My mother is partial towareds my brother, it really hurts sometimes. What do i do?
Unfortunately, some parents are not aware of the harm they're causing to siblings when they have a favorite and treat the others unfairly. I understand how depressed this makes you feel. But first, have a heart-to-heart talk with your mother, tell her how it feels and get an agreement with her that when she's doing it you (calmly) will let her know so she can stop. Have a similar talk with your brother and ask for his help. Neither of these may work, but try it. You will have to do all you can to keep your spirits up and to get attention from other mature adults in your family. Good Luck and God bless.
How do I make her feel welcome and at home?
There are many really good answers, the only thing I could add is let her meet some of your friends, so that she might hit it off with one of them, a girl. It would help to have a friend, but don't do it right off, let her settle in, and then maybe have a welcoming party, in her honor.
I try telling my girlfriend she's beautiful, but she thinks she's ugly and I'm just saying it when I don’t mean it. How can I make her believe me?
I'm a girl, and I can tell you right away to avoid Bill Taylor's answer because it comes from an ignorant, sexist old man and it's a load of bull crap. Also avoid posting photos of her on social media because she likely does not want them there, it could upset her and make her feel worse about her appearance if she is already unhappy with it. (even if the caption is full of compliments, like I'll explain in a moment, it doesn't matter.) It's also illegal to use or post images of a person without their consent. The real answer is because most girls have low self esteem when it comes to appearance, some more than others and some are more vocal about it than others. But in reality, there is pretty much NOTHING you can do to change her mind. This isn't to say she'll have the same opinion of herself forever, but she has to realize she's beautiful for herself. And even a thousand men telling her that she's beautiful every day won't do anything but make it worse. If you really want to make her feel beautiful then stop telling her she is and SHOW her that she is. Listen to her, and do it gladly. Care about her passions. Support her. Be there for her- but don't give her advice unless she asks for it. Basically, just show you care. Because telling her she's physically beautiful likely just reminds her of her insecurities. If you show her you love her for her, her likes her dislikes, her personality, it shows that you care about who she really is. Bringing up a girl's appearance all the time and complimenting her only based on her body seems to me like it's all you care about. Not the person inside of it. If you can't truly do that then maybe she isn't the one for you at all. Even though this won't likely change how she feels about her appearance, it shows her she doesn't have to worry about looking like a model because you care about her personality, and the way she looks is just a bonus.
I think about her often?
yes you have to tell her... if she has alot of male friends then she knows how men talk to each other so she may not want the group to know unless you make it clear your in to her
Should someone who is monogamous convert to polyamory?
My fiance is poly. I am monogamous. This puts a real strain on our relationship because she is not happy. My monogamous beliefs prevent me from letting her practice her poly beliefs. Really isn't fair, but I have a hard time with the thought of someone else being "with" her. Sometimes I think about it, and I really don't have much of a problem with it, but then other times I am dead set against it. The part where I actually think about the "act" is where it slices right through me with a knife. Could you give me some opinions and viewpoints? I have heard other people in open relationships that do really good. I'm sure there are just as many that get into open relationships and it falls apart. What can I do to get over the fear of it? How can I be comfortable with a poly relationship? How can I know what she is doing and it not bother me?