I hate my dad, he's so strict?
Ehmm oka first off im 18 years old(Im the weird dude.... uknow), anyway u definitly should NOT run away. When I was younger I easily got really really mad, and a lot of things kept nagging me, like deutsch, which I just finished after 5 years(hated it) and so on, but at some point I just learned to accept it, and get on, because once im done I can do whatever I want. Now Ive also been playing with the thoughts of running away to another country so that I can feel free, and really be one with life, but again, I can always do those things once I am done. Now, this is my last year in college (A-subject are Math, Biotechnology, Physics and English) so once im done with school, I can do whatever I feel like. Iknow this is probaly what EVERYONE is gonna tell you, but just hang in... Also if I were you I would confront him, now it is pretty late here (midnight, gotta get to school in a couple of hours), so I really dont bother giving you a big explanation, but to make it short - Confront him, tell him that you dont wanna study 3 hours a day, when you dont have any homework, and that you are doing your homework when you get it. Also, this is the part where im gonna be brief(tired) - 3 hours a day helps you memorize, but not your ability to comprehend and analyse material... Its just common mistakes... I mean, just like people think "fat" = zits, which it isnt, as zits is seen in connection with increased amounts of testetorone in ones system, and that "fat" only shows an increase aggresivement in the apperance in zits... So the testoterone is why teenagers have more zits than elder people(hormones....).. Anyway gl, if you need it, then I can make a more detailed explanation.... Sorry for bad spelling - tired. PT: About the "hang in" thing, last year i met 8.00 at school, got off 15.40, and had an average of 20 hours of homework every week.... So yah... I know how its like when school gets crazy.... PS: As beautifull as ever :)
How do I deal with a strict Arab dad?
I believe we should respect our parents. There have been things I didn’t tell my parents when I was an adult. If you are underage you need to listen to them and hope to make compromises.You need to remember your Mom and Dad are the two people that love you most in the world. When they are strict they really believe they are doing what is best to keep you safe and happy. You can’t find fault with that.So try your best to make them happy and try to compromise with them. If you are young then you need to make them look at you like an adult so act like one.
What is it like to have a very strict dad?
I'm a proud daughter of a very strict dad. My father was in navy and I along with my siblings has been brought up in a very strict and disciplined manner. We all used to hate it then especially when teenage hit us one by one. Our father became our imaginary enemy who would restrict us to have any fun whatsoever. We all thought how cool other dads are. Then we all grew up and with our own experiences we realised how lucky we are. My childhood memories of my dad are about his insistence of maintaining strict timing of everything so we were never late for anything because not following instructions meant punishment in the form of jumping ropes 500 times or running with him early morning which we all loathed..... Bathing daily even during harsh winter mornings was another such ritual. Not going out without breakfast was also a rule. He would lock the door and won't let us out till we finished it. This rule was in place even when I got married and I visited. All in all he was a strict dad but believe me though it's my personal experience but I know because of this strictness only I'm a disciplined individual who understands the importance of time and exercise daily and eats nutritive food. These are only few examples I could write but my dad's personality is such that I can write a book about him. He's the most strict but absolutely loving and affectionate dad. This is a rare combination and I'm a blessed daughter. We never needed friends. He was always there to share our sorrows and joys. He used to read bed time stories. But when teenage came I never appreciated his restrictions but when I got little more mature I started appreciating his concerns but though he was strict we never grew apart even during difficult times and I'm sure he made sure of that. He never let go of the connect. He's a man of very few words but he's an amazing listener and always encouraged us to pour our heart out. I'm blessed to have him as my dad. All this is my personal experience but I think strictness has to be balanced with love and affection.
Strict military dad?!?!?
Hey I'm a 13 year old girl almost 14( next month) and I think my dad is very strict! He is a USMC Veteran has a lot of rules and if I break them I'm grounded for at least a week. Here are a couple Of his rules. - be in bed at 9 pm, lights out at 9.30 on weekdays - curfew on the weekends is 9 PM and bedtime 10.30 pm - I always have to replie with yes sir, no sir (sometimes very embaressing when my friends are around) - if my chores aren't done perfect I have to do them again and he adds a couple. -I can't even hang out with my guy friends. - I'm not allowed to wear a mini skirt, shorts, or tank tops outside of the house. -Being told "sit and do not move" is a frequent order. "You can have any friends you want. However if they are to be in MY home they must act right and be respectful. I will not be disrespected in my own home by a child." That is an actual rule! Friends also coming over will not mistreat any of the other children or pets in my house. Dont get me wrong, I love him to death and he is an amazing, hard working Dad. But in my opinion these rules suck! What do you think?
