Guy friend with girlfriend keeps pestering me for sex, help?
ok, so i have this friend and he lives in a different country, and so whenever he comes over me and my friend go hang out as you do. i didnt even think of him in that way and i didnt think he thought of me like that but since he's gone home he's been pestering me on msn asking me to have sex with him next month when he's back over, he has a serious girlfriend back home but says that he doesnt see me always or something equally dumb, anyway. its just, i kind of feel like im overreacting a bit but its made me feel like he thinks i'm really cheap, and wonder why he isnt like this towards my other friend (i know cos i asked her) just wondering if anyone has any advice, i dont want to loose him as a friend but whenever i change the subject he gets annoyed and starts going well do you not like me and such. any help appreciated, thankseveryone!xxxxxxx
Old friend(s) keep bothering me?
Mmm... why exactly do you have trust issues? Are you or were you traumatized... or are you a loner because you find it appealing? The biggest mistake is to not confide in your parents. To simply not trust in them... something horrible would have had to take place. I am aware that many teenagers or children dislike or can be annoyed with their parents (not saying that you are, it's an example), but you need to look at both sides. How hurt would they be knowing that their own daughter doesn't confide in them? As for your friend... it seems that she's very hurt. She tried to apologize, and is trying to make things work. The least you could do is reply and tell her what's going on, and then, if you MUST, return to your newly established lifestyle. Now, what do I recommend? I recommend that you don't go through with this new lifestyle of yours. I can't blame you for being mad at your friend. I would have some serious talking with her, and perhaps even lecture her. But when you look at it both ways... you provoked it. She was upset, perhaps she even felt betrayed when you told her that you would rather not be friends with her. And sadly, when one feels betrayed, we often think of revenge or do something stupid. I'm now living with my parents (whom are the people closest to me), and taking online school... and I've lost contact with friends. So you imagine how many friends I have. I don't have any friends, other than my best friend who lives in Sacramento. However, I haven't seen her in months. I haven't gone out with friends for almost a year. I don't like it. Trust me, you won't like it either. You will get depressed if you aren't already. Friends and family are the best people you can have in your life. I am now working to getting back into contact with some friends, just to get out of the house. If your mind has been made up, at least have a good talk with your friend Des to explain some things that she doesn't already know. She deserves that much. Again, my last words of advice are to not go through with it. Living alone in such a world, won't get you anywhere. In life, we have to take chances to trust. Whether it's work, relationships, or family. Sorry for all of the writing. I hope things work out for you in the end. Regardless, in the end it's your choice, and I wish you well; good luck with everything.
How do I keep an old friend from pestering me with her phone calls?
She was never a good friend because everything has always been about her. We live far from each other but she keeps calling me on the phone. Initially I tried to train her to call less by taking a few weeks to return her calls but she just kept on calling and leaving me messages. After that I started screening her calls and she left me messages for 2 years until one day I was distracted and picked up the phone. It was her and since then her phone calls have only become more frequent and I'm sick and tired of finding her voicemails in my phone and also of always having to check who is calling before I answer the phone. I don't want to hurt her feelings but I would like to find a way to get her to at least call me a lot less. Any advice? Thanks.
Got a new phone number, now strangers keep calling and texting me?
You could have transferred ur old number to ur new phone even if it's a different carrier. Whenever you get a new number chances are someone used to have that number. That person's contacts keep calling their old number not knowing it was changed. It's the same with your old number - someone else will get that number. If u didn't give everyone u know ur new number then they'll still call ur old number, bothering the new owner of ur old phone #. When I got a new number I had people's collections calling me. I even had someone from jail calling me. Very weird. I also got some party invites and someone asking if I was having lunch w her for her birthday. Stuff like that happens when u get a new number. Just block them or answer and tell them that it's ur new number and they have the wrong number.
Why don't people keep in touch with old friends after school?
