it. I do have an uncommon name(for sake of privacy say XYZ) and I never thought I will ever meet a person who shares name same as mine.When I was in 1st year of college, I had few interaction with an amazing girl, she was pretty perfect in every aspect. We were in same branch and our first chat on Facebook was quite hilarious (at least to me). Over next few weeks, I started to notice her and began to like her attention, no matter how small it was. Since I was a studious-cum-nerd in my high-school, I didn't have much interaction with any girl in past and it was easy for me to realize that I've had a sweet crush on her. I never really dared to propose her, neither did I have any chance to be her guy. Fast forward to 2nd year, a day before diwali while we were texting she was asking about why I snapped so many pics of her on last college trip to which I simply replied because she looks beautiful to me. She got the clue and told me she isn't that pretty and she just wants to remain as friends. A few minutes later she told me her brother's name is (XYZ), my name reminded her of her brother, and all she has is brother-sister feeling for me. Expecting it to be a joke, I had a good laugh and asked her to stop kidding. I never thought a girl could go this far to avoid a guy(well I do look bad because of some reason and didn't have much of an attractive personality to fall for). Later I came to know she was already in relationship with a guy ever since 2nd semester of first year. I respected her and didn't bothered. To add more twist this guy would eventually be my roommate in 3rd year of college. Fast forward to convocation event, she introduced me to her family including her brother too. When she was about to introduce me to her brother, I was like 'yeah! I know you. You are XYZ. Nice to meet you'. Nothing bothered me this much ever before and this is still funny to me as 'why me'. That was the last time I saw her or talked with her. Anyway I still hope for her well-being.I don't know how many of you have been through similar situation but this kind of shit also happens. Well happened to me. Holy crap. Haha :DThanks for reading. And she still is a damn amazing person.
My ex-girlfriend is talking to other guys and it is making me feel bad. What should I do?
You have taken quite some time in writing the description which shows your situation and I could not help writing an answer for you.First of all, you already mentioned she is your "ex". In such a case, she is free to pursue all the things she wants to do and yes, that includes talking with other guys.When you feel bad about her talking to someone else, this clearly tells that you have very strong feelings for her and you do not want to let her go out of your life. But guess what, she has already gone you see.Now, what you can do first is ask yourself what do you want from her now.When she has said ill words to you or about your family & friends, would you be able to accept her out of that or it was just a rage.This thing would be very confusing to you and you might seek an answer for that.What you should now see is that she has already moved on. She is already talking to other guys and basically doing the stuff she wanted to do.The point now is what you should be doing?I would suggest following simple plan (though life is not that simple but you need to start somewhere) :Ask yourself if you want her again in your life. This question has to be concerned with your own feeling and not the things she said or so.If you want her back then one thing is to talk to her clearly again.This might seem a bit awkward but the things are already silly for you. She has gone away and you are still thinking about her. So, better to let it clear out than hurting yourself emotionally for longer period.I am not sure about the reply but that would definitely help you make the right decision.If you can't talk to her then its better to get off her. You are 20 only. Life has just started for you. Go out, have fun with friends and get a new girlfriend. I would say love happens more than one in life so go on and find someone more worthwhile and someone who respects you for what you are than making you feel bad by commenting on your life and family & friends.Just move on with the life whatever be the thing. If you stick to the same point in life, you will go on feeling bad and that is not going to help. So, get up and choose the way you want to live your life than being miserable for yourself.Hope you are able to get my point. Best of luck.
If my boyfriend doesn't text and talk much, does it mean he is not interested?
Well, it doesn't really matter too much. Men have a little bit different psychology than women. We insist on talking and texting more often than men. The reason is, we are more emotional, sensitive and need more attention. We take texting/calling as a way to measure how much he cares for us. Men, on the other hand are more practical and need more space. But they show in their actions how much they care about you. My boyfriend doesn't text and call much, but whenever I need him for something, he's there. We are in a long distance relationship for a while, I have not doubt that he has been loyal to me . There are other things in a relationship, that matter more than just texting/calling- understanding, trust, loyalty, care etc. Be sure that you have those in your relationship.
I found out that other guys are flirting with my girlfriend, and she is allowing them to continue to do the same, even though I know she loves me a lot. What should I do?
Nothing. She is not allowing them to flirt with her.If she is in a friendly conversation with someone else, there is nothing to be worried about. They may or may not know that she has a boyfriend.The only thing she can control is her response to things they say or do.If they can not distinguish between a conversation and a full throttle flirt session, then they are suffering from some major defect in their brain. I think she is relaxed and friendly in her interaction with other guys besides you, because you are the one she goes home with. You are the one she trusts and can confide in.Even if she's flirting with someone she feels at ease with, she will always keep the boundaries in her sight. Because flirting is supposed to be fun, nothing else. She is in no way whatsoever obliged to do anything for any guy, not even after a little mutual flirting. She owns herself, no one is her boss.Yes, she is pretty and witty. No secret :-).She's also with you, she wants you to be her boyfriend. If she no longer loves you, she will tell you. These guys are irrelevant.Where ever my wife goes, she attracts attention, 'cause if I may say so, she's sexy and smart. I see guys trying to catch her attention all the time and I am not in the least interested. I know her and I know she won't let them cross any boundaries, not because she is worried about me, but because she doesn't want them to.Confidence is key, confidence in yourself and in your girl.
How do you apologize to someone who will never forgive you at all?
You accept the fact that they do not want to accept your apology (or forgive you) and then you leave them alone. There is something incredibly self-serving and creepy about someone who insists on apologizing over and over again, because the truth is - they really don’t care if YOU are ok, or if they “know” you regret your actions… if you keep pushing for an acceptance, you are showing that you don’t really give a damn about them - you just want to be told that whatever you did is “ok” so it won’t seem like you are a jerk.Some people think that if a person refuses to accept an apology, they are being self-righteous, or just mean … that it isn’t “fair” … which is very judgmental and decidedly ‘unfair’ of them.I agree with Noufa Kisaki, “Because if i want you to accept my apology while you do not want to, it is very selfish and egoistical…” however I disagree with the idea to hug them or give them a gift - because to me that seems like trying to coerce forgiveness.The thing is - whatever you did that you feel you should apologize for, was done without their consent. Otherwise you would have no reason to apologize. They did not have a choice about being hurt or offended by your actions. And you do not have a choice (or control of) whether or not they will accept your apology.Sometimes, our actions have consequences that are more significant and more permanent than we anticipated. Accepting that somethings are not going to be forgiven is a lesson many of us have had to learn, some of us more than once.