Help, my mom is depressed.?
My mom and dad got in a divorce. Its been a whole year, all she does is cry and listen to depressing songs. my dad is getting married to some wierd lady and my mom found out. all she does is sit around and mope and smoke. I love my mom to death and i want to help her. is there anything i can do. my mom is acting kinda phsyco: whenever me and my sister go over to my dads house , she always ask about my dads girlfriend. what can i do, all the depression is rubbing off on me
How do I help my mom who has depression?
I'm really sorry you are having to deal with this, depression in the family effects everyones lives. At the moment it seems you both need alot more help than you are getting. I really won't give your mom any positive criticism at all she is in a really bad place at the moment and its not her fault. Depression pills take time to work , has she been taking them or long enough? If she has been on them a long time perhaps she ought to go back and change her meds. if these don't seem to be working. You are right sitting at home crying is not going to help her but she can only do things very gently at her own pace. Is there a mental health support group she can join,or if she cant go out there are lots online which will support her. Also there are lots of battling with depression books out there which she might be able to read, you can get them really cheaply second hand from Amazon. She needs to start doing something or anything to start her road to recovery. If she can get out of the house even to walk around the block that would be a start and any form of exercise would be beneficial. Also, you are under an awful lot of pressure at the moment to basically looking after yourself and caring for a sick parent so you need to spend time looking after yourself too. If you can join a support group or make sure you have a support network of friends who you can talk too. Remember you still need to live a bit as well. Things well get better.
My mom is mad at me because i'm depressed?
In life I've learned that it is important to surround yourself with the right kind of people. Those that love you, care about you, want what is best for you, and support you in any way they can. It doesn't benefit you to be around someone that is going to tell you that you drag them down or that makes you feel like a burden. It's only the start of more bad and hurtful words to come. I have lived feeling this way for most of my life because the people around me always made me feel like I wasn't good enough for them. They would constantly point out my flaws and tell me I was a bad person, and it eventually got to the point where I was extremely suicidal everyday of my life. I found that it really helped for me to be on my own. Meaning away from all the negative people that hurt me over the years. Sometimes the people that love you really hurt you the most, and that's why you need to leave. In your situation, knowing what I know now, I would leave, whether to go to father's house or NY. I can't make the decision for you, but it seems like you really want to be in NY since you're saying that is where you feel you need to be.
MY MOM IS DEPRESSED AFTER DIVORCE? HOW CAN I HELP?
ok so after 9 years of marriage my mom and step dad are getting a divorce. and my mom as been really upset latly and he moved out of the house. but how can i get her to see that when she was with him she was always complaining that he was in a bad mood. and that he was allways bosing me around or yelling at me and my mom. he was almost never home, he was either working or at the gym and when he was home he would just sleep and he used to do drugs and now we can never go on vacation because he has these meeting so he doesnt get back on drugs..... which he does stroides anyway. and today my mom was crying that she is tied of being alone, he moved out about 5 months ago, and i only see him about 1 a month because he doesnt bother to text or call me, why cant my mom see what an a$$ he is. she said today the she rathers be with some guy who is always in a bad mood than be allone working every day and not having a break. is there a number that she can call that people well help her get over him because she is always upset and he already told her that i dont want to be with you. she should see that he is such an a$$ that after all she did for him he still doesnt care. OK THANKS FOR EVERYONE WHO READ THIS! AND NO RUDE AND ANSWERS!
My mom is depressed because of melasma?
What can I do to help her? I tried making her feel comfortable in her skin but she can’t do it. She tried every treatment possible and she thinks she’s never going to get “better”
Please help. i think my mom is depressed. ?
I think my mom might be depressed and I don't know what to do or how to help her. Some background information is my step dad passed away last year of pancreatic cancer. We were both so sad when he died but she still seemed ok. But lately she has been not acting like herself. She goes to work, makes me dinner and then goes to sleep. She has always been a great mom, the best actually. She still asks me about my day and obviously care about me, but I can't explain it, it's not the same. I can feel her sadness and it feels so heavy. Earlier tonight when i walked into her room i noticed her eyes were really puffy from crying. I don't know what to do because it's just me and her now. I don't know how to help her. I love her so much and it feels so painful to me that she is so sad. Please don't tell me to find another adult to talk to because I don't know of any other adult that i want to tell this to. How can I help her? I'm also 15 so I can't drive myself or her anywhere or do anything like that.
What should I do if I think my mom is depressed?
Hi.You 2 are not children. It’s very sweet and kind of you to not want to offend your mother. My guess id because you are both so caring and careful that you won’t be offending your Mom if you talk to her about what you notice. The household is no longer run by just her. You have your lives and maybe that’s making her get into a depressed state, It happens. Sometimes in life you feel like your not of use and you might never find your way again to a good life with purpose. Of course it could be a million things and you are guessing that she’s depressed.I think you and your sister must tell your Mom what yu are noticing. Tell her how much it causes you concern. I’m sure you’ll tell her how much you love her. It’s not fun or nice to be treated the way you’ve been but you know she can’t help it.So… Let’s make a plan. What do you all including Mom think might be a beginning to get her into better shape slowly of course and with your support.Therapy? Sounds reasonableMedication? Maybe. It works for a lot of people.A membership to the gym? Or a walk a day plan. Exercise always makes one feel better. Just for having done it.A job? A new job? Just a thought.Plans with the two of you. This will remind her how much you love her and she should/will be grateful!Depression is not an easy fix. Any one of these things is not going to work overnight or even at all. Time is needed and patience on everyone’s part. These goals are to help her through, She has some work to do, Snapping at you guys has to stop. Getting more comfortable in her self and life however that happens is her job not yours.Talk, talk, talk, Even if she gets offended at least you care and are on her side. Work out the issues. And be reminded that you have so much going on in your busy lives as well and you need her to support you too and be involves as much as she can in her depressed state. She’ll rise to many occasions.Make sure that she does agree to some of the above or suggestions that you might come up with. Love her. It’s so sweet that you are close and want to have a good family. When you Mom takes it out on you, say this is your issue right now Mom please don’t take it out on me. Don’t forget that I care about you but this does not make it easy.Best of luck. Tell your Mom that I am jealous! My kids are grown and away.CK
I think my mom is depressed. What should I do?
She very well could be, but at this point you need to take care of yourself. I experienced having a depressed mom and it was horrible. Understand that your mother's happiness is NOT your fault, and unfortunately it is not something you can 'fix'. I recommend helping where you can and even if she doesn't recognize it, just KNOW that you helped, and that as bad as it is/she thinks it is you DID make it better. She might not ever realize it but you will and you will be better off because of it. Spend time with friends, especially with healthy families so you can get some perspective. Also with your sibling, don't let your moms perceptions come between you. I imagine that she has a lot of pressure in her life from this too and you two can either choose to be each others' best friends or just drift apart...it's better if you can be a team. I'm sorry that you are experiencing this, I know it is painful, her pain doesn't have to be your pain...and your escaping that prison could help your sister find a way out when she's old enough to realize it too. You are important.