How to make friends in church youth group when they're close knit and they might already dislike me?
You should really watch the movie: To Save A Life. (I really recommend it, it has a similar situation also). Never assume what they are thinking of you, the best way is to just be upfront about it without being disrespectful. The purpose of that group is to praise and get closer to God, to help other young people to also be in the path of God. Everyone fits in, don't worry about it, don't try to fit in with them for they are not better than you, they are just young teenagers like you with their flaws and they're constantly learning. Give them a chance, and maybe they shall give you one also. Let God do the work but also do your part in showing interest and being brave about it. - I hope everything goes well. May God bless you always.
What do you do in youth group?
So what exactly do you do in youth group, I was thinking of joining one, and also, how often do you have to go to it because I have other things to do as well, and how many people are there generally in medium sized church's youth group? Also, is it a good way of making some friends, because I go to a very small school and have a couple of friends, but I don't really have much of a social life, so is youth group a good idea? I do get kinda shy and nervous at stuff like this, especially going up on stage, so is it pretty laid back?
My friend recently joined my youth group, but he is not making any friends. I’m a girl, and all my friends at youth group are girls, so how do I help him make friends?
Hello :)I wished I could ask you if you know why he has joined the group? The way you are writing the question it can sound as if he is the only male there?If he is the only male then there could be a number of reasons why he has joined this group.He can appreciate your friendship so very much he likes to be around you and know your friends - but he still feels awkward around the other girls. - If so - give him some time, and he will either begin to make friends, or simply leave the group.He can be in love with you - and wants to be around you at all costs. - If so… Well…. THen it is up to him to either show an interest for the others, or simply be seen as the little awkward one. It is then kind of cute, if also a little sillyHe can be transgender or gay - feeling more comfortable in the company of girls, only he has not “admitted” it to you, and does not really know how to act. Perhaps he is then kind of observing the grup to learn how “girls do”He can want very much to find friends - but he can be shy. Or scared you will think he likes the friendship of someone else better than your friendship and he does not want to hurt you. - In both cases you will then have to be the one to help him. Is it the latter, then it is kind of easy - make a conversation where you “casually” tells him you really like it when your friends are all friends and it would be cool if he got close to some of the others. - If he is shy, then you need to wotk a little harder…Is he simply a shy guy then you can either give him some more time - or if you think he have had the time he should have (!) then you need to dive into your activities a bit. Are you at all doing anything that you know he finds interesting. Because making friends is easiest if one can join an activity. but if everyone are doing nails and he prefers to work with greasy engines then nailpolishing is probably not his thing. You need to be offering him some activity that he can find interesting - and perhaps something you are not too involved in, so he will have to be on his own, not having you “hoovering” him too much.One love!
I'm not making any friends in my youth group at church?
Ugh!! Happend to me!!! It was so bad that I stopped going because I was always sitting by myself! I later learned that all the teens that attended the church did so from very very young, so of course they knew each other and formed there little cliques. It sucks and I don't want you to think there's no hope but I eventually did stop going and just went to the worship service. What DID help alittle though was taking a friend of MY own!! She would come and sit with me and I had company. :)
Should I go to my youth group tonight?
I would defiantly go! Yes, it will make it a bit more difficult if your friends are not there, but this would be a perfect opportunity to make some new friends. I know that sounds like the generic after school special answer, but the truth is, it is easy to become complacent when we are with our friends. And when this happens, we don't want to meet others, we become our own cut-off group. As for you sitting alone with no one to talk to. You are the one who controls that. You don't need to be alone, and it is not because you think you are ugly. Just walk up and say 'Hi'. Try to be as pleasant as possible, smile, shake hands, give some compliments, and don't take offense to things that are intended to be a joke. Find someone who looks like they also need a friend, perhaps you would like to meet that other person who might be sitting alone in the corner... I doubt you are the only one. But make sure to meet people. You can get to know them, and see if their group clicks with you. if not, look for another. But the best part is, if you don't like it there, just go home. Your not trapped. The gates are not barred. You can make that choice. As for your stomach ache. If it is anxiety, that would be something to get over when you are there. If it is more than that, and you truly think that it would ruin your good time there, then I know that I personally would not go. I hope you have fun and make some good friends.
No one at my youth group talks to me?
ok so i am new to this youth group and no one comes up to me and says Hi. There is this one girl at my church and we are kinda friends but when i go there she just kinda hangs out with her friends and doesn't introduce me to anyone. So i am left there standing there like an idiot. and when i go there they know i am there but its like they don't know what to do with me. i try to go up and say hi to people but they are in the middle of conversations and i can't just interrupt them you know? should i just start bringing some of my friends or just keep being ignored and hope someone comes up and says hi?
I don't fit into my church youth group!?
I'm 16 and am a born again christian, I started going to this church and I really love the services and stuff so I joined it. But I don't seem to fit in with the youth at that church. I try to make friends and stuff but I just don't feel accepted, like the whole youth group is divided into cliques and it's hard to make friends. Usually after sunday morning service everyone goes hanging out to the restaurant and no one ever invites me. I feel like just don't belong there, but I really love the services and preachings. I really don't know what to do!
How can I make friends at church?
First of all, you have to get over your shyness and insecurity by not even thinking about it, dwelling on it or even allowing your mind to consider it. You need to get out there and make conversation - anything that comes to your mind. If you think to much about what your going to say, you'll talk yourself right out of it and end up not saying anything at all. And you'll have missed opportunity of getting to know someone or making a friend. Once you get the hang of approaching others and speaking to others without fear, you'll get the hang of it. I know - I had this problem myself a LONG TIME AGO. I was to shy and insecure. I began watching others approach those at church, clubs, amusement parks, school, etc. until I knew if they could do it, then I could. With practice, it became second nature to me, and I now have many friends and have met many people that I have so been very blessed to know. Take it from me, don't think about what they'll think, because for all you know they could be sitting like you wondering the same thing, "what should I say?" "how should I approach her?" "will I sound like a dummy?" Just get out there and say something funny that will lead into a conversation with that person. I've always found that humor is always an "ice breaker" for me.