In schools, we may think, we had many friends but if you judge the situation rationally, we had 3- 4 close friends and there were 10- 12 people, with whom we were friendly. The rest, were acquaintances and some, we disliked and some were hated enemies.when a child is under 12, the main criteria for friendship is availability and lack of tension. In simple words, if I am meeting you daily, and if you and I are not fighting, we are friends. The social, class, background, racial factors also function subconsciously. The factors which make someone like and dislike somebody, operates instinctively. It would not be wrong to say, that, for a 8 year old, the entire population is divided into 2 parts, likable and dislikable. Many a times, this likability is mistaken as friendship.As we grow up, many factors, come into play, our personality forms. Many old friends are lost even before we pass school. You are not in touch with most school friends is because you were not supposed to be in touch with them. Now, lets come to the 3 - 4 close friends. They never go away, especially, after the development of social media.In college, the condition a little different. We apply the screening method from very first day. If you are not staying in a hostel, then most of the friends will be from your own department or stream. Sorry to say, but race, teligion and social class also matters (especially in post graduation colleges). The outlook of science and arts students differ and normally they dont become friends (they may have friendly relations)In colleges, the maximum friends you will have is somewhere between 3–4There will be contact with them in the age of social media.Now, one thing I would like to point out-If you have passed school / college, and still have contact with many batchmates, it signifies only 2 things.-You are an escapist and your present life is not going properly. You want to escape into ur school days.Your school life academic results were poor and that left a mark on your personality. You have earned some money and try to wash away that complex by continuing contact with them. In fact you are continuously saying that - hey, i am not a shit, look at me.If your peresent life is going smoothly, if you have guts to face life, if ur mental development is ok, then, you will not have contact with more than 6–8 friends from your student life.
My girlfriend's ex-boyfriend keeps calling and texting her a year after they had broken up, even after she has told him that she has a boyfriend now. Can I call him and tell him to stop calling my girlfriend?
I'm gonna lean away from all these gentle answers that will genuinely turn you into a beta and give you the correct answer.Yes."BUT IT'S HER JOB"Two things: She is YOUR girlfriend. If someone is doing something that bothers YOU then YOU have a right to act. I can't promise she will appreciate your action but there's something people forget constantly... We live and then we die. From the start to the end, we need to do what we must to ensure we are living our best life. If her inaction is the problem, take action. It's a calculated risk.Secondly, most women (not all!) are VERY adverse to confrontation. I have dated girls who would keep things they bought that were broken rather than have to face customer service... Maybe your girl is just not up for the confrontation.I'm VERY open to confrontation. I will solve any problem I can as directly as possible.You can sit back and watch, seething, as your girl talks to her ex which will deteriorate your relationship and likely lead to them screwing... Or you can speak up and do something about it.I almost wish my ex had done that with me. Instead, when she pushed me hard enough at one point, I wandered right back to the ex she didn't want me talking to who was waiting with open le... arms. Arms.
My friend is bossy and controlling?
My friend lydia tries to tell me what to do as if she's my mother and she 1 year younger than me. she keep telling me when to call, when to go on facebook, and when i should pick up the phone when i call her. i ignore her sometimes but she just keeps calling me and bothering me just so i can only hear her talk for two to three hours on the phones. Every time I tell her how rude she is to me and other people she starts to act like a child whining and screaming about how her life is much worse than everyone's else's lives. She is self centered. How do I deal with her. I'm the only friend of hers that talks to her. My other friends just get annoyed by her so they just stopped being friends with her.
Can I call the police if someone keeps talking to me after I told that person to stay away from me?
You can always call the police. The question is: can the police do anything about it?The answer is yes, sort of…First, you need to tell the woman very clearly that she is harassing you and that she needs to stay away or you will call the police. That last part is important. If she continues to bother you after that warning, then you call the police and say the woman is harassing you and will not stop after repeatedly telling her to leave you alone.The police will arrive and they will take a statement. They will talk to you and if she’s still around they will talk to her. Likely the police will suggest to her that she should just stay away from you and if she takes their suggestion, problem solved. Meanwhile, the police will likely tell you there’s really nothing they can do about it (what they mean by this is they can’t press charges and they can’t stand guard around you 24/7 to make sure she stays away from you) unless she’s threatening you, but that if she continues to bother you to call again and you can get a restraining order.Restraining orders are court orders that mandate a person stay away from another person. This usually includes a specific number of feet they have to stay away.If the woman sees you’re serious once you call the police and finally leaves you alone, great. If not, now you have a police report and grounds to go get a restraining order.It differs from place to place, so you’ll likely want to ask the police how to go about getting a restraining order in your area. You may have to go to the police department, the courthouse or both to get it. Either way, you’ll want to ask for a copy of the police report as it will be necessary for you to get the restraining order.Note that if she does keep bothering you even after the police come it may take an additional follow-up call to them to really secure the restraining order. That will show it is a serious problem. At that point the police may even help you take the steps to secure it as they don’t want to keep being called out to a situation they can do nothing about. They know that if you issue a restraining order and she violates it by coming near you they have grounds to arrest her.The police can’t just hand it out, by the way. It has to come from the court order (in other words, a Judge has to issue it). She doesn't have to come to court for it to be handed out either. You can get it on your own.Goodluck!