How to deal with my STRICT muslim dad?
my dad broke the radiator by putting things on it she never said anything to him at all! and then i was leaning on it and it broke and my mum slapped me then she kicked me my mum & dad hate me wearing any clothes that are nice that look tight or that are just plain tops or any tops that show any flesh when i tell my dad to turn off the music he puts it louder and even has the tv on my dad used to hit my mum and smoke but he stopped smoking and he sometimes screams at my mum but obviously i dont let him so he screams at me mostly and my mum was about to run off when me and my brothers and sisters were little because he was really violent but he grabbed her and promised he would change but he hasnt and my mums been scared ever since and she wont leave him she has nowhere to go or no money and my dad has thrown me and my sister and mum out the house and even grabbed my arm and when my brother took us inside my dad started screaming at my brother. dad says he will hit me if i change the answering machine or change the channel. Im not allowed out anywhere at all! im always at home and only allowed out with my sister and ive never been out with friends and im not allowed to talk to any boys but i have friends as boys in school. he starts moaning non stop if i put any english channels on he starts shouting if i dont open the door when he never gets up! my mum worries when he will retire .. everyone does he says i look like a monkey & have horrible hair & i have a big nose & not to smile because i have braces :/ he says all sort of things to me and my sisters. hes never supported me ..i only see my dad in the afternoons and weekendz and thats all he is in my life ..torture! he always screams at me for no reason. they talk about me like im not there. They annoy me and call me names. when my mum tells me to paint my room but i by mistake get paint on the hairdryer she says she feels like choking me. ill end up killing myself if things dont get better
I’m in college and my strict dad still doesn’t let me go to my boyfriend’s house. What should I do?
There are fathers who see marriage as a property transfer. This goes back to the days when grooms were much older and there was an uncomfortable echo of the father-daughter relationship in the man and wife relationship. Most of these fathers do not approve of their daughters even having a boyfriend… she is supposed to go from being her father’s property to being her husband’s property.If that is how he is, things will only get worse… he will make sure that you marry someone who would be just as controlling and much more likely to be emotionally and physically abusive. Does this sound like your family? If it does, please try to see a counselor to help you get your bearings… preferably one who is not as rigid and conservative as your father.
How do I deal with my strict Orthodox dad?
It depends how old you are.If you're a minor, unfortunately there's not an awful lot you can do. Sit him down and ask if you can talk candidly with him. Tell him you don't enjoy the way your relationship is progressing with him and you want to fix that and need his help to do that.Ask him what it is about TV he's against, ask him his reasoning. I haven't watched TV in a while and the lack of advertising in my life has allowed me to start seeing good effects. I spend much more time being of value to the world than I ever did in front of the TV.Ask him why he's against you having friends over. Does he not like your friends? Does he think they're a bad influence?You need to make him understand that his trying to control you, even in the name of protecting you or whatever reason he has, is pushing you away. It's damaging the bond between you and driving a wedge between you.You need to be able to open up to him, confide in him and trust that he's got your back and if you can't do that, he's never going to know who you are, nor you him.Perhaps write him a letter. Tell him you desperately want to have a bond with him as your daughter but he needs to let you be you and needs to let you have thoughts and opinions without cutting you off and trying to control your experience.If you can't make your case this way, then all you can do is ride it out until you leave home and can live by your own rules.
What should I do? I just told my strict dad that he should allow me to experience the world in my own way, and he should stop using harsh words on me, he couldn't handle the truth so he got angry and now he's not speaking to me?
There are a lot of factors that I don’t know that would shade my response to this question, including how old you are & what sorts of things your father says to you & what sorts of restrictions he puts on you. First, do some self-examination. What are the harsh words your father says to you & does he have a point? Even if he’s expressing himself poorly he might be identifying real shortcomings on your part. If he is, acknowledge to him where he has a point but tell him how it makes you feel when he says certain things to you.As far as restrictions he puts on you, try to understand why he puts them on you. Tell him why you think he put these restrictions on you and explain what it is that you want to do that his restrictions are preventing. Try to offer reasons why what you want to do is good and useful. And try to propose compromises that will allow you to do what you want while addressing his concerns.When you have these conversations, listen carefully and try to understand what he’s saying and why he’s saying it. Then respond accordingly.Keep your cool. The more you can argue with him in a reasonable and logical manner, the more he will respect your maturity and the more freedom he will grant